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    Updated on Jul 15, 2019. Posted on Jan 26, 2019

    40 Gifts To Give Your Tough-To-Shop-For Significant Other

    A gift guide for the bewildered.

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    1. An essential-oil diffuser so they can bring a little zen to their life by choosing precisely what scents bring them to their happy place.

    amazon.com

    Promising review: "I love this diffuser. The scent reaches my whole first floor! I primarily use in a 20x20 room. I use about five or six drops of oil. I purchased for a friend as gift and she loves it too. Easy to use. The beep when cycle is complete is very quiet and diffuser itself is very, very quiet as well." —Gia C

    Get it from Amazon for $22.99 (available in black and woodgrain).

    2. This journal that asks for just one line a day for five years, to create the easiest (and most fun) time capsule they've ever seen.

    Gyan Yankovich / BuzzFeed

    Read our full review of it here.


    Promising review:
    "Beautiful, amazing. My partner and I have each been using ours for two years. Light enough that he takes it with us on all our travels, even backpacking (not me, I watch every ounce). We skip some days but as soon as my mood falters, I get right back to it, sometimes going back and putting in a few entries. It's SO fun to read the ones from last year after I enter the one each day for this year." —Dan

    Get it from Amazon for $9.81.

    3. Or this Q&A a Day journal, meant to fill out ~together~ with your partner, which asks questions like "Where would you like to travel with your partner?" or the delightfully sappy "What does your partner's laugh sound like?"

    amazon.com

    Your partner may not love everything, but they probably love love!

    Promising review: "Expectations: moderate. Reality: blown away. This is a wonderful journal, a great addition to our daily routine, and a painless way to always be engaging in our relationship, finding out new things about each other, and getting an interesting perspective into each other's lives. I would recommend it to everyone. I seriously cannot think of any relationship that would not benefit from it." —S. Kahlon

    Get it from Amazon for $12.29.

    4. A film camera with a charming dose of retro flair, so they can channel their photographic creativity down whatever path they desire.

    Urban Outfitters

    Read the full review of the Fujifilm Instax Mini 70 here.


    Promising review:
    "I’ve really been enjoying this camera. I was delighted to see 'Polaroid blue' again. The blues in instant film take on a quality that resembles tungsten film. They don’t look quite natural; it is a particular blue, but I like the effect. The film size is 54 x 86 mm (2.1 x 3.4 inches), with a picture size of 46 x 62 mm (1.8 x 2.4 inch). The photos are small and quaint, with a white border, and one of a kind! I love doing series of photos on a theme in this size. The lens is wide angle; the film has particular qualities. So the Instax forces a certain perspective, which is what I always liked about Polaroid." —mirasreviews

    Get the Fujifilm Instax Mini 70 from Amazon for $61.66+ (available in six colors) or the Fujifilm X UO Instax Mini 9 from Urban Outfitters for $69 (available in lavender and marigold).

    5. Plus a set of photo coasters they can fill with their favorite images, sure to put a smile on their face with every sip.

    amazon.com

    Promising review: "Love these coasters. Thick glass. Accommodate larger photos than many other photo coaster sets." —JR

    Get a set of four from Amazon for $12.

    6. A "Mates for Life" print to show your boo you're in it for the long haul — and so are these lovestruck lil' guys.

    Uncommon Goods

    Promising review: "I got this print for my girlfriend; we've been together for over three years. We both are divorced and in no rush to get married again. But we both are committed to the relationship and to each other. I thought this print would be a great way to signify that commitment to one another. I didn't opt to have the product framed; when I got it I wished I had! So I took it to a local framing business and they will get it framed for me. I believe one of the employees there is going to order one for her husband as well! Just a great, one-of-a-kind gift." —Kurtisse

    Get it from Uncommon Goods for $30–$100 (available with or without frame).

    7. A Snacksack subscription that can be tailored to gluten-free and vegan diets, because who doesn't love a surprise box full of snacks on their doorstep every month?

    Snacksack

    Promising review: "This is seriously the BEST VEGAN subscription EVER! I bought this for my boyfriend who is vegan and I think he loves Snacksack more than me! Haha. Just kidding. Highly recommend. Snacksack vegan is five stars all the way!" —Tea

    Get it from Cratejoy for $22.95+/month (available in classic, vegan, and gluten-free; use code SMART20 to save 20%).

    8. Or, for the partner with a more refined palate, an oil-dipping spice kit filled with 15 different spices from various regions.

    Uncommon Goods

    Promising review: "This was the perfect gift for my wife who is a lover of dipping seasonings. This kit comes with a great selection of spice and salt varieties and recipes to create unique flavor combinations. This will definitely be a gift to purchase again!" —Dadoo

    Get it from Uncommon Goods for $38.

    9. A portable massage cushion that'll ease the tension in their neck and shoulders after a long day, because all humans adore the gift of relaxation.

    Amazon

    Promising review: "I purchased my first Zyllion on 5/24/2014. My little friend of many years died tonight, 10/13/2018. This wonderful little gadget came to my aid multiple times a day, and never complained. I sat on it, dropped it, lay across it, stood on it — virtually lived on that thing. It's been my go-to pal when I was sore from surgery, from work, from a long day in the yard. Got one for my mom and brother I loved it so much. I have severe arthritis, bursitis, plantar fasciitis, frozen shoulder, joint pain, tight calves, a replaced hip and shoulder. This modest little piece of equipment is phenomenal for loosening tight muscles and relieving pain. These guys are top notch, reliable little beasts. They should be distributed to everyone over 30. I think if used by enough people, they could end wars, mend marriages, and save humanity from itself." —white noise machine

    Get it from Amazon for $49.95.

    10. Or a support cushion for their office chair, if they're always complaining about their back hurting when they get home. Sometimes love means looking out for each other's lumbar regions, okay?

    amazon.com

    It's also a super-thoughtful gift for your office-dwelling pregnant partner!

    Promising review: "This thing is amazing. I was totally not expecting it to be so comfortable, because it was so affordable, but it's just such a delightful upgrade to my supposedly ergonomic office chair. Basically the easiest thing ever to install (snap snap!), with instant relief. I am kind of petite so it just feels like I fit in the chair better now. Fingers crossed one of my coworkers doesn't steal it. Even if they do, I can afford to buy another. So pleased!" —Adri

    Get it from Amazon for $18.99.

    11. A practical and cute phone wallet sure to suit anyone who loves the convenience of having all their essentials in one easy-to-access place.

    amazon.com, amazon.com

    Read our full review of it here.

    Promising review: "Love this case! This is the first case I've had other than an Otter Box and let me say...it's liberating! Love the ease of carrying my debit card and cash and not worry about carrying a purse. Bought this for vacation and will continue to use long after! One tip, I would add a glass protector to your phone and you'll be good to go!" —Kelly F

    Get it from Amazon for $14.99+ (available for iPhone 7 and 8, in five colors); get one for the iPhone X for $18.99 (available in 13 colors).

    12. A cheese board for the significant other who loves to entertain that'll make 'em feel fancy AF — even if they're cheesin' alone.

    "amazon.com

    Cheese is a universal crowd pleaser, don't @ me. (Yes, vegans included!)

    Promising review: "The bamboo is a very solid piece of wood, beautiful in color and function — I've rarely seen a cheeseboard that has specially designated sections for crackers which saves you from cluttering up your table with extra dishes. The size is perfect, large enough to serve several kinds of cheese without crowding. Can't wait to use it for upcoming holidays!" —BookBabe

    Get it from Amazon for $23.99.

    13. An adorable cityscape ring you can customize with the city of your choice — whether that's your S.O.'s hometown, the place where you met, or the location of an event that's significant to your relationship. Aww.

    Caitlyn Minimalist

    Even if they're picky about their jewelry choices, you'll totally win some sentimentality points! The ring measures 6mm to 10mm depending on ring size and city choices. If you'd like a city that isn't currently available on the seller's drop-down list, just email for a custom mock-up.

    Get it from Caitlyn Minimalist on Etsy for $26.25 (available in a variety of cityscapes and in 18K gold, rose gold, or sterling silver finish).

    14. A DNA kit to trace their ancestry, for the partner who's curious to learn more about their family history.

    amazon.com

    They may be picky, but they definitely have DNA! Read our full review of it here.

    Promising review: "Just six months into researching my father's DNA, I found my grandfather's family and figured out who he really was. I wanted to ensure that my information was correct and so I contacted the daughters of the man I believed to be my grandfather's brother and offered to test them both. Their test results confirmed they were indeed our first cousins. I have since been in contact with close and distant family via this newly discovered paternal side and even obtained a copy of my grandfather's family surname book. His absence was even recorded in the book! I solved an 83-year mystery and gained a family I longed my entire life to know about. I cannot be more thankful that these tests are available and that it gives us such ability to solve things that seem impossible." —Coastal Girl

    Get it from Amazon for $99 (or get a more comprehensive DNA test that includes health and wellness information for $199).

    15. A cupholder so they can enjoy their favorite adult beverage from the comfort of their own tub.

    amazon.com

    Promising review: "Got this for the wife. It its solid. I've bonked my head on it, shoulder rushed it, donkey punched and tea bagged this thing and it will NOT fall off our glass shower door." —Captain Spungo

    Get it from Amazon for $13.95 (available in six colors).

    16. And some Wine Wipes to go along with it, because no matter how picky someone is, no one likes red-wine stains all over their mouth.

    "amazon.com

    Promising review: "As a dedicated wine drinker, these are the best invention EVER! They are small enough to fit nicely in your purse or cross-body and they are simple enough that a quick swipe removes all the red! I LOVE THESE!" —Amazon Customer

    Get a compact of 15 wipes from Amazon for $8.75.

    17. A mug that truly speaks to their inner Ron Swanson.

    theteatreasures / Etsy

    Everything but you, that is!

    Get it from theteatreasures on Etsy for $16.17.

    18. A chill getaway to their favorite city or weekend destination — you'll do the booking and they can tell you what they want to do when you get there.

    Groupon

    Check out Groupon Getaways for ~inspiration~ and travel deals in your area.

    19. A matching set of "peanut butter" and "jelly" crewnecks, because the only thing that goes better together than PB&J is you and your boo — and there isn't anyone who'd turn down a comfy tee.

    Iconic Duo

    Get them from Iconic Duo: "peanut butter" for $42 (available in sizes S-M) and "jelly" for $42 (available in sizes S-L).

    20. An Amazon Prime membership, so they can order whatever the F their discerning heart desires and have it delivered the very next day.

    Amazon

    And juuuuust in case you messed up and they already happen to have one, they'll be able to exchange it for an Amazon gift card. Win-win!

    Get it from Amazon for $39 for three months or $119 for the year.

    21. An Aerogarden for the home chef whose ultimate dream is to grow their own herbs year-round but who maybe doesn't have the greenest thumb.

    Macy's / Goodful

    Make their dreams come true with this seriously awesome countertop garden that reminds you when to water and add plant food! Each one comes with Genovese basil, curly parsley, dill, mint, thyme, Thai basil and Miracle-Gro plant food. Read our full review of it here.

    Get it from BuzzFeed's Goodful line, exclusively at Macy's for $189.99 (available in three colors; use code HOME for 40% off).

    22. A fancy ice cream bowl with an adorable heart-shaped spoon, because as picky as your S.O. is, let's be real: Only a monster doesn't like ice cream.

    Bloomingdale's

    Promising review: "Without a doubt the most versatile, durable, and BEST ice cream dish I've ever owned. It can hold a little or a lot, can be used for a variety of other foods (e.g., gazpacho, shrimp cocktail, puddings, fruit cups, etc). But aesthetically, it's one of the most beautiful ones I've seen, and it wiill compliment any table! I use them all the time." —Curtis J. Roth

    Get it from Amazon for $53.09+ or Bloomingdale's for $65 (available in five colors).

    23. This Marshall Bluetooth speaker that'll add an adorably vintage touch to their space and warm the cockles of the heart of *literally anyone* who enjoys listening to music.

    amazon.com

    Promising review: "Great sounding and retro-looking Bluetooth speaker. I've had it about six months now and still love it. I'm very picky on sound and have found this one to be the best Bluetooth (from a sound and aesthetic perspective) speaker around. While it does get loud, it's not meant for a thumpin' house party. For that purpose, you'd likely want to look at some powered speaker options. If you're looking for super clear, great two-dimensional sound with the ability to control bass, mids and highs, this speaker is for you. It also comes with a nice gold-tipped aux cord in case you want to hard-wire it to a device (i.e., Amazon Echo Dot for multi-room music, etc.) and immediately upgrade the sound x 100." —Jimmy

    Get it from Amazon for $184.80+ (available in black and cream).

    24. Gorgeous glasses etched with the city grid of your choice, because they've gotta drink out of something, so it might as well be something pretty and sentimental.

    Uncommon Goods

    Promising review: "I got these glasses for my brother who is incredibly hard to shop for. He's very...particular. I wouldn't have gotten him regular whiskey glasses as I'm sure he has some, but two of these are a set that he could have out for decoration even if he rarely used them. They're very well made. The etching is clear and the glass is thick and durable. Looking forward to seeing his reaction." —Overthinking Gifter

    Get it from Uncommon Goods for $16 (available in 24 city options).

    25. A subscription that sends you a monthly goodie personalized with your pet's image on them, because unless they're a complete monster, no one — no one! — will ever tire of seeing their sweet furball's face plastered everywhere in their home.

    PETure Perfect / Cratejoy

    Choose from PETure Perfect's "Photo Club" or "Pawtrait Club" options to receive one item a month with either a photo or hand-drawn illustration of your pet. Each box contains a main item featuring your pet, plus a pet milestone card and treat recipe card. Illustrations are created by artist with over 20 years' experience, and you can change your picture every three months to switch things up a bit!

    Promising review: "I got the cat portrait box and I couldn't be more pleased. I received a wooden snack/drink coaster with a drawn portrait of my furbaby, some clothespins with her name engraved on them, a cat treat recipe, and a card marking the month and year for photographing my cat. The portrait was amazing! The artist captured her expression perfectly. It's not just a generic cat. It's my cat! Beautiful work! And the clothespins were a nice touch put in to close bags of homemade treats. I live in the US and I received my box from England in under a week for an awesome shipping price. I will definitely be continuing my subscription & telling my friends." —Jesse

    Get it from Cratejoy for $13.99+/month.

    26. A Rent the Runway gift card for the person with cultivated sartorial tastes who hates being tied down to the same ol' things in their closet day after day.

    Rent the Runway

    They can choose from thousands of pieces for every occasion and style that they'll rent for a designated amount of time after shopping the site, the Rent the Runway app, or IRL stores. Fun!

    And read our full review of Rent the Runway Unlimited here.

    Get it from Rent the Runway from $50+.

    27. A mug warmer that regulates the temperature of your coffee or tea so your boo can nurse their drink for hours without sipping an ice-cold beverage. Truly a universal crowd-pleaser.

    amazon.com

    Promising review: "I felt I really needed to give a shout-out to this little mug warmer. I drink a lot of coffee and tea, but I find when I'm working, I'll get sidetracked and next thing I know, I'm faced with a cold cup of whatever I'm drinking and that just makes me unhappy. I bought this hoping, but not expecting anything fantastic. I have now had this for a year and use it it every single day and it has been awesome. No more having to rewarm my drink in the microwave or just plain throw it out. I can't believe how long its lasted. Like I said I use it everyday but it's also on for a good part of the day and works just as good as it did on the I bought it.

    Get it from Amazon for $9.90.

    28. An adorable pin with an explanation for why they're so damn picky about everything after all.

    Towne 9 / Etsy

    Get it from Towne9 on Etsy for $10.

    29. A stunning bouquet of multicolored long-stem roses, because who in the world wouldn't love to stop and smell the roses?

    FTD

    Flowers are a classic gift for a reason, you know.

    Get it from FTD for $25+.

    30. An essential-oil stick that makes for a thoughtful add-on gift for the frequent headache-sufferer in your life.

    Katy Herman / BuzzFeed

    Promising review: "OMG, finally something that works! I've had tension and migraine headaches for around 20 years. I've tried everything: over-the-counter medication, prescription medication, pain injections, going to the chiropractor, etc. This topical oil has given me relief for nearly six weeks now. I've only had two or three headaches in that time and they were mild. I've already ordered more so I have some in my car and at home, and I bought some for two of my friends who suffer from chronic migraines. I would recommend this product to anyone with migraines — it's phenomenal." —Mary D.

    Read one BuzzFeed writer's full review here.

    Get it from Amazon for $10.99.

    31. A "love triangle" rose-quartz crystal for your crystals-loving partner — this one is intended to help maintain a balanced spirit and embrace vibrations of love, romance, harmony, friendship, and kindness.

    Free People

    Each crystal measures 2.25". x 2.25". x 2". and is packaged in a decorative box with a special energy card.

    Get it from Free People for $89.

    32. An extra-fancy toothbrush, since there's nothing more romantic than the gift of oral hygiene.

    BuzzFeed

    This is also one of our BuzzFeed Reviews picks for best electric toothbrush!

    Promising review: "This toothbrush is a beast. The Sonicare toothbrush is a workhorse, there's no doubt about that. If you inspect the back of your teeth you can usually see a small layer of plaque. Well, the Sonicare toothbrush is your answer to the best at home cleaning — after about two days of brushing, my teeth were noticeably cleaner. My colleagues were asking me if I whitened my teeth lol, I can never go back to a manual toothbrush." —Ozzy

    Get it from Amazon for $139+ (available in four colors).

    33. A customer-favorite "massage" wand (😉) that literally anyone with a libido can get behind.

    amazon.com

    Promising review: "All I can say is WOW. I love this thing! I have a lot of sex toys, including a Hitachi — which I used right after this to compare. This Shibari is easily my new favorite toy of all time. It's super powerful but not in the way that can hurt a bit like the Hitachi. Absolutely mind-blowing and got the job done within a minute, literally. I think I discovered a new kind of orgasm. Definitely would buy again." —Amazon Customer

    Read a full review of this product here, and check out more sex toys currently on sale.

    Get it from Amazon for $28.84+ (available in black and pink).

    34. Or, perhaps, this best-selling, quiet and waterproof ~adult toy~, for solo or couples' play rain or shine.

    amazon.com

    Promising review: "The packaging was discreet. I pulled the ring out and showed it to my husband joking around about how it looked small. It stretches... and he needs it to because he is on the gigantic side below deck. So I had never used a cock ring shaped like this. I have a few with a horizontal bullet; this is my first time using a vertical one. I don't see myself ever going back to horizontal. This bullet hit the perfect spot every time. I did not need to move or readjust and neither did he. Who likes having to stop in the middle of things? My husband is good at what he does, I had no complaints. This toy, however, upped the yowzer factor by a megaton. We were both left shaky and blissful. The strength is amazing for such a small little toy." —Cassie Lewis

    Get it from Amazon for $25.96.

    35. A Simple Elephant planner, to help make life a little more manageable for the partner with things to do and goals to achieve.

    BuzzFeed, amazon.com

    This is one of our BuzzFeed Reviews picks for best productivity planner!

    Promising review: "This freaking planner... it's EVERYTHING I needed. I'll let you guys in on how I organized mine. Color coded all 5 goals at the beginning, and then when I was doing something daily, weekly, monthly that served those goals, I wrote that in the corresponding color. So you can glance at a week and say, 'Yes, I'm hitting Goals 1, 2, and 3 but not 4 and 5' or whatever, but that system helps me feel tethered in my daily activities to my bigger goals. I also love the vision board and space for mind mapping. I have severe adult ADHD and am a trauma victim, so I need therapeutic tools (plus meds) to help organize my thoughts, and this planner has thought of everything. Space for journaling at the back — like 60 pages. On each weekly page spread, there's a place for weekly goals (again color-coded to yearly goals), successes, and what I can work on. This is the planner!!" —Kelly Wolfe

    Get it from Amazon for $18.99+ (available in black, blue, and pink).

    36. A bidet attachment for their toilet, because regardless of their tastes, everyone can get behind having a sparkling-clean booty.

    amazon.com

    Read our full review of it here.

    Promising review: "Speaking as a hirsute gentleman, the Luxe Bidet Neo 120 has soured me on pooping in bidet-less toilets forever. It's shown me the difference between rubbing peanut butter out of shag carpeting with a paper towel, and that sparkling clean feeling you get right when you step out of the shower." —Mercury

    Get it from Amazon or Walmart for $34.50 (available in two colors).

    37. A press-and-go tumbler for the S.O. whose obsession with iced tea rivals only their obsession with you.

    Macy's / Goodful

    Just add hot water and loose-leaf tea or a tea bag to the outer chamber, let steep, then fill the inner chamber with ice and press it down into outer chamber, and boom — instant iced tea! The 16 oz. BPA-free tumbler is odor-, taste- and stain- resistant as well as dishwasher-safe.

    Get it from BuzzFeed's Goodful line, exclusively at Macy's for $28.99 (and use code HOME to get 50% off).

    38. A gorgeous ceramic incense holder to take their home-fragrance situation up an elegant notch.

    Free People

    Each jesmonite and brass incense holder is handmade in London and has unique details due to their carefully crafted process.

    Get it from Free People for $60 (available in two colors).

    39. A personalized monthly vitamin subscription, because there's no better way to show the person you love that you want them to stay healthy forever and ever!

    Care/Of

    Read our full review of Care/of, a service that makes taking daily vitamins easy, customizable, and worry-free, here. Why not get one for yourself, while you're at it? A couple that vitamins together stays together...or something.

    Get Care/of products from Takecareof.com starting at $5/month (and free shipping over $20).

    40. And when all else fails, the universal no-fail gift: fun socks! Because you can NEVER, ever have too many socks, especially when they come packaged in a pizza box.

    amazon.com

    Promising review: "I bought the pizza sock box for my girlfriend's birthday. And she loves them so much that she won't even wear them because of how awesome the packaging is. So know I'll be purchasing a second box of them just so she can wear one and collect the other." —Amazon Customer

    Get a box of four pairs from Amazon for $25.99 (available in men's and women's sizes).

    Looking for the perfect gift for any occasion? Check out all of BuzzFeed’s gift guides!

    Allison Krausman / BuzzFeed

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