siljabjorkb Born and raised in a small town of 17.000 people in the north of Iceland, I was always a big fish in a very small pond. With high hopes and big dreams I moved to the city for school and work. I study film-theory and work for a film and TV producti...
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      My biggest problem is that narrow minded bigoted and misogynistic e-mail.
      “As for him complimenting her toes and why people are upset about that…sorry…no idea. Steve likes girl’s toes. People should be appreciative when they get complimented. Those that are upset on Twitter I guess don’t get enough of them. Who knows?” “People should be appreciativr when they get complimented” ????
      Oh okay so you harass a talented actress about a physical attribute YOU personally don’t like about her but when you swing around and compliment her for another, in this case weirdly fetish, physical attribute she should APPRECIATE THAT????  Fuck off. Harassment is not synonimous with compliment.

    • siljabjorkb

      Let yourself grieve. Take as much time as you need. Do the things your now ex-partner hated like smoking or eating in bed. Exhaust yourself with exercise, get the blood pumping and exercise the anger and pain away. Avoid triggers that you know might make you upset, at least for a while. It’s vital to cut all communications, stop spying on your ex and sending them Snapchats. Don’t fall ‘in love’ with the next person you see. Have sex when you want with the people you want. Talk to friends and family, watch your favorite movies, indulge in ice cream. Stop talking to your ex, avoid them if you need to. Try to take some wisdom from your relationship - what did you learn from this relationship and the past. Learn to love yourself. Stay strong, let yourself cry. Amazingly enough, you’ll get over this. Eventually.

    • siljabjorkb

      SO many misconceptions:  -That we are uneducated or unskilled, dumb people who just got these jobs to pay for acting classes or singing lessons. We are not all aspiring artist or actors struggling in the big city. Some of us just like the job despite all it’s flaws.
      -That servers and waiters don’t want to be working as servers or waiters. People got to school to become waiters and some people just love serving other people food or whatever. The service industry isn’t like a permanent limbo state between college and a “real” job
      -That all the mistakes that are made in the restaurant are due to the servers lack of competence, interest or skills. It’s not my fault if the kitchen staff messes up an order I wrote in perfectly. It’s not my fault if you don’t like the things I recommended for you or if the food is salty, the drinks are too cold or whatever. Some mistakes are made by the serving staff of course but when someone else messes up in the restaurant it’s usually the servers who take the heat for it.
      -When you order a bottle of wine and I give you a taste of it, it’s not so you can have me fetch another bottle that’s more to your liking. You actually taste the wine to see if it’s spoiled (which happens with every 12th bottle of corked wine). I didn’t open up this 200$ bottle so you could see if you liked the taste or not…And yes, you have to pay for all the bottles you’ve had me open.
      -Everyone should work in the service industry at some point in their lives because it gives you an upfront understanding of how rude, ignorant, unreal, unforgiving and unreasonable people can be. At the same time you also get a glimpse at all the amazing, polite, beautiful and satisfied human beings on Earth that make you realize why you love this job so much.
      -That we don’t get blamed for your stupid order. Chefs are notoriously proud and stubborn people who do not like it when people have crazy demands about their food. Of course this does not include allergies or simple switch ups (a good rule - if it’s not on the menu, don’t ask for it) but when people make ridiculous orders with crazy subs and add-ons, the wait staff normally gets blamed for not “directing the customer into the right direction” or something.
      -That we are all drunkards and alcoholics. Sure we work 2-2-3 and have off days but the service industry doesn’t pay well so most people have second jobs or school to go to (except for the highly trained waiters who go to hotel school or whatever) so we don’t have the money or the time to be drunk all the time. Sure, we’re young and we like to party but on my off days I’m not spending my hard earned tips at the bar - I’m actually doing something with my life.
      -That being a server is easy. It’s not. We’re not lazy or stupid. We have to be on our feet for up to 12 hours, taking orders and demands not only from customers but often from the bar and kitchen staff as well. You have to have the right attitude, the right mind and face to pull this off. We don’t like being yelled at but the customer supposedly is always right. After people leave the restaurant we have to clean everything up, polish silverware and wine glasses making sure everything is perfect for the next day. It’s extremely exhausting and for people who work full time in the service and culinary industry making family and friends can prove to be very difficult.
      -We do not spit in your food. Nor your drinks.
      -When a mistake is made, an order gets messed up or someone accidentally spills drinks on a customer, the server will be absolutely mortified and feel really bad about themselves. Nobody likes making mistakes! So treat your server with the respect he or she deserves and think about how we are all just people with hopes and dreams and lives to live. Be kind and generous - don’t just assume the server doesn’t care or that he or she doesn’t feel bad about what happened.
      -We are just working. This is our jobs, much like some of you wake up everyday and clock in your 9-5. We take our jobs seriously and we like being treated like human beings. We do not like being ridiculed or abused by customers much like you wouldn’t take that kind of crap from a customer at your 9-5 job. We have many people to attend to, thousands of things to remember and the weight of your happiness on our shoulders. We’d like you to know that we are doing our best to make you happy! :)
      -The amount of sexual harassment I’ve had to experience from both sexes is unbelievable. Men get drunk and pinch your ass, say inappropriate things and make fun of me because I’m “just” a waitress. They assume it’s okay for them to treat me that way because their ultimately paying my bills so they treat the restaurant as their own personal playground. Women like to harass female servers just as much as men do but in a different way. They like to be rude and think they’re better than we are. I’ve had to endure verbal abuse from so many women I can’t even count. This one time I’d been working really hard on making this group of people happy after a slight mistake from the kitchen. This one woman attacked me verbally and basically just chewed me and spat me out in front of the whole restaurant. Then she made me get the whole table drinks, a total of ten people, but she would only order one drink at a time because the bar was on the second floor of the restaurant. I had to run up a flight of stairs for each drink, just for her amusement. She was paying for it after all!

    • siljabjorkb

      Iceland:
      Northern lights
      Snow
      Beer/brennivín
      Old books we got back from Denmark
      Turf houses
      Skyr
      Tiny horses
      Swimming pools
      Ice cream for every weather
      Handball (only sport we’re any good at)
      24hr daylight vs 24hr darkness
      Vigdís Finnbogadóttir, the first elected female president and the best person in the world
      Can you make an emoji about getting wasted, passing out in the snow and getting a greasy sub sandwich at 6am in December?

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