I too couldn’t breastfeed my first child.. I had complications right after birth and milk wasn’t coming out lol. I had the nurses hound on me and try to get milk to come out. I was weak, tired and frustrated to see my little guy cry for food and they wouldn’t give up. They sent a lactation consultant and that didn’t work..After I went home, I had a nurse come visit a few times and she gave me a pump to try out. That didn’t work either. That’s when I decided to give my son formula. A couple months later, I went to see my OB for a check up and he asked if I was breastfeeding. I told him no and he is like ‘Oh, I’m so sorry’. I just looked at him and said, ‘that’s okay!’. My son is now 2 going on 3 and he is just as smart as other kids, healthy and overall a normal toddler. I don’t know why they make such a big fuss about breastfeeding and formula. Yea, I wish I could have experienced it but that didn’t make me less of a mother or feel less of a connection with my child. I’m having another baby in a few months and hopefully I can produce something this time around and if not, then so be it! There are too many people out there that follow all those baby books to a T and think it’s the only way to raise your children. I just look at them and think : my mom was a teenager in a 3rd world country with no money to afford prenatal care and I turned out fine! Same with my grandmother! She brought 4 children into this world without all that fancy shit lol..