21 Things Your White Boyfriend Needs To Hear According To Twitter

The hashtag #DearWhiteBF was started yesterday to open up a candid discussion about problems that women of color encountered when dating white men.

Twitter user eeyore began the hashtag #DearWhiteBF as a way to start a conversation about the difficulties of dating a white male as a woman of color.

1. Here’s what the WOC of Twitter had to say:


#DearWhiteBF don't try to defend your family and friends' racial microagressions to me

— Ally Ang (@Allyy_Ang)

#DearWhiteBF don't try to tell me that racial preference (i.e., liking Asian girls) is harmless. "Preferences" don't exist in a vacuum.

— Ally Ang (@Allyy_Ang)

#DearWhiteBF I am Latina, but not hot food. Don't call me spicy.

— Natasha Vianna (@NatashaVianna)

#DearWhiteBF "babe they're just kidding. don't be so sensitive" Is not an appropriate response to racist/misogynist comments

— usagi (@femmen0ir)

#DearWhiteBF I am not your "half-Korean girlfriend"

— middle finger emoji (@humancity)

#DearWhiteBF, dont tell me to "calm down" or "not let it get to you" or "not be so angry" when I experience racism that you never will.

— Nocciola Nazgul (@deluxvivens)

#DearWhiteBf I'm not your "experiment" or "fetish"

— Misbehaving Somie (@YouHateLooon)

#DearWhiteBF no, you cannot refer to my skin as a certain type of food. you will get fucked for referring to me as your "chocolate queen."

— i woke up like dis. (@xMissTanisa)

#DearWhiteBF don't tell me because you are Irish you experience more racism than I do.

— Bookworm McKinky® (@Tipsy_princess_)

#DearWhiteBF being with you doesn't transfer your privilege. I still fear the police even when i'm with you.

— Bookworm McKinky® (@Tipsy_princess_)

#DearWhiteBF Can I date your grandparents instead? At least they're openly racist.

— The Token Somali (@caaliyo91)

#DearWhiteBF i love you a lot but man that subtle deeply ingrained racism that blips here and there still makes me sad

— ivan deathmetal (@CRIMELIKER)

#DearWhiteBF you still can't say the n word, regardless of how long we've been together

— Halima (@Amilah09)

#DearWhiteBF I got sick of explaining that no two African countries are the same. Your experience of Nigerian culture is not applicable here

— Congolesa Rice (@judeinlondon)

#DearWhiteBF, a year teaching English in Asia doesn't make you any more understanding or cultured.

— Grace Jung (@aechjay)

#DearWhiteBF I might invite you to join something from my culture but that does not mean it is yours.

— Mandee (@amandajp801)

#DearWhiteBF, please understand that I you dont get cred for dating a WOC nor does your family

— Corvus (@brachyrhynchos)

#DearWhiteBF don't call me exotic. I'm not a bird that you saw after walking in the zoo. Neither are we your sexist colonial fantasy.

— Darakshan (@DarakshanRaja)

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