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    Here Are 17 BDSM Collars That'll Choke You So Good (With Consent)

    Note: these collars are for humans and not pets (unless that pet is...human). Now let's get a little kinky.

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    First things first: measure babes.

    1. A basic BDSM collar that does away with bells and whistles, so your partner can focus on admiring your body and not your accessories. But don't worry, the O-ring functions just fine.

    Mannequin wearing black leather collar with silvertone O-ring
    Ape Leather / Etsy

    Fits necks 11 to 20 inches long.

    Promising reviews: "Absolutely amazing!!!! It's super soft and I've actually ended up falling asleep in it a few times because of how comfortable it is! It doesn't rub against my neck strangely at all. It's great, especially for the price!" —Franken

    "The collar is an excellent fit and made of high-quality leather. Every part is expertly crafted and it is comfortable around the neck. I have a fatty neck so if you do as well, this should be a good option." —James Giger

    Get it from Ape Leather on Etsy for $20 (available in three sizes).

    Ape Leather is woman-owned and based in Los Angeles, where they specialize in handmade leather BDSM accessories and affordable bondage gear for the Punk community.

    2. A hand-crafted two-tone leather BDSM collar with an adjustable buckle and convenient D-ring, making it perfect for any pup.

    Model wearing red and black leather collar
    Mama Leather / Etsy

    Promising reviews: "On top of the collar itself being beautiful and very well made, Marco was amazingly flexible and responsive!" —Jack

    "This is an amazing collar, beautiful craftsmanship and color. Owner was super helpful helping me, too." —KS

    Get it from Mama Leather on Etsy for $75 (available in three colors and three sizes).

    Mama Leather is a Brooklyn-based, queer-owned sex boutique that creates handmade leather fetish wear ​and accessories.

    3. An adjustable choker collar handmade with vegan leather for a sturdy strap that's customized to your preference and designed to work perfectly with your favorite leash or collar restraints.

    Model wearing green collar
    Play Vegan / Etsy

    Promising review: "It’s amazing and super comfy, my partner loves it!" —Florian Gray

    Get it from Play Vegan on Etsy for $25 (available in 11 colors).

    Play Vegan is a queer-owned small business based in Tel Aviv that creates handcrafted vegan harnesses and BDSM gear.

    4. A leather collar boasting a comfy faux fur trim. It's subtle enough to pass off as a an edgy accessory, so you can boast your kink without anyone asking questions.

    Model wearing red leather collar
    Oddo Leather / Etsy

    Add a more personalized feel with a custom nameplate!

    Promising reviews: "I just received my collar and it looks exactly as advertised. A beautiful shade of purple, great quality, and everything I was looking for in a collar. The softness of the lining is perfect to keep my neck from being irritated. Definitely would recommend and will be getting the chain to complete the package." —lisaloco11

    "Beautifully made. Supple, yet with enough structure to allow it to be pulled on by the O ring. The fur is fantastic and offers a nice contrast to the feeling of the stiff leather. Very well made, I thoroughly enjoy my training collar and will be coming back to purchase from Alex when it is time for an upgrade." —Kinsley

    Get it from Oddo Leather on Etsy for $36.99 (available in three colors and two sizes).

    Oddo Leather is based in Atlanta where they create handmade leather and faux leather BDSM accessories including collars, gags, cuffs, impact toys, and more.

    5. A holographic collar created with vegan leather for a comfortable accessory that adds some galactic glam to your style.

    Zoe Ligon wearing holographic BDSM accessories
    @shopspectrumboutique / Via www.instagram.com

    This collar is 1.5 inches wide and adjustable from 13.75 to 16.25 inches. There's also a matching leashblindfoldankle cuff set, wrist cuff sethogtiestorage bagflogger, and even pasties.

    Get it from Spectrum Boutique for $25.

    6. A chic BDSM collar created with a chain in the front, boasting a heart-shaped cutout that doubles as a ring for your favorite leash.

    Model wearing pink collar with silvertone chain
    Mannequin wearing collar
    Twin Flames Are Forever / Etsy

    Get it from Twin Flames Are Forever on Etsy for $9.99 (available in 15 colors) or Amazon for $9.98 (available in 18 styles).

    Twin Flames Are Forever creates customized lingerie, jewelry, and BDSM accessories.

    7. A very discreet submission collar that can also be worn as a chic necklace or choker.

    Woman wearing goldtone o-ring necklace
    Collar Amor / Etsy

    This delicate collar is created with sterling silver and also available in gold and rose gold finishes.

    Promising review: "I LOVE this necklace. I've been wearing it nonstop the last few days. Collared myself and it feels so good! I love how dainty and discreet it is." —Sarah

    Get it from Collar Amor on Etsy for $59.99 (originally $79.99; available in four lengths and three finishes).

    Collar Amor is based in Rhode Island and designs discreet BDSM collars.

    8. The Power Play collar by Honey Play Box, which has a textured vinyl design and comes with a matching leash, so you and your Dom(me) or sub are ready for play.

    Model petting other model in pink collar and leash
    Model wearing black collar and leash
    Honey Play Box

    Get it from Honey Play Box for $21.99 (also available in black).

    Honey Play Box is a sexual wellness company in California run by a group of sex educators and self-proclaimed lesbian meme queens who are passionate about all things pleasure being positive, inclusive, and accessible.

    9. A faux snakeskin restraint harness boasting a collar, wrists restraints, and D-rings along the back so you can add as many restraints as you please.

    Model wearing red restraint harness on the front
    Model wearing restraint harness on the back
    Lovehoney

    Promising reviews: "The faux snakeskin restraint harness feels like a quality product. I half expected it to be flimsy but it is substantial, with good hardware and a convincing texture. The picture shows it as a behind the back restraint but I wear it in front. The cuffs feel and look high quality, too. They feature brass finished lobster clasps. If the harness is worn front ways, you can clip and unclip yourself from the rings — a good safety feature. Did I mention that it is very comfortable to wear?" —Anonymous

    "I absolutely love this little harness. Not only is it versatile in how it can be used/positioned, but the quality is just divine. It can be hard to find nice faux-leather bondage, and this set is just excellent. The deep red of the faux snake skin and the gold hardware look so opulent, while also being sturdy for rough play. I highly recommend" —Mackenzie G.

    Get it from Lovehoney for $59.99.

    10. A thick BDSM collar designed with bold letters to customize with whatever word, pet name, or derogatory term you want (as long as its 10 letters or less).

    Black collar with word 'custom' on it
    Mannequin wearing white collar with word 'slut'
    Naughty Brit / Etsy

    This collar is adjustable from 11 to 15 inches, but the seller can customize it for you if necessary.

    Promising reviews: "Super high quality, better than I expected! absolutely beautiful craftsmanship and fit comfortably! Beyond delighted, since I've wanted one for years. Seller gave me everything I asked for 💜☺️. Will purchase from here again~! Can't tell you how relieved I was that it came in discreet packaging too." —Mewy Mongoose

    "I'm a bigger person. I was worried this wouldn't fit me. But no, it fits me perfectly! Two ticks in and it fits me just fine! Leaves some marks on my neck but I don't mind that at all. Very shiny, very pretty. Suits my style and I adore it — thank you. <3" —Chrissi Duckett

    Get it from Naughty Brit on Etsy for $29.99+ (available in four color options with either a buckle closure or buckle with padlock).

    Naughty Brit is based in Los Angeles, specializing in customized BDSM gear and accessories.

    11. simple collar elevated with two silvertone chains that lead to tantalizing crocodile nipple clamps to tease and please.

    Mannequin wearing black collar with attached nipple clamps
    Lovehoney

    The collar has a hook-and-loop closure and is adjustable up to 18 inches.

    Promising review: "The hook and loop of the collar doesn't irritate your neck and the collar fits nicely. It doesn't look super fancy but it definitely gets the job done. Because it's velcro it can be adjusted to exactly what you need, unlike buckles.

    The nipple clamps exist within other sets, but when connected to the collar they're even nicer to pull on. They have a part you can twist to adjust the tightness, meaning they can be tight enough for beginners and people used to nipple play. My main advice with this would be rather than taking them immediately off after play, loosen them slowly, unless you are specifically looking for pain when taking them off. The rubber keeps them from being too harsh, but they can easily still cause soreness from the pinching of them.

    These are a cheap option but very effective, and as long as the description sounds appealing, they'll probably give you exactly what you're looking for. The main thing to note is the chain isn't detachable, so will always be joined to the collar." —CatMan22

    Get it from Lovehoney for $12.99.

    12. A unique BDSM collar created with durable jute rope and a carrick bend knot at the base of the throat.

    Model wearing jute rope collar
    Damn Good Rope Company / Etsy

    Size options for this collar range from 12 to 20 inches long.

    Promising reviews: "I love this collar! It is a little rough, but in the best way possible. I got mine tight and it’s still very comfortable. I love the clasp and the quality. I will buy more colors, but the dark pink is beautiful." —Wendy

    "The choker nestled came in a gorgeous tied box. It fit perfectly! As it is hand done rope, it was a little scratchy in the beginning but I soaked it in a bit of fabric softener and water and now I can’t get enough of it!" —Brittany Feldhake

    Get it from Damn Good Rope Company on Etsy for $33.95 (available in eight colors).

    Damn Good Rope Company is based in Massachusetts where they create a variety of hemp, jute, and nylon rope products and accessories.

    If you like this, then definitely check out this list of artisan and hand-crafted sex toys.

    13. A chic velvet collar that comes in an assortment of styles, one of which is sure to match your vibe whether you want a simple bow, bells, or a padlock. Truly, whatever makes your kitty purr.

    Reviewer wearing pink collar with bell
    Reviewer wearing black collar with white padlock

    This collar is adjustable and 19.5 inches long.

    Promising reviews: "This collar is my go to accessory. I wear it whenever I get girlie. It is made out of a super soft material and the best thing is it is plus size friendly. I weigh 260 and it fits comfortably with plenty of room to spare. It is heavy duty and won't break or rip easily for you more adventurous couples. I took the bell off because it is super noisy so maybe not suitable for daily wear in public unless you take the bell off. Quality product right here." —Juniper Thompson

    "If I could, [I'd] give this a 100 stars. I got the black one with the red bell. The quality is perfect. If you want something that look fabulous, your significant other is going to love it so much. My Husband was so turned on by this collar. It will spice up your bedroom. Please get this collar. I am going to get different colors." —Lee Jones

    Get it from Amazon for $10.99+ (available in 45 styles).

    14. A discreet stainless steel day collar designed with a Celtic knot — to symbolize eternity, love, or friendship — just above the O-ring.

    Silvertone day collar with Celtic knot and O-ring
    Captive Collars / Etsy

    The chain is available in lengths from 15 to 24 inches.

    Promising review: "Beautiful necklace! This is the second one I have bought for my wife, I highly recommend this company." —Martin Pennington

    Get it from Captive Collars on Etsy for $85.51+ (available with five clasp options).

    Captive Collars is a woman-owned small business based in Wisconsin and designs hand-crafted BDSM jewelry, day collars and morse code bracelets.

    15. A customizable bowtie BDSM collar that adds a dapper flair to your fetish wear.

    Model tugging bowtie collar
    Play Vegan / Etsy

    Get it from Play Vegan on Etsy for $35 (available in 11 colors).

    16. A beginner-friendly adjustable harness created with a detachable patent leather collar and elastic straps, making it a great kink starter accessory for anyone!

    Mannequin wearing black harness and collar
    Model wearing harness and collar
    Unbound

    At its smallest, the collar is 14.25 inches and 17 inches at its longest. The harness is adjustable enough to fit up to size 26.

    Promising reviews: "Absolutely in love with my harness! Super easy to put on and comfortable to wear. I wore mine to pole class and got so many compliments! It’s cute with an outfit or by itself if you’re feeling frisky 😈" —Rae C.

    "I couldn't wait to try this on. I'd been deciding whether to buy it for a long time, but I am so glad I finally did. First collar and harness I have tried (they are detachable) and I feel so hot. These are great to wear on their own or layer with some lingerie or more strappy gear." —EG

    Get it from Unbound for $25.

    If you're new to all of this, definitely check-out this round-up of beginner-friendly BDSM accessories.

    17. A faux leather choker collar that comes with its own heart-shaped padlock and key, taking your sub aesthetic to a whole new level.

    Reviewer wearing black collar with padlock
    Reviewer wearing black and pink collar with padlock

    The collar is adjustable from 12 to 15 inches.

    Promising reviews: "Great thickness of the collar, boyfriend says it’s comfortable, truly a good collar for keeping your sub in line. The rings on the back allow for a leash to be attached for extra fun. I might just buy another for myself." —Jay L.

    "I am super happy with this choker. it’s thick, durable and super cute. I was pleasantly surprised with the quality and appreciate its weight. It is super adjustable which is awesome because I have a relatively small neck. Don’t settle for cheaper chokers, this one is worth the money!" —Bob

    Get it from Amazon for $33 (available in 10 styles).

    Sure, you could get a cheap choker just for aesthetics...or you can grab one of these that'll hold up to all your favorite kinky fuckery.

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