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21 Things Your White Boyfriend Needs To Hear According To Twitter

The hashtag #DearWhiteBF was started yesterday to open up a candid discussion about problems that women of color encountered when dating white men.

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Twitter user eeyore began the hashtag #DearWhiteBF as a way to start a conversation about the difficulties of dating a white male as a woman of color.

Let's talk about the unique challenges of trying to date/love a WM.

eeyore@kirikokikuchi

Let's talk about the unique challenges of trying to date/love a WM.

01:42 PM - 23 Jan 14ReplyRetweetFavorite

@brachyrhynchos is #DearWhiteBF clear enough do you think?

eeyore@kirikokikuchi

@brachyrhynchos is #DearWhiteBF clear enough do you think?

01:52 PM - 23 Jan 14ReplyRetweetFavorite

1. Here's what the WOC of Twitter had to say:

#DearWhiteBF, "I AM NOT EXOTIC I AM EXHAUSTED" by Yto Barrada is one of my fav art pieces for a reason.

eeyore@kirikokikuchi

#DearWhiteBF, "I AM NOT EXOTIC I AM EXHAUSTED" by Yto Barrada is one of my fav art pieces for a reason.

03:22 PM - 23 Jan 14ReplyRetweetFavorite

2.

#DearWhiteBF, when you tell a WoC she's complaining for no big deal, YOU are the one doing the complaining without warrant whatsoever.

sui generic@cheuya

#DearWhiteBF, when you tell a WoC she's complaining for no big deal, YOU are the one doing the complaining without warrant whatsoever.

05:48 PM - 23 Jan 14ReplyRetweetFavorite

3.

#DearWhiteBF - "You're not like other brown girls" and "You're so different from white girls" are not compliments. Stop comparing women.

Bhaswati Chattopadhy@BhaswatiChat

#DearWhiteBF - "You're not like other brown girls" and "You're so different from white girls" are not compliments. Stop comparing women.

04:20 PM - 23 Jan 14ReplyRetweetFavorite

4.

#DearWhiteBF don't try to defend your family and friends' racial microagressions to me

Ally Ang@Allyy_Ang

#DearWhiteBF don't try to defend your family and friends' racial microagressions to me

03:34 PM - 23 Jan 14ReplyRetweetFavorite

5.

#DearWhiteBF don't try to tell me that racial preference (i.e., liking Asian girls) is harmless. "Preferences" don't exist in a vacuum.

Ally Ang@Allyy_Ang

#DearWhiteBF don't try to tell me that racial preference (i.e., liking Asian girls) is harmless. "Preferences" don't exist in a vacuum.

03:27 PM - 23 Jan 14ReplyRetweetFavorite

6.

#DearWhiteBF I am Latina, but not hot food. Don't call me spicy.

Natasha Vianna@NatashaVianna

#DearWhiteBF I am Latina, but not hot food. Don't call me spicy.

03:18 PM - 23 Jan 14ReplyRetweetFavorite

7.

#DearWhiteBF "babe they're just kidding. don't be so sensitive" Is not an appropriate response to racist/misogynist comments

usagi@femmen0ir

#DearWhiteBF "babe they're just kidding. don't be so sensitive"
Is not an appropriate response to racist/misogynist comments

03:00 PM - 23 Jan 14ReplyRetweetFavorite

8.

#DearWhiteBF I am not your "half-Korean girlfriend"

middle finger emoji@humancity

#DearWhiteBF I am not your "half-Korean girlfriend"

03:00 PM - 23 Jan 14ReplyRetweetFavorite

9.

#DearWhiteBF, dont tell me to "calm down" or "not let it get to you" or "not be so angry" when I experience racism that you never will.

Nocciola Nazgul@deluxvivens

#DearWhiteBF, dont tell me to "calm down" or "not let it get to you" or "not be so angry" when I experience racism that you never will.

02:43 PM - 23 Jan 14ReplyRetweetFavorite

10.

#DearWhiteBf I'm not your "experiment" or "fetish"

Misbehaving Somie @YouHateLooon

#DearWhiteBf I'm not your "experiment" or "fetish"

04:12 PM - 23 Jan 14ReplyRetweetFavorite

11.

#DearWhiteBF no, you cannot refer to my skin as a certain type of food. you will get fucked for referring to me as your "chocolate queen."

i woke up like dis.@xMissTanisa

#DearWhiteBF no, you cannot refer to my skin as a certain type of food. you will get fucked for referring to me as your "chocolate queen."

04:13 PM - 23 Jan 14ReplyRetweetFavorite

12.

#DearWhiteBF don't tell me because you are Irish you experience more racism than I do.

Bookworm McKinky®@Tipsy_princess_

#DearWhiteBF don't tell me because you are Irish you experience more racism than I do.

04:19 PM - 23 Jan 14ReplyRetweetFavorite

13.

#DearWhiteBF being with you doesn't transfer your privilege. I still fear the police even when i'm with you.

Bookworm McKinky®@Tipsy_princess_

#DearWhiteBF being with you doesn't transfer your privilege. I still fear the police even when i'm with you.

04:34 PM - 23 Jan 14ReplyRetweetFavorite

14.

#DearWhiteBF Can I date your grandparents instead? At least they're openly racist.

The Token Somali@caaliyo91

#DearWhiteBF Can I date your grandparents instead? At least they're openly racist.

06:00 PM - 23 Jan 14ReplyRetweetFavorite

15.

#DearWhiteBF i love you a lot but man that subtle deeply ingrained racism that blips here and there still makes me sad

ivan deathmetal@CRIMELIKER

#DearWhiteBF i love you a lot but man that subtle deeply ingrained racism that blips here and there still makes me sad

06:10 PM - 23 Jan 14ReplyRetweetFavorite

16.

#DearWhiteBF you still can't say the n word, regardless of how long we've been together

Halima@Amilah09

#DearWhiteBF you still can't say the n word, regardless of how long we've been together

02:41 PM - 23 Jan 14ReplyRetweetFavorite

17.

#DearWhiteBF I got sick of explaining that no two African countries are the same. Your experience of Nigerian culture is not applicable here

Congolesa Rice@judeinlondon

#DearWhiteBF I got sick of explaining that no two African countries are the same. Your experience of Nigerian culture is not applicable here

02:58 PM - 23 Jan 14ReplyRetweetFavorite

18.

#DearWhiteBF, a year teaching English in Asia doesn't make you any more understanding or cultured.

Grace Jung@aechjay

#DearWhiteBF, a year teaching English in Asia doesn't make you any more understanding or cultured.

03:39 PM - 23 Jan 14ReplyRetweetFavorite

19.

#DearWhiteBF I might invite you to join something from my culture but that does not mean it is yours.

Mandee@amandajp801

#DearWhiteBF I might invite you to join something from my culture but that does not mean it is yours.

04:07 PM - 23 Jan 14ReplyRetweetFavorite

20.

#DearWhiteBF, please understand that I you dont get cred for dating a WOC nor does your family

Corvus@brachyrhynchos

#DearWhiteBF, please understand that I you dont get cred for dating a WOC nor does your family

02:08 PM - 23 Jan 14ReplyRetweetFavorite

21.

#DearWhiteBF don't call me exotic. I'm not a bird that you saw after walking in the zoo. Neither are we your sexist colonial fantasy.

Darakshan@DarakshanRaja

#DearWhiteBF don't call me exotic. I'm not a bird that you saw after walking in the zoo. Neither are we your sexist colonial fantasy.

07:39 PM - 23 Jan 14ReplyRetweetFavorite