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    24 Times Women Experienced Subtle Sexism At Work That Will Infuriate You To No End


    We asked the women of the BuzzFeed Community to tell us about a time they experienced subtle sexism, and there were hundreds of infuriating, heartbreaking, and equally important responses. Here are 24 more experiences women have had, specifically at work.

    1. "I accidentally rolled my office chair into — not over — my boss's foot, so I apologized. He responded with, 'Oh, it's okay, I'm always cautious when women are driving.'"

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    2. "My male PhD colleague and I regularly talk at the same events. Everyone applauds him for being a guy talking about feminist theory, and he hardly gets any hard questions after even his most controversial/inaccurate talks."

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    "I get up and talk on feminist theory and get interrupted mid-talk repeatedly, then intensely grilled in the questions. I once had a guy demand I provide a source for the statement, 'Women have feelings just like men.' It's exhausting."


    3. "My sister used to be a waitress and her BOSS, who was a woman, told her and the other female waitresses to be all smiley and give all the attention to the man at the table because he's paying and they’d get bigger tips."

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    4. "I'm a youth director at a church, and any time we have a vendor come in or someone who doesn’t really know the staff, I ALWAYS get asked if I’m the secretary."

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    "I even had one new repairman poke his head into my office and say, 'Oh, I guess this isn’t the Pastor's office,' basing it only off of the fact that I was a woman in my own office."


    5. "I was working retail at a cigarette store when an older guy came in and said, 'Wow, are you old enough to be working here? You look like a kid.' When I ultimately told him his total, he said, 'You know, when someone compliments you, you're supposed to say thank you.'"

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    "I told him, 'I understand you think you're giving me a compliment, but I don't have to accept your comments to make you feel better.' He looked irate and asked what country I was from. I told him I was born in the United States (I'm Asian American). He then mansplained to me that women in this country like to be told they look young and that smiling would improve my overall look."


    6. "I am a teacher who used to be in the military. We had some training, and the trainer asked if anyone knew of any ex-military people. I put my hand up, and so did a male coworker. He was asked if the ex-military person was him (it wasn’t), and I was asked if it was my husband."

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    7. "Male customers would try and mansplain things to me on the phone 'cause they heard a woman’s voice and assumed I knew nothing about I.T."

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    "Even though they got through to third line technical support and they were the ones who phoned ME for help."


    8. "Patients always call my female PA colleagues and I 'nurse' while my male PA colleagues are called 'doctor.'"

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    "And this is despite introducing ourselves to every single patient as a PA and explaining what that means, and after they have met their actual nurse."


    9. "I worked at a cemetery one summer where the girls always got the job to take care of the flowers and the boys mowed the lawn. One day they needed an extra person on the lawnmower and I said I could do it. They said, 'Are you sure you can handle that?'"

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    "They kept asking me all day if I needed someone to take over for me and if I was tired. They never asked the boys that..."


    10. "When I worked as a meat cutter, most of the team were men, including my boss. He suggested that I should wear just a t-shirt and put my hair up in pigtails for NFL Spirit Day. Ugh!!!"

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    11. "We work with criminals and those who use drugs or alcohol, so we have staff who get allocated as 'first responders' just in case anything goes wrong. Every single time they're men, and when I volunteered, they said, 'No, don’t worry, you shouldn’t have to do that.'"

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    "They then proceeded to give the job to my equal...who is of course a man."


    12. "I worked in ED registration and a gentleman wanted to visit someone (pre-COVID). He asked if I could show him the way to the room, and as I was walking him there, he said, 'You walk like you own the place. Don't be cocky, it's unattractive in women.'"

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    ".... Because I knew where I was going."


    13. "One time, I was helping another server. She was struggling and I walked up smiling while she was bringing a table their food and a male customer said something to her like, 'See, she’s smiling, that’s what you should try to do!'"

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    14. "After my promotion, I was called a 'bitch' for requesting a desk in my office by another Department head who had three desks in his office."

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    "I also constantly have men, who technically work either below me or on my level, talk down to me and try to give me orders, especially this one. Kamala Harris inspired me to tell him 'Sir, I’m speaking!' today!"


    15. "When a light bulb blew out in a room at a hotel I was working at, I said I would go change it. A guy working there asked if I knew what I was doing and if I needed help. To change a freaking light bulb..."

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    16. "My old boss would only take advice and suggestions from males. It was subtle because he would nod and smile as you made the suggestion, but he would only follow through with things that male colleagues said."

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    "Also, one time, when I was upset about something that didn’t go right, he asked me what my GPAs in college and high school were. When I told him I got mostly As, he told me he thought so and that I should get used to not doing well. I don’t think he would have said this to one of my male coworkers."


    17. "I used to work in Outside Garden at Home Depot and I got a call to load up seven bags of top soil, actually an easy order. The customer saw it was me, came running over, and said, 'Oh no, darling, don’t get your hair messy.'"

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    "I think it was meant to be nice, but also bye."


    18. "A few years ago, I was dealing with a lot and gained A LOT of weight quickly, and the owner of the store where I worked would constantly ask the manager if I was pregnant, and then the manager would tell me what the owner said/asked and laugh."

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    "I wanted to scream. I was already self-conscious enough as it was."


    19. "I was on a video call with a client when he asked about my upcoming wedding and said, 'You look like you’ve slimmed down, is that for the wedding?'"

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    "First of all, no it’s actually my crippling anxiety not allowing me to eat and second of all, how dare you think it’s okay to comment on my weight??"


    20. "I got told that I didn’t look like I could be a leader in the Navy unless I had a broom or mop in my hand."

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    21. "My former boss used to refer to me and my younger female colleagues as 'girls.' If we ever disagreed with anything he said, no matter how reasonably and calmly we voiced our dissent, we were told, 'You need to stop whining.' (Or worse, 'Stop bitching,' if we were more persistent)."

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    "It got to the point where I honestly believed my voice had an unpleasant character to it and I was constantly trying to modulate my voice, until a more senior female colleague told me he did that to all the women in our department because he knew we would immediately stop arguing."


    22. "I used to work at a fast food restaurant. Once, a customer got his food, and when he left, he immediately called the manager to complain that I didn't smile at him."

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    "Like WTF, dude. We were slammed, I was overwhelmed, you were a dick and you have the audacity to call and complain about ME?"


    23. "I’m 5’10”. One of my male colleagues always comments 'playfully' when I wear heels. Things like, 'Whoa, you shouldn’t be ALLOWED to be that tall!' Or, 'How’s the weather up there?'"

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    "It’s become clear to me that his entire concept of his own fragile masculinity hinges on me being shorter than him."


    24. And "I used to work a job where we made breakfast. One day, my coworkers and I had a meeting with the owner about needing to make sure that we dumped our bacon grease into the big bucket and not into the sink. He looked directly at me and said, 'Your husband is not going to enjoy cleaning out the sink drain because you didn’t feel like dumping the grease out.'"

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    Note: Submissions have been edited for length and clarity.

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