We asked the BuzzFeed Community to tell us what they wish they'd known before having an orgy. Here are the helpful results.
1. Orgies are never what they look like in porn, so don't stress when yours turns out differently.
2. Shit happens, literally, so if there's a chance you're going to have anal sex, make sure you douche properly beforehand.
3. Don't do something you're not comfortable with. If you don't want to be double-penetrated or jerked off or kissed, say so.
4. Stimulation overload can totally occur, and it's not always fun, so don't be hesitant to take a break if you need one.
5. Understand that partaking in an orgy doesn't always mean you'll be having sex.
6. Definitely use safe words.
7. Don't let your defined sexuality get in the way.
8. Don't get inside your head about what other people are seeing, doing, or thinking. Nobody is judging you if they're there too.
9. You'll know pretty immediately if the orgy is a right fit for you, so trust your gut.
10. Ask yourself if you're going to approve of the orgy in a week, a month, or even years down the line.
11. If you're feeling left out, make sure you communicate that. After all, you're in charge of your own experience at an orgy.
12. Don't assume condoms will be provided. Always bring your own.
13. Always know your STD status and the statuses of those around you.
14. Figure out if you're actually comfortable with watching your partner(s) fool around with other people.
15. Recognize that consent is just as important and legitimate, no matter how many people are present.
16. With that said, you should always do consent check-ins before you start.
17. People are awkward and bodies are weird, so it's 100% OK to laugh during the experience.
18. Being in an orgy means you might not be attracted to everyone, but try not to let that ruin the whole experience for you.
19. Make sure you (and the other people involved) actually want to have group sex.
20. And of course, understand that orgies will be a lot messier, smellier, and exhausting than you'd ever expect.
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