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1. A lace teddy boasting a crotchless design with open cups, so your lover can reach all your favorite spots effortlessly.
Promising reviews: "Being a good size 20 was a bit worried that it wouldn’t fit or look good, but how wrong I was! Fits great and I feel great in it. My husbands eyes when he saw me in it and his obvious reaction was just what I hoped it would be. Will certainly be buying some more underwear from you!" —Karen
"Bought this as my man loves my boobs and arse! I didn't think it would fit, but it's a lot bigger than it looks! Well it didn't fail to raise a smile 😉 He told me i looked like something out of a porno! And it didn't fail to please! We loved it so much we've just bought the red. Made me feel really sexy. Thank you." —Georgie G.
Get it from Lovehoney for $36.99 (available in one size that fits sizes 14–18).
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2. A full-body elastic harness that shows off a lot more than you think in all the best ways. The best part about this bondage wear is that its customized to your exact body measurements!
Promising reviews: "LOVE LOVE LOVE the banded harness set and bodysuit. I feel super sexy and confident in these." —Gorillashrimp
"I feel like a hot slut, perfect." —Ethan
Get it from Kevin's Closet 69 on Etsy for $37.95+ (available in 12 colors).
Kevin's Closet 69 is a woman-owned small business based in Houston that creates comfortable and sexy lingerie and underwear.
3. A pair of reusable nipple tassels decorated with sequins for a flashy look that adds a little oomph to your lingerie look.
Promising reviews: "I bought these nipple tassels almost as a joke after a burlesque show I went to. It turned out I absolutely love them. It's such a fun experience to stick them on your breasts and just have fun with it, with a partner or even alone. Sometimes I just entertain myself at the mirror, it's so soothing and joyful to watch wiggly breasts and tassels bounce in every direction, it makes me happy just to think about it. The heart shape is really pretty and the sequins give them a lovely shine that looks rather previous. The fit is great (my nipples are rather small and flat but it still fit perfectly) and they stay up really well while still being pleasant on the skin. The silicone adhesive is very comfortable and durable (I have owned my tassels for over a year and they are still as good as new, I would recommend to apply again the plastic sheet they come with after use to keep it in good shape). If you like playing, dressing up and a bit of mystery this pair is the perfect addition to your collection!" —The P.
"These nipple tassels make me feel really cute and pretty. They are both beautiful and have the potential for silly, giggly fun, given that they are sparkly and you can wiggle the tassels around. I love wearing these on days when I want to look pretty for my dom, and as somebody with some trauma and body issues, it's great for not feeling quite as naked and exposed as I would with bare boobs too. They stick on well and stay there, and remain sticky enough to be used again. They also don't irritate my skin, which is more than I can say for some nipple pasties!" —Ophelia R.
Get it from Lovehoney for $9.99.
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4. An affordable set of four bra harnesses, each designed with a strappy open-cup or cupless look for a simple, but sexy piece that pairs with literally everything.
These bralettes are one-size fits all and adjustable. If you think a smaller option would work better for your body, check out these other strappy bralettes!
Promising reviews: "I love these! I got these for a sexy get away trip! My S.O really liked them and I felt SO sexy. I wear a 40G and fully expected these would not fit and would be uncomfortable. I was wrong! They are easily adjusted and fit with room to adjust if needed." —Curious26
"Omg...I think I started a trend. These are fantastic. It took me a few minutes to figure out how to wear them but once I referenced the picture from my order, it was easy to wear. They are comfortable and fit great." —B
Get it from Amazon for $17.99 (available in two styles).
5. A full-body harness for penis owners constructed from genuine leather with adjustable buckles and an attached cock ring.
The small fits people up to 38-inch waists and the XL fits people with waists up to 54 inches. Check out the rest of the shop for more colors besides pink!
Promising reviews: "Beautiful quality! The pink metallic color in-person is almost more of a reddish pink, but it's quite close to the photo in any case. Highly recommend!" —Emmett
Get it from Mama Leather on Etsy for $220 (available with black or silvertone snaps and in sizes S–XL).
Mama Leather is a Brooklyn-based, queer-owned sex boutique that creates handmade leather fetish wear and accessories
6. A genuine leather body harness set boasting a strappy design with several O-ring attachment points for BDSM and restraint play. Not to mention, it's adjustable for comfort during play!
Promising reviews: "This harness... oh this harness, I am living for this harness set. I never thought I'd find something so strappy and cool looking in a plus size, but SequoiaHarness delivered! I expected to get something passable enough for the show I was doing, figured it would be another situation of everything being on the final possible adjustment point and still far tighter than I'd like, but I was SO pleased to see there's actually so much give and plenty more room to cinch it in or loosen it still depending on my body that day. Worked like a dream, and looked *stunning* on the Burlesque floor. 10/10, I cried because I was ready to accept my body wasn't meant to look good in straps and lace until I saw this bad boy on. <3" —Kelsey Honold
"Highly recommended seller! As for the product itself, it has a nice balance of the leather thickness which gives it a feminine, sexy look without feeling like it is more fit for a dungeon. Really clean work and the personalization option worked out nicely. My wife was surprised at how nicely and beautifully the harness accentuated her body. Recommended!" —Morten
Get it from Sequoia Harness on Etsy for $157.50 (available in sizes XS–XXL, five colors, and also as each item individually).
Sequoia Harness is a family-owned small business based in Ukraine that specializes in handmade BDSM and fetish accessories created with premium-quality leather.
7. A four-piece lingerie set that's perfect for showing off your favorite features with a sheer mesh design on each piece: the strappy cutout bra, matching high-waisted thong, garter belt, and thigh cuffs.
Promising reviews: "Looks phenomenal I actually feel confident. True to color and not itchy. Garter length is adjustable and everything stretched if needed. Little lose on top for me but I am a bit smaller chested." —Trinity
"I was pleasantly surprised by the quality of this piece for the price point! The material felt nice the chains and clasps function really well and there was no odor to the product. I'm 5'4 and 219 lbs, and it fit me really well! I was nervous about the garter situation but it was very flattering. The belt has an adjustable clasp for the waist as well! The thigh pieces were even a little loose on me! Def give this a try!" —Ash Mc
Get it from Amazon for $23.99+ (available in sizes XS–4XL and 26 colors).
8. A body chain designed with a non-piercing nipple ring that's adjustable to help keep your nips erect and perked up for play. From your nipples, it cascades down to your hips for a sexy lingerie look that can't be beat.
Promising review: "I absolutely love this. It is so very sexy and erotic. I love that I can now find nipple jewelry for non-pierced nipples. I wish I had done it years ago because now I'm too chicken to do it. But I love this stuff and I will be purchasing more. Well made and has good weight to it. I like the way the metal feels against my skin. Recommend this seller. And yes, buy this, you will not regret it." —Martha
Get it from Nippleicious on Etsy for $41.62+ (available in three finishes).
Nippleicious is a small business based in the UK that specializes in handcrafted non-piercing nipple jewelry to be worn by anyone — pierced or not.
9. A pair of lace boxer shorts designed with a cutout on the front for your dick and one on the back, so your lover has the perfect view of your best ass...ets.
Promising reviews: "These cutout boxers are a winner for both me and the wife. They fit nicely and hold up well due to a good waistband. The hole at the front which gives OH access to the goods underneath my LH lacy robe (wish they did the robe in white too) is just right. The rear opening is good too as I do enjoy her pushing her fingers inside me and she enjoys rubbing the lace as well as stroking and fingering me at the same time. Coupled with my white lace bra and white stockings and suspenders set this looks and feels lovely. Just wish LH would add other colours to the range." —Anonymous
"Bought these for a bit of fun as I enjoy the feel of lace underwear and have tried the wife's on before. Got these and popped them on, she likes the look of them and the fit, the bonus being her favourite toy has ease of access and she was on her knees in no time... Win win! The open back is fun as well as she enjoys rimming me so it's an extra bit of fun as these can remain on throughout all play for oral and sex. I bought a S/M, 34" waist and fit like a dream." —C&T
Get it from Lovehoney for $19.99 (available in S/M and L/XL).
10. A BDSM-inspired underwire demi bra that delivers the perfect amount of cleavage with its faux leather cups. Take the look up a notch (or two) with the removable and fully adjustable velvet harness!
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11. And if you wanted to take that bra — or other lingerie or even underwear! — up a notch: A pair of 8cm plastic discs designed with a spiked interior to deliver a delectable touch of pain (or pleasure).
BTW, these are designed to be pressed on or have pressure applied to dig into the skin and not for hitting. If you want a similar, but thicker product designed for thwacking or paddling-like impact play, reach out to the seller!
Promising reviews: "What a delightfully painful toy!! My sub hates them. I think they’re an amazing addition to the toy box!! I’ll have her use clover clamps the night before and then wear these for the entire day at work. They certainly have a ‘bite’… Perfect for a discrete punishment!!" —R D
"Holy shit these are incredible. Just the right amount of OW and the right amount of wearability/subtlety/ability to behave normally with them on. I went 'ouch' hand washing them before using them, and 'ouch' when I first pressed one on. I feel very sexy and get really wet with them on my breasts. So basically yeah, super into them. And when you whack one...oh my god. Intense. If you're into light-to-strong-medium levels of pain, you'll like these." —A L
Get a pair from Bondatrix on Etsy for $47.92 (currently only available in gray and black with two pattern options).
Bondatrix is a UK-based, woman-owned small business that specializes in unique BDSM gear and accessories that are perfect for any submissive!
12. An elastic and adjustable body harness made to accentuate your legs and curves with a strappy design and garters.
13. A leather-look thong created with a comfy pouch for your penis and delivers a bondage-inspired look with O-rings and studs. Plus, you can actually use the O-rings during fetish play!
Promising reviews: "My partner is a fan of BDSM and my behind so my eyes instantly fell for this and later my partner's tongue did. The fabric feels so great against my body and the fit is right for sizing here. The thong didn't dig into me and it did indeed bring the devil out in me. It looked fabulous and well the partners reaction would agree." —Peach
"My little lady and I are new to some light bondage with this piece being one of two purchased as an exciting start (cupless harness plus collar with nipple clamps for her). Great quality with a soft, comfortable fit. Nice amount of stretch in the fabric to hold everything in place, easy to slip on and off and looks damn gooood. Very happy." —Paul P.
Get it from Lovehoney for $26.99 (available in S/M and L/XL).
14. A pair of 'X' nipple pasties boasting a studded and pierced BDSM-inspired look with O-rings. (You probably shouldn't hook or tie anything too heavy to them though?)
These pasties are created with silicone, meaning they can be worn for 10 to 12 hours and a simple wipe down with soap and water after each use will have them ready for the next use! Just treat them with TLC and store them somewhere safe when not in use!
Promising reviews: "Love these so much! Amazing quality and makes me feel 🔥. Thank you!!" —Kayla
"Love these pasties. They don’t hurt when taking off and the quality is great. Definitely would buy again." —DeetheformerEmo
Get it from Neva Nude on Etsy (also in red) or Amazon (only in black) for $15.99.
Neva Nude is a woman-owned small business based in Los Angeles that creates pasties, body stickers, and other accessories for your body.
15. An open-cup teddy designed with studded straps for a bold, bondage-inspired look. There's also adjustable garter straps and an open-crotch for easy access during penetration.
Promising reviews: "We loved this! My other half said she felt so powerful and sexy in it. And my jaw dropped when she walked in with it on. It took a few minutes to work out how to put it on but it wasn’t too difficult. We found that if you find the elastic neck collar bit, you could then hold that and the rest would dangle roughly into place. The quality is great and the sizing was a nice fit. It’s quite an elastic material so we could see why they fit more than one exact size. We loved it it looks sexy as hell and gives full access to all necessary intimate areas." —TopLHfan90
"Absolutely love this sexy set, fits really nicely and makes me feel very sexy. My OH says it turns me into a different woman, it certainly helps me lose my inhibitions. It took a bit of working out the first time I wore it but it was soo worth the effort to see my OH jaw drop when I paired it with my high boots and ordered him to MY room. Nice quality and worth the price in my opinion." —Anonymous
Get it from Lovehoney for $30.09 (originally $42.99; available in dress sizes 2–26).
16. A 24-karat gold-plated nipple clamp that follows the happiest of trails down to the clitoris for an extra-stimulating squeeze. This kinky accessory offers a luxe, lingerie-look without hiding your favorite features.
Promising review: "I am just starting to experiment with nipple clamps, but I think I found my favorite. Honestly, other clamps looked a little intimidating but these look like a beautiful piece of jewelry. They're so easy to customize pressure (especially for a novice) and it's nice having the versatility to choose whether or not you want to use the clit clamp. I did notice that the clamp guard did stick to my skin when taking them off, but next time I will try using a little lube beforehand. Overall, I would definitely recommend. I am buying a second pair to give to my sex therapist so she can show them in her practice, especially for newbies exploring pleasure. :)" —L J.
Get it from Unbound for $35.
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17. A full-body BDSM harness boasting adjustable elastic straps with O-rings for restraint play.
Promising review: "OMG!! If you are even thinking about getting anything from this shop, GET IT! Shipping was in discreet packaging, all the straps are easily adjustable, it's super comfy, and you will 100% feel sexy in it. The quality is phenomenal, and it is worth the full price!" —Emma A
"So happy! The packaging was really cute! Who doesn't love a package tied with a ribbon? The harness is great quality and easier to put on than I anticipated. I love that each strap is adjustable for a perfect fit. It has my confidence sky high!" —joyewaters12
Get it from Eve And Shadow on Etsy for $36.60 (originally $61; available in sizes XS–XL and 14 colors).
Naked Eve is a Ukraine-based small business specializing in handmade harnesses and other BDSM lingerie.
18. A bikini-style latex halter top boasting triangle cups connected by a metal O-ring for a sexy, wet look that's an instant confidence boost.
19. A kinky leather-look lingerie set boasting assless chaps and a matching thong decorated with metal studs. BTW, the pouch on the front of chaps is removable thanks to the wonderful innovation of Velcro, so go ahead and be a little rough.
Promising reviews: "These fit really well, and felt nice. She was surprised and loved the look. It's especially nice that you can remove the central pouch and continue without delay. They also look great and add another option to wear them." —bsmiley
"My partner put these on our wishlist and I ordered them to surprise her. I couldn't wait to try them on once they arrived and once I had them on I felt so dominant and sexy, I didn't want to take them off... so I didn't. I just waited for my partner to get home from work. They certainly had the desired effect. She loved them! She didn't know I had ordered. Made me feel dominant, so the look of shock was amazing, but that look soon went from shock to lustful desire. Love them so much, I also brought the smaller size as I had lost weight." —Gjd1978
Get it from Lovehoney for $36.99 (available in sizes S/M and L/XL).
20. A set of disposable pasties in an assortment of designs, so you can pick and choose which one fits your favorite lingerie looks.
Promising review: "I use these for performances, my pole classes, aerial classes, and day-to-day, if I’m worried about a nip slip or want to wear something that’s see through. Love all the variety and the amount you get." —ShillooAmari
Get a set of 25 from Amazon for $9.99+.
21. A strappy full-body harness boasting adjustable and stretchy straps that offers inclusive sizing, in case you've been looking for some risqué lingerie that leaves nothing up to your lover's imagination.
And definitely check out the brand on Amazon if you want more style options!
Promising reviews: "Sexy and fun! Thick yet comfortable straps and many points of adjustment leading to a custom fit. A beautiful piece at a great price. You can easily wear whatever bra and panties you like underneath or go naked if that’s more your speed. A nice piece for those of us who are a little more busty as there's nothing in the harness that will squish larger breasts and make them look deformed. Only quibble is that it can be hard to unhook the straps when it’s time to take off the piece but it’s so sexy and comfortable, you may just want to leave it on!" —K. Taylor
"I’m 5’0" and two hundred and something pounds, and not gonna lie, it’s surprisingly comfortable. It’s more stretchy and adjustable than it looks. I was worried I was going to look like a roasted ham in it but nah it’s just fine. Totally worth the money." —Alexa dejulian
Get it from Amazon for $27.50+ (available in 20 colors and fits M–XXL).
22. A beginner-friendly adjustable harness created with a detachable patent leather collar and elastic straps, making it a great kink starter accessory for anyone!
At its smallest, the collar is 14.25 inches and 17 inches at its longest. The harness is adjustable enough to fit up to size 26.
Promising reviews: "Absolutely in love with my harness! Super easy to put on and comfortable to wear. I wore mine to pole class and got so many compliments! It’s cute with an outfit or by itself if you’re feeling frisky 😈." —Rae C.
"I couldn't wait to try this on. I'd been deciding whether to buy it for a long time, but I am so glad I finally did. First collar and harness I have tried (they are detachable) and I feel so hot. These are great to wear on their own or layer with some lingerie or more strappy gear." —EG
Get it from Unbound for $25.
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