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1. A padded U-shaped seat to keep your tush extra comfortable and it's fit for a queen, which is to say that it's meant for two things: rimming and cunnilingus.
2. A simple ball gag that gets the job done while providing a soft silicone material for you or your partner to sink your teeth in.
Promising reviews: "I’m currently wearing this thing. I always want to try things out before sharing. I can’t say a word. Can’t scream. Nothing! I do seem to be drooling a lot though." —Bob
"I love this gag! It's not hard like other gags but still firm enough. I like that the silicone extends to the sides of the mouth/connect to the straps, as ones I've had prior have the straps continue through a slit in the ball and skin often gets pinched by those designs...This one, however is phenomenal! Super comfy, the straps are good, quality, leather and strong buckles. The only con I have when cleaning it is trying not to get the soft suede on the interior of the straps wet, as it starts to damage them if not dried quickly." —Keg
Get it from Amazon for $10.89+ (available in two sizes and three colors).
3. A breathable ball gag designed with adjustable straps for comfort and...um, "communication" between partners.
Promising review: "It’s a present sent by my boyfriend. I really like its size and function. Good quality overall! 5-star rated! Will consider purchasing it next time." —Pattie Z.
Get it from Honey Play Box for $12.99 (available in black and pink).
Honey Play Box is a sexual wellness company in California run by a group of sex educators and self-proclaimed lesbian meme queens who are passionate about all things pleasure being positive, inclusive and accessible.
4. A unique, soft and silicone gag designed to make you drool...literally. 🤤
Promising reviews: "This gag blew me away. It is the perfect size, so beautiful and comfortable, and does exactly what it says it does :) I'm so thrilled with this and all of my purchases from this shop, will definitely order again!" —Hannah O' Connor
"This drool gag is so beautiful, both the gag itself and the leather strap. it feels so nice in your mouth and honestly can be worn as a cute accessory as well." —ramonasaurus rex
Get it from Godemiche on Etsy for $55.19 (available in 19 colors) or on their individual site for $46.86 (available in 64 colors; btw, price is in Pounds, so make sure to convert!).
Godemiche is a UK-based, family-owned small business that specializes in vibrant handcrafted sex toys and BDSM products.
5. A vibrant gag bar from Unbound just begging to be drooled on by anyone curious enough to dip their toes into restraint play. Gag bits or bars are less restrictive than ball gags and allow for easier breathing and speech, making them a great alternative for just getting started.
Promising reviews: "I got this with the matching handcuffs and I'm a fan! The silicone part is great given what it's used for, the velvet ties are nice and strong quality. The blue pops and looks just as good in person as it does online." —Bree
"This is amazing! Ball gags are always too big for me and metal ring gags hurt my teeth, this is perfect! I was afraid the silicone would be a thin layer over a metal bar but its not! The whole gag is silicone making it so soft and comfy. <3" —M
Get it from Unbound for $39.
6. A flexible vibrating butt plug that'll sync to the beat of your favorite songs, mimic your own custom patterns, or buzz along to user-created vibration modes already on the app.
Supple, body-safe silicone offers a waterproof exterior and a flared base helps the plug stay put.
Promising reviews: "Exactly as described, and exceeded expectations. This is a great buy for individual’s who seek self satisfaction. This (Multi Pattern Vibrating) plug is also a fantastic idea of fun for couples who look to spice things up a bit. Personal Care Products couldn’t get any better. Extremely happy with this purchase, and look forward to purchasing more products by this brand." —William Gardener
"We have had a great time with this. I bought the largest and it took a bit to get used to it. We are a couple of states away from each other and he has had a great time setting me off while I’m at work or doing things around home. The vibration is very intense at the highest setting and at the lowest just keeps you on edge. Being made of the material that it is, you have to keep it clean and let it air out, so it doesn’t smell if you get any fecal matter on it. Definitely recommend!" —JayyDee
Get it from Amazon for $89+ (available in four sizes).
7. A 5-inch penis candle by Agreeable Agony created with blacklight wax, so you can enjoy some fluorescent wax play with your lover.
Sensation play that also allows me to burn a dick? Count me in. Remember, the closer it drips, the hotter the wax!
Not a fan of dicks? There's also a vulva version of the candle!
Get it from Agreeable Agony for $12.95+ (available in three styles and 15 color options).
Agreeable Agony is queer-owned and run by a group of kinksters and artisans who create handcrafted bondage gear and accessories, including floggers, sex toys, rope, wax candles, and more. Their mission is to further educate customers on kink and its communities.
8. Or a pitcher of UV / blacklight reactive wax in rainbow colors that warms to the touch for a sensual and visually exciting massage or foreplay addition.
The wax in the pitcher melts at 124–126 degrees F, so it's recommended to increase or decrease the distance you pour from. A pour spout offers easy application, and pro-tip: let the wax melt and pool before blowing the candle out and then drip.
Get them from Agreeable Agony for $32.95 (available in standard and UV).
9. A satin blindfold to elevate your solo or partnered sesh by heightening and relying on your other senses for some semi-mysterious sensation play.
Promising reviews: "Surprised my OH with this one date night. Haven't really tried bondage and stuff like that so this and some nipple clamps we got were a good start. Made the sensations more intense and the fact she didn't know what I was going to do drove her crazy. Fun, easy way to spice it up some!" —Colorado C.
"I love a blindfold so much but some let you down if they are uncomfortable. This one is so comfy to wear and when positioned right neither me or my husband could see a thing when wearing it. We both love to be blindfolded because it heightens the pleasure, I would always recommend using one." —TheaD
Get it from Lovehoney for $7.99 (available in three colors).
10. A reversible satin blindfold you can neatly tie into a bow whenever you want to enjoy a little kinky sensory deprivation.
The tie is 59 inches long and 2.8 inches wide, allowing versatility as a blindfold or restraint.
Promising reviews: "Looking to spice things up a little bit? This will work: it's soft, easy to tie, hard to see through, and didn't bother anyone wearing it. Very sensual." —msaonika
"I wasn't holding my breath, but this is decent quality for $5, it's comfortable for both my partner and me. My partner's head is a bit larger than mine, so I was worried it wouldn't be big enough to wrap around. It's light enough that you won't get warm but accomplishes its purpose of not being able to see through it, for the most part. Getting more to use for restraints, since they're so long and comfortable 😏" —Peyton Cheyenne Fitzhugh
Get it from Amazon for $6.99.
11. A versatile bed restraint system that includes four adjustable cuffs and restraint straps that fit underneath your mattress, so you can be immobilized by your lover with comfort.
Promising reviews: "I absolutely cannot say enough great things about these straps. They are versatile, discreet, convenient, extremely durable, well-made, and a ton of fun. Highly recommended for anyone who loves to spice things up in the bedroom." —AB
"These are very good. Wasn't sure if the velcro would be strong enough, but it was! She loved them and I loved them. If you are looking for a great addition to fun in the bedroom I highly recommend getting these." —N. W.
Get it from Amazon for $47.99.
12. A pair of extra soft and sensual bondage restraints with pre-looped twists, so all you or your lover have to do is slip them on and start to play.
Promising reviews: "Bought these a while ago for tying up, obviously. They do the job well and can be used on both ankles and wrists as well as tying to other things.... like a bed. The perfect thing about these is that they are no clinky like cuffs and don't have noisy Velcro that could give away any goings-on..." —Explorer1
"I was hesitant to be tied up and was pleasantly surprised by these. We just tied my wrists to the bedposts on the headboard, and they worked well. They’re soft and satiny enough that they are comfortable to have on and don’t leave rough marks on your skin. Our bedpost is thicker which didn’t work the best with them as they are kind of short. This wouldn’t be an issue with a thinner post to tie them to though! Definitely a basic must have for the price." —Tayls
Get it from Lovehoney for $9.99 (available in three colors).
13. A 75-foot roll of bondage tape to help you immobilize or restrain your lover — and the best part is that it only sticks to itself.
Promising reviews: "Only have used it once but was very fun when I did. I like that it only sticks to itself, so no pain if it touches hair. The bright color makes for nice photos if that's something you are interested in." —Stephanie
"This tape is a lot of fun. It adheres to itself but not to skin so you don't have to worry about having a bunch of tape residue stuck to your skin. Since you have to make sure the tape comes in contact with itself to stick, taping sometimes requires a few wraps. It could easily be used in place of a blindfold for example or to tie hands." —Sky Etkin
Get it from Amazon for $9.22+ (available in three colors).
14. A convenient two-piece BDSM kit to get you started featuring Unbound's Tether tape and Orion cuffs. This petite pack offers two very dependable options for gift-wrapping your lover.
Promising reviews: "The tape was super easy to use! My partner really enjoyed themselves and stayed completely comfortable yet restrained the entire time. If you like using duct tape or other around the house items, switch to this! It's fantastic." —Lauryn A. (on Tether)
"Honestly, I didn't even realize orgasms could be altered by your position until these babies. Love the color, comfort and accessibility. I wish there was a longer extension for alliterative locations." —pame c. (on Orion cuffs)
Get it from Unbound for $42 (originally $52).
15. Orrr, a set of holographic faux leather cuffs that adds an intergalactic vibe to your NSFW apparel before you and your lover take things out of this world.
These lightweight cuffs are adjustable up to an 10" circumference and there's also a matching collar, leash, blindfold, ankle cuffs, hogtie, storage bag, flogger, and even pasties. See the entire collection here.
Get them from Spectrum Boutique for $22.
Spectrum Boutique is a sex-positive retailer run by self-proclaimed "Dildo Duchess" Zoe Ligon to provide customers with curated collections and resources.
16. A uniquely shaped vibrating cock ring by Fun Factory with rabbit ear attachments to stimulate your lover's clitoris with each stroke during PIV.
Or, use it with your fingers to finger your lover or wear it during a blowjob for added stimulation to the perineum during oral. The vibrating component boasts two motors with four settings and a "flirt" mode.
Promising reviews: "The shape is perfect for my penis, and she quite enjoyed the vibration. Very soft to the touch and super easy to use. Highly recommend." —Anonymous
"This is great for amping up intercourse for both the wearer and his partner. I definitely need lube to get it on and off as it is rather tight on me. Once on, it is comfortable and stays in place. We have several Fun Factory toys, and while expensive, have always been impressed with their quality and functionality." —Anonymous
Get it from Lovehoney for $99.
17. A portable, modernized bondage cross that offers leverage to your favorite BDSM scenes and kink play or makes a very contemporary accent piece when not in use.
18. A strappy full-body harness boasting adjustable and stretchy straps that offers inclusive sizing, in case you've been looking for some risqué lingerie that leaves nothing up to your lover's imagination.
Promising reviews: "Sexy and fun! Thick yet comfortable straps and many points of adjustment leading to a custom fit. A beautiful piece at a great price. You can easily wear whatever bra and panties you like underneath or go naked if that’s more your speed. A nice piece for those of us who are a little more busty as theres nothing in the harness that will squish larger breasts and make them look deformed. Only quibble is that it can be hard to unhook the straps when it’s time to take off the piece but it’s so sexy and comfortable, you may just want to leave it on!" —K. Taylor
"I’m 5’0" and two hundred and something pounds, and not gonna lie, it’s surprisingly comfortable. It’s more stretchy and adjustable than it looks. I was worried I was going to look like a roasted ham in it but nah it’s just fine. Totally worth the money" —Alexa dejulian
Get it from Amazon for $35.50+ (available in 14 colors).
19. A full-body harness for penis owners constructed from genuine leather with adjustable buckles and an attached cock ring.
The small fits people up to 38-inch waists and the XL fits people with waists up to 54 inches. Check out the rest of the shop for more colors besides pink!
Promising reviews: "Very soft and comfy! It took me a minute to find the right adjustment but once I did it fit like it was made for me." —Brian
"Several vendors sell harnesses all over the place but there are only few that go out of their way to provide you with a service of creating something for you, rushing it to your location and following up to make sure you're satisfied. Shop this merchant with HIGH confidence!!!! The harness is OUTSTANDING! The look, feel, smell and fit are all perfect. I wear a large and the large fit perfect with room to go up or down. The hardware is top notch! The color is better depicted, its literally perfect! Opening it was such a gift and along with your purchase you get the most warm hearted HANDWRITTEN thank you note from Marco. I just loved everything about this purchase, I am sure you will too!" —Serg Garcia
Get it from Mama Leather on Etsy for $220 (available with black or silvertone snaps and in sizes S–XL).
Mama Leather is a Brooklyn-based, queer-owned sex boutique that creates handmade leather fetish wear and accessories
20. Or a vibrant vegan leather harness designed with a strap that attaches to your favorite cock ring for a full-body style.
This harness has adjustable straps that offer a customized and comfortable fit.
Promising reviews: "I have been wearing this all day. It is very comfortable. I wore it under my clothes and walked 5 miles without any chafing. It works great with a 2 1/4-inch stainless steel cock ring. Love the way it looks and feels!" —Dan
"Super high quality harness!!!! Finally something that is gonna hold up to the stress!" —Clay Wallace
Get it from Play Vegan on Etsy for $90 (available in 10 colors and sizes S–3X).
Play Vegan is a queer-owned small business based in Tel Aviv that creates handcrafted, vegan harnesses and BDSM gear.
21. A faux fox tail butt plug designed for tugging and teasing, with the option of choosing between a lighter silicone plug or a metal plug for added weight.
The fluffy tail is removable, so you can change butt plugs and sizes for training or texture, whatever you need.
Promising reviews: "It took a while to ship which I knew from the onset. Well worth the weight beautiful lush and plush tail. Inexpensive for the quality. My new favorite tail, thanks." —Diana
"Oh my god I love ❤️ so much it stays in and this fox tail feels amazing" —Jon Wright
Get it from Vuzara on Etsy for $39.99+ (available in three sizes and silicone or metal).
Vuzara is a Michigan-based small business that creates realistic faux tails with detachable butt plugs that help fantasy become reality.
22. An innovative training set to help you ease your way into the world of pegging or anal play with a supple silicone 6" vibrating dildo, a strap-on, a harness, a vibrating anal plug designed specifically for beginners, and two wireless remotes to control the vibrations from afar.
So, you want to try out pegging, eh? Well this bundle has it all, and both the beginner's anal plug and dildo vibrator can be controlled with wireless remotes. You can choose one of several different dildo options; the various shapes and designs let you pick exactly what kind of pleasure you want to deliver to your partner.
Get it from B-Vibe for $179 (valued at $250; available in black and fuchsia with 4 different dildo options).
B-Vibe is a premium collection of tech-forward anal play products founded by certified sex educator Alicia Sinclair.
If you want to start out with something more beginner-friendly or check out more options, here's a list of the best strap-on harnesses and dildos.
23. A discreet wearable egg vibrator that won't clash with your favorite lingerie and will get you off with seven vibration modes and or personalized patterns using the Bluetooth app. A wearable vibe is a great intro to mutual masturbation and even power play because doing chores and getting a little buzz in your vagina would be...startling to say the least.
The ergonomic egg shape means this discreet vibe stays put, so you can wear it out and about (if that's your thing) and control the vibrations effortlessly from your phone. No one would suspect a thing and with a five-hour battery life...this toy can probably outlast you.
Promising reviews: "App works great super powerful and quiet. All I had to do was send an invite to my bf and he instantly was able to connect and control this thing. AMAZING!!" —Rachael M.
"I use mine on Chaturbate mostly. Connects super easily, which was something I was worried about. The app is easy to use and this device works great for me on Chaturbate. Super comfy, sometimes I forget I have it in." —Vallaria
Get it from Amazon for $129.
Check out this round-up if you're interested in more wearable vibrators that'll have you buzzing!
24. A versatile bondage board, so you can play out your favorite BDSM fantasies wherever and whenever (that it's legal of course) before simply folding it up and out of sight until next time.
25. A pack of two cotton ropes, both 32 feet long. This rope is "multipurpose" so it's good for a lot of things, but many Amazon reviewers and I want you to know that it's a *great* alternative for shibari rope and tying up lovers.
Promising reviews: "As a dom, comfort for my sub is very important to me. These were very soft and easy to work with held knots well and looked amazing to boot. And best of all, they leave wonderful little rope kisses on my sub that allow the mind to wonder for hours after a session is over." —Jon
"For the amount of rope you get for this price, it's unbeatable. This rope was soft to the touch and during our session not once did she complain. I wouldn't recommend using this rope to hang off anything, but definitely good for wrapping around the body." —Mack
Get it from Amazon for $9.99 (only available in red and black duo pack).
26. An ultra-soft bondage rope by Emojibator with Funfetti rainbow colors and 26 feet of length.
This rope is made of hypoallergenic and sustainable bamboo silk, so it's safe for anyone with allergies to jute or hemp. While this rope is sturdy and supportive...it's not recommended for suspension use.
Don't forget to grab a pair of bondage safety scissors to help you get out of those ropes when you need to.
Get it from Emojibator for $35 (also available in Unicorn).
Emojibator products are designed with love in Philadelphia and include novelty sex toys inspired by fruits and emojis.
27. A 24-karat gold-plated nipple clamp that follows the happiest of trails down to the clitoris for an extra-stimulating squeeze.
Promising review: "I am just starting to experiment with nipple clamps, but I think I found my favorite. Honestly, other clamps looked a little intimidating but these look like a beautiful piece of jewelry. They're so easy to customize pressure (especially for a novice) and it's nice having the versatility to choose whether or not you want to use the clit clamp. I did notice that the clamp guard did stick to my skin when taking them off, but next time I will try using a little lube beforehand. Overall, I would definitely recommend. I am buying a second pair to give to my sex therapist so she can show them in her practice, especially for newbies exploring pleasure. :)" —L J.
Get it from Unbound for $35.
28. A chastity cage for your cock, boasting a transparent design that makes sure neither you or your lover miss out on any of the action during your play.
This lightweight cage is made of medical-grade polycarbonate and includes five U-rings, a brass lock with two keys, and five plastic locks...just in case you need to get it through TSA.
Promising reviews: "Good product overall. Make sure you order the correct shaft size. The ball collars are tight. The biggest size being what most men would be able to tolerate. Some lube may be necessary for sliding into the shaft. It’s a fun dirty secret." —Bilbo
"Pretty sturdy cage. The rings have a lot of different diameters to choose from. They are thicker plastic than I've seen in other cages. There's a lot of pieces to it, so it's a little more complicated than other cages I've seen. Be aware the sheath part is somewhat narrow and curved. We got the largest size and had to work a bit to stuff him into it. (Granted we are newer at this)" —C
Get it from Amazon for $26.49+ (available in two sizes).
29. A very discreet submission collar that can also be worn as a chic necklace or choker.
This delicate collar is created with sterling silver and also available in gold and rose gold finishes.
Promising review: "I LOVE this necklace. I've been wearing it nonstop the last few days. Collared myself and it feels so good! I love how dainty and discreet it is." —Sarah
Get it from Collar Amor on Etsy for $59.99 (originally $79.99; available in four lengths and three finishes).
Collar Amor is based in Rhode Island and designs discreet BDSM collars.
30. A faux leather paddle with "inappropriate" words mirrored on it, so when you spank your lover or sub with a love tap it leaves a readable impression.
Options for words include "XOXO," "Slave," "Love," "Slut," and "Ouch."
Promising review: "I absolutely LOVE it. I got the ‘love’ paddle and I can say it works perfectly 🥵 plus the item quality is great! Thanks again x" —Kaytee Louise
Get it from Pretty Inappropriate on Etsy for $18.99+.
Pretty Inappropriate is a family- and woman-owned small business based in Illinois that creates naughty keepsakes and gifts.
31. A versatile 2-in-1 whip and flogger that makes a perfect gift for anyone who's kinky AF, but also fickle.
The tassels are made of silicone for a soft feel and a gentle sting for when you want to be a little rough. Meanwhile, the paddle is created with patent leather for a firm feel.
Promising review: "This was my very first flogger, and the cute design and colour drew me in... This was a perfect choice, because while it looks unassuming, it can really whip! 💥💓 My partner used both ends on both my ass and my pussy, which I highly recommend trying for different sensations (gently to start with, of course)." —prettykitty
Get it from Unbound for $25.
32. A 15-inch rubber flogger, just in case bae has been hinting at impact play but doesn't know where to start.
Promising review: "Well, what can I say? This baby certainly does the trick. It gets regular use in our bedroom. Personally we prefer the sensation of rubber over something like leather or vinyl. It is a tad smaller than I was expecting, but I got used to that quick. Nice for the price." —Stanley Runk
Get it from Amazon for $16.99 (available in four colors).
33. A versatile panty vibrator that'll stay put while your lover controls its adjustable vibration modes and speeds at close-range or from afar.
Unlike most panty vibrators, this one is strictly external and has a magnetic cap to help it stay put as you walk, sit, lounge or whatever else you plan on doing.
Promising review: "This product is amazinggggg for long-distance relationships and even solo play. All different kinds of patterns, or you can make your own. Battery life lasts pretty well and it’s pretty discreet and stays in place well. I’d say that it is just a tad louder than what I expected, but I think that setting can be adjusted in the app. I’d definitely 100% recommend this — especially to long-distance couples." —Leah J.
Get it from Amazon for $119.
34. A vibrating Verge cock ring by We-Vibe designed specifically to stimulate the perineum with eight rumbly vibrations. This specific ring is perfect for the partner with a P-spot who wants to explore their pleasure a little more.
You can control the vibrations of this waterproof wearable manually or from the convenient We-Connect app.
Promising review: "This thing is the bee's knees. It's strong, has 10 different levels of strength, multiple different vibe modes, just the right amount of weight and does the job, very well at that! It's great for solo and couples. It also comes with an app for long-distance fun with a partner! Be aware that you must plan to use it before any kind of stimulation because YOU WILL NOT GET IT ON! Other than that I couldn't be happier with this one!" —JacksonP
35. A Liberator flip ramp that can be used as a ramp or converted into an ottoman, so you and your partner can explore and enjoy your (new?) favorite positions.
36. An adjustable strap-on harness designed with not one, but TWO O-ring harnesses perfect for attaching your favorite dildos. You can finally deliver the gift of double penetration this year.
This universal harness can also be used by people with penises, with the lower hole fitting their penis and the higher O-ring fitting a favorite dildo.
Get it from Love Abby Shop on Etsy for $15.99 (available in black and purple).
Love Abby is based in Daytona Beach and sells an assortment of sex toys, lingerie and pet apparel.
37. A must-have bondage kit with a little bit of this and a little bit of that, so you can play out all your Dom/sub fantasies whenever and wherever.
This little kit includes a pair of wrist cuffs, a pair of ankle cuffs, one blindfold and one four-point hogtie base (without ropes), so you can up the ante on your partner play without breaking the budget. And all of the pieces are uniform with a unique textured vinyl design!
Get it from Honey Play Box for $57.99 (available in pink and black).
38. An 11-piece bondage set that's a perfect one-stop shop option for beginners looking to explore BDSM. From ball gags and blindfolds to rope and a whip, this set offers a lot of room for a newbie to work their way up.
This bondage set boasts various items made of leather and nylon, including one pair of handcuffs, one pair of ankle cuffs, one pair of nipple clamps, a whip, a rope, a ball gag, a feather tickler, a collar, a hogtie, a blindfold and a paddle.
Promising review: "I was surprised how many pieces came with this set. The fur lining makes the cuffs and collars very comfortable, and uses buckles rather than velcro. The set is shown on women but I used it on a man. Some of the chain link could probably be broken through, if they wanted to. Impact play items work well, and the variety of items give this set a lot of options. I used the cuffs with a bed strap system I already had." —Anonymous
Get it from Amazon for $28.99.
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