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    Here Are 32 Highly-Rated BDSM Products To Bring You And Your Lover (Even) Closer

    We've got cuffs, sex toys, chokers, gags, and even more for you to get frisky with your S.O.

    We hope you love the products we recommend! All of them were independently selected by our editors. Some may have been sent as samples, but all opinions and reviews are our own. Just so you know, BuzzFeed may collect a share of sales or other compensation from the links on this page if you decide to shop from them. Oh, and FYI — prices are accurate and items in stock as of time of publication.

    1. A chic velvet collar that comes in an assortment of styles, one of which is sure to match your vibe whether you want a simple bow, bells, or a padlock. Truly, whatever makes your kitty purr.

    Reviewer wearing pink collar with bell
    Reviewer wearing black collar with white padlock

    This collar is adjustable and 19.5 inches long.

    Promising reviews: "This collar is my go to accessory. I wear it whenever I get girlie. It is made out of a super soft material and the best thing is it is plus size friendly. I weigh 260 and it fits comfortably with plenty of room to spare. It is heavy duty and won't break or rip easily for you more adventurous couples. I took the bell off because it is super noisy so maybe not suitable for daily wear in public unless you take the bell off. Quality product right here." —Juniper Thompson

    "If I could, [I'd] give this a 100 stars. I got the black one with the red bell. The quality is perfect. If you want something that look fabulous, your significant other is going to love it so much. My husband was so turned on by this collar. It will spice up your bedroom. Please get this collar. I am going to get different colors." —Lee Jones

    Get it from Amazon for $10.99+ (available in 45 styles).

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    2. A simple ball gag that gets the job done while providing a soft silicone material for you or your partner to sink your teeth in.

    Promising reviews: "I’m currently wearing this thing. I always want to try things out before sharing. I can’t say a word. Can’t scream. Nothing! I do seem to be drooling a lot though." —Bob

    "I love this gag! It's not hard like other gags but still firm enough. I like that the silicone extends to the sides of the mouth/connect to the straps, as ones I've had prior have the straps continue through a slit in the ball and skin often gets pinched by those designs...This one, however is phenomenal! Super comfy, the straps are good, quality, leather and strong buckles. The only con I have when cleaning it is trying not to get the soft suede on the interior of the straps wet, as it starts to damage them if not dried quickly." —Keg

    Get it from Amazon for $10.89+ (available in two sizes and three colors).

    3. A vibrant gag bar from Unbound just begging to be drooled on by anyone curious enough to dip their toes into restraint play. Gag bits or bars are less restrictive than ball gags and allow for easier breathing and speech, making them a great alternative for just getting started.

    Blue gag with ribbon and goldtone accents
    Unbound

    Promising reviews: "I got this with the matching handcuffs and I'm a fan! The silicone part is great given what it's used for, the velvet ties are nice and strong quality. The blue pops and looks just as good in person as it does online." —Bree

    "This is amazing! Ball gags are always too big for me and metal ring gags hurt my teeth, this is perfect! I was afraid the silicone would be a thin layer over a metal bar but its not! The whole gag is silicone making it so soft and comfy. <3" —M

    Get it from Unbound for $39.

    4. A satin blindfold to elevate your solo or partnered sesh by heightening and relying on your other senses for some semi-mysterious sensation play.

    Model wearing red satin blindfold
    Model wearing black satin blindfold and heart pasties
    Lovehoney

    Promising reviews: "Surprised my OH with this one date night. Haven't really tried bondage and stuff like that so this and some nipple clamps we got were a good start. Made the sensations more intense and the fact she didn't know what I was going to do drove her crazy. Fun, easy way to spice it up some!" —Colorado C.

    "I love a blindfold so much but some let you down if they are uncomfortable. This one is so comfy to wear and when positioned right neither me or my husband could see a thing when wearing it. We both love to be blindfolded because it heightens the pleasure, I would always recommend using one." —TheaD

    Get it from Lovehoney for $7.99 (available in three colors).

    5. A pitcher of UV / blacklight reactive wax in rainbow colors that warms to the touch for a sensual and visually exciting massage or foreplay addition.

    Pitcher of UV reactive rainbow wax
    Pitcher of rainbow wax
    Agreeable Agony

    The wax in the pitcher melts at 124–126 degrees F, so it's recommended to increase or decrease the distance you pour from. A pour spout offers easy application, and pro-tip: let the wax melt and pool before blowing the candle out and then drip.

    Get them from Agreeable Agony for $32.95 (available in standard and UV).

    Agreeable Agony is queer-owned and run by a group of kinksters and artisans who create handcrafted bondage gear and accessories, including floggers, sex toys, rope, wax candles, and more. Their mission is to further educate customers on kink and its communities.

    6. A flexible vibrating butt plug that'll sync to the beat of your favorite songs, mimic your own custom patterns, or buzz along to user-created vibration modes already on the app.

    Hand reaching for black butt plugs
    Amazon

    Supple, body-safe silicone offers a waterproof exterior and a flared base helps the plug stay put.

    Promising reviews: "Exactly as described, and exceeded expectations. This is a great buy for individual’s who seek self satisfaction. This (Multi Pattern Vibrating) plug is also a fantastic idea of fun for couples who look to spice things up a bit. Personal Care Products couldn’t get any better. Extremely happy with this purchase, and look forward to purchasing more products by this brand." —William Gardener

    "We have had a great time with this. I bought the largest and it took a bit to get used to it. We are a couple of states away from each other and he has had a great time setting me off while I’m at work or doing things around home. The vibration is very intense at the highest setting and at the lowest just keeps you on edge. Being made of the material that it is, you have to keep it clean and let it air out, so it doesn’t smell if you get any fecal matter on it. Definitely recommend!" —JayyDee

    Get it from Amazon for $89+ (available in four sizes).

    7. A 75-foot roll of bondage tape to help you immobilize or restrain your lover — and the best part is that it only sticks to itself.

    Promising reviews: "Only have used it once but was very fun when I did. I like that it only sticks to itself, so no pain if it touches hair. The bright color makes for nice photos if that's something you are interested in." —Stephanie

    "This tape is a lot of fun. It adheres to itself but not to skin so you don't have to worry about having a bunch of tape residue stuck to your skin. Since you have to make sure the tape comes in contact with itself to stick, taping sometimes requires a few wraps. It could easily be used in place of a blindfold for example or to tie hands." —Sky Etkin

    Get it from Amazon for $9.22+ (available in three colors).

    8. A reversible satin blindfold you can neatly tie into a bow whenever you want to enjoy a little kinky sensory deprivation.

    Black and red satin blindfold ribbon
    Amazon

    The tie is 59 inches long and 2.8 inches wide, allowing versatility as a blindfold or restraint.

    Promising reviews: "Looking to spice things up a little bit? This will work: it's soft, easy to tie, hard to see through, and didn't bother anyone wearing it. Very sensual." —msaonika

    "I wasn't holding my breath, but this is decent quality for $5, it's comfortable for both my partner and me. My partner's head is a bit larger than mine, so I was worried it wouldn't be big enough to wrap around. It's light enough that you won't get warm but accomplishes its purpose of not being able to see through it, for the most part. Getting more to use for restraints, since they're so long and comfortable 😏" —Peyton Cheyenne Fitzhugh

    Get it from Amazon for $6.99.

    9. A uniquely shaped vibrating cock ring by Fun Factory with rabbit ear attachments to stimulate your lover's clitoris with each stroke during PIV.

    Hands holding green cock ring
    Black cock ring surrounded by gold
    @funfactoryusa / Via www.instagram.com, @funfactoryusa / Via www.instagram.com

    Or, use it with your fingers to finger your lover or wear it during a blowjob for added stimulation to the perineum during oral. The vibrating component boasts two motors with four settings and a "flirt" mode.

    Promising reviews: "The shape is perfect for my penis, and she quite enjoyed the vibration. Very soft to the touch and super easy to use. Highly recommend." —Anonymous

    "This is great for amping up intercourse for both the wearer and his partner. I definitely need lube to get it on and off as it is rather tight on me. Once on, it is comfortable and stays in place. We have several Fun Factory toys, and while expensive, have always been impressed with their quality and functionality." —Anonymous

    Get it from Lovehoney for $99.

    10. A versatile bed restraint system that includes four adjustable cuffs and restraint straps that fit underneath your mattress, so you can be immobilized by your lover with comfort.

    Woman restrained to bed by wrists
    Black bed restraints with two wrist and two ankle cuffs
    Sportsheets

    Promising reviews: "I absolutely cannot say enough great things about these straps. They are versatile, discreet, convenient, extremely durable, well-made, and a ton of fun. Highly recommended for anyone who loves to spice things up in the bedroom." —AB

    "These are very good. Wasn't sure if the velcro would be strong enough, but it was! She loved them and I loved them. If you are looking for a great addition to fun in the bedroom I highly recommend getting these." —N. W.

    Get it from Amazon for $47.99.

    11. A faux leather choker collar that comes with its own heart-shaped padlock and key, taking your sub aesthetic to a whole new level.

    Reviewer wearing black collar with padlock
    Reviewer wearing black and pink collar with padlock

    The collar is adjustable from 12 to 15 inches.

    Promising reviews: "Great thickness of the collar, boyfriend says it’s comfortable, truly a good collar for keeping your sub in line. The rings on the back allow for a leash to be attached for extra fun. I might just buy another for myself." —Jay L.

    "I am super happy with this choker. it’s thick, durable and super cute. I was pleasantly surprised with the quality and appreciate its weight. It is super adjustable which is awesome because I have a relatively small neck. Don’t settle for cheaper chokers, this one is worth the money!" —Bob

    Get it from Amazon for $33 (available in 10 styles).

    12. A pair of extra soft and sensual bondage restraints with pre-looped twists, so all you or your lover have to do is slip them on and start to play.

    Model wearing red ribbon restraints
    Set of two black ribbon restraints
    Lovehoney

    Promising reviews: "Bought these a while ago for tying up, obviously. They do the job well and can be used on both ankles and wrists as well as tying to other things.... like a bed. The perfect thing about these is that they are no clinky like cuffs and don't have noisy Velcro that could give away any goings-on..." —Explorer1

    "I was hesitant to be tied up and was pleasantly surprised by these. We just tied my wrists to the bedposts on the headboard, and they worked well. They’re soft and satiny enough that they are comfortable to have on and don’t leave rough marks on your skin. Our bedpost is thicker which didn’t work the best with them as they are kind of short. This wouldn’t be an issue with a thinner post to tie them to though! Definitely a basic must have for the price." —Tayls

    Get it from Lovehoney for $9.99 (available in three colors).

    13. A convenient two-piece BDSM kit to get you started featuring Unbound's Tether tape and Orion cuffs. This petite pack offers two very dependable options for gift-wrapping your lover.

    Blue handcuffs
    Blue body-safe tape
    Model wearing tape as bra
    Model wearing cuffs
    Unbound

    Promising reviews: "The tape was super easy to use! My partner really enjoyed themselves and stayed completely comfortable yet restrained the entire time. If you like using duct tape or other around the house items, switch to this! It's fantastic." —Lauryn A. (on Tether)

    "Honestly, I didn't even realize orgasms could be altered by your position until these babies. Love the color, comfort and accessibility. I wish there was a longer extension for alliterative locations." —pame c. (on Orion cuffs)

    Get it from Unbound for $42 (originally $52).

    14. A faux fox tail butt plug designed for tugging and teasing, with the option of choosing between a lighter silicone plug or a metal plug for added weight.

    Mannequin holding faux fox tail metal butt plug
    Vuzara / Etsy

    The fluffy tail is removable, so you can change butt plugs and sizes for training or texture, whatever you need.

    Promising reviews: "It took a while to ship which I knew from the onset. Well worth the weight beautiful lush and plush tail. Inexpensive for the quality. My new favorite tail, thanks." —Diana

    "Oh my god I love ❤️ so much it stays in and this fox tail feels amazing" —Jon Wright

    Get it from Vuzara on Etsy for $39.99+ (available in three sizes and silicone or metal).

    Vuzara is a Michigan-based small business that creates realistic faux tails with detachable butt plugs that help fantasy become reality.

    15. A discreet wearable egg vibrator that won't clash with your favorite lingerie and will get you off with seven vibration modes and or personalized patterns using the Bluetooth app. A wearable vibe is a great intro to mutual masturbation and even power play because doing chores and getting a little buzz in your vagina would be...startling to say the least.

    Pink egg-shaped vibrator next to cell phone
    gif of egg-shaped vibrator in water to demonstrate strength
    Amazon, Lovense

    The ergonomic egg shape means this discreet vibe stays put, so you can wear it out and about (if that's your thing) and control the vibrations effortlessly from your phone. No one would suspect a thing and with a five-hour battery life...this toy can probably outlast you.

    Promising reviews: "App works great super powerful and quiet. All I had to do was send an invite to my bf and he instantly was able to connect and control this thing. AMAZING!!" —Rachael M.

    "I use mine on Chaturbate mostly. Connects super easily, which was something I was worried about. The app is easy to use and this device works great for me on Chaturbate. Super comfy, sometimes I forget I have it in." —Vallaria

    Get it from Amazon for $129.

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    16. A strappy full-body harness boasting adjustable and stretchy straps that offers inclusive sizing, in case you've been looking for some risqué lingerie that leaves nothing up to your lover's imagination.

    Hot pink strappy full body harness view from front and back
    Amazon

    Promising reviews: "Sexy and fun! Thick yet comfortable straps and many points of adjustment leading to a custom fit. A beautiful piece at a great price. You can easily wear whatever bra and panties you like underneath or go naked if that’s more your speed. A nice piece for those of us who are a little more busty as theres nothing in the harness that will squish larger breasts and make them look deformed. Only quibble is that it can be hard to unhook the straps when it’s time to take off the piece but it’s so sexy and comfortable, you may just want to leave it on!" —K. Taylor

    "I’m 5’0" and two hundred and something pounds, and not gonna lie, it’s surprisingly comfortable. It’s more stretchy and adjustable than it looks. I was worried I was going to look like a roasted ham in it but nah it’s just fine. Totally worth the money" —Alexa dejulian

    Get it from Amazon for $35.50+ (available in 14 colors).

    17. A full-body harness for penis owners constructed from genuine leather with adjustable buckles and an attached cock ring.

    Model wearing pink full body harness with cock ring
    View of harness from the back
    Mama Leather / Etsy

    The small fits people up to 38-inch waists and the XL fits people with waists up to 54 inches. Check out the rest of the shop for more colors besides pink!

    Promising reviews: "Very soft and comfy! It took me a minute to find the right adjustment but once I did it fit like it was made for me." —Brian

    "Several vendors sell harnesses all over the place but there are only few that go out of their way to provide you with a service of creating something for you, rushing it to your location and following up to make sure you're satisfied. Shop this merchant with HIGH confidence!!!! The harness is OUTSTANDING! The look, feel, smell and fit are all perfect. I wear a large and the large fit perfect with room to go up or down. The hardware is top notch! The color is better depicted, its literally perfect! Opening it was such a gift and along with your purchase you get the most warm hearted HANDWRITTEN thank you note from Marco. I just loved everything about this purchase, I am sure you will too!" —Serg Garcia

    Get it from Mama Leather on Etsy for $220 (available with black or silvertone snaps and in sizes S–XL).

    Mama Leather is a Brooklyn-based, queer-owned sex boutique that creates handmade leather fetish wear ​and accessories

    18. Or a vibrant vegan leather harness designed with a strap that attaches to your favorite cock ring for a full-body style.

    Model wearing blue full body harness
    Model wearing pink full body harness
    Play Vegan / Etsy

    This harness has adjustable straps that offer a customized and comfortable fit.

    Promising reviews: "I have been wearing this all day. It is very comfortable. I wore it under my clothes and walked 5 miles without any chafing. It works great with a 2 1/4-inch stainless steel cock ring. Love the way it looks and feels!" —Dan

    "Super high quality harness!!!! Finally something that is gonna hold up to the stress!" —Clay Wallace

    Get it from Play Vegan on Etsy for $90 (available in 10 colors and sizes S–3X).

    Play Vegan is a queer-owned small business based in Tel Aviv that creates handcrafted, vegan harnesses and BDSM gear.

    19. A 24-karat gold-plated nipple clamp that follows the happiest of trails down to the clitoris for an extra-stimulating squeeze.

    Model wearing nipple and clit clamps
    Unbound

    Promising review: "I am just starting to experiment with nipple clamps, but I think I found my favorite. Honestly, other clamps looked a little intimidating but these look like a beautiful piece of jewelry. They're so easy to customize pressure (especially for a novice) and it's nice having the versatility to choose whether or not you want to use the clit clamp. I did notice that the clamp guard did stick to my skin when taking them off, but next time I will try using a little lube beforehand. Overall, I would definitely recommend. I am buying a second pair to give to my sex therapist so she can show them in her practice, especially for newbies exploring pleasure. :)" —L J.

    Get it from Unbound for $35.

    20. A wireless, rechargeable version of everyone's favorite massage vibrator: The Magic Wand. This upgraded beauty has four rumbly speeds and four powerful pattern modes to explore and can even be used while plugged in if it runs out of juice mid-session!

    Hitachi Magic Wand Rechargeable
    @vibratexinc / Via www.instagram.com

    Promising reviews: "To infinity and beyond! Want to ride off to another galaxy on a glitter space unicorn in less than 30 secs...go ahead, put it in your online buggy. *Disclaimer* partner will also feel the good vibrations if you use it right!" —XOXO

    "This...TOOL...is your wingman. I mainly use the magic wand with my girlfriend, and I don't normally write reviews. This is an exception due to how good this product is. Before this tool, I had to spend a lot of time on foreplay due to issues pertaining to my size, which I don't mind as foreplay is fun. With this tool, your partner will be 'ready' very quickly. I lived without the possibility of a quickie for years before seeing this product recommended on a subreddit for people with similar issues as me. If I knew how good it was before buying it, I would easily pay five times or more for it; it is that good. If you are a man with similar size issues, I recommend this product over anything else. It also works as a standalone vibrator for your partner if you are busy with work/school and can't really tend to them. Highly recommend 10/5 stars." —Odethious

    Get it from Amazon for $111.99.

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    21. A spinning 360-degree sex swing made with thickened straps for comfort and all the rigging you need to have reliable fun. Not to mention, this swing includes a U-shaped pillow for your head, so you can really go to poundtown with your partner.

    The swing itself can hold 500 lbs, while with the included fastener can support 1200 lbs.

    Promising reviews: "Big girl approved.  It took me well over a month to install after over-researching how to safely mount it. I'm 5'11 and 220 lbs for reference because there weren't many references for me to go off of which made shopping for one very iffy for me. I did spring for neck pillow and I'm happy I did. Only negative is I wish I wouldn't have overthought mounting it and did it sooner." —Elana

    "This swing is amazing. My girl got into it and she was so comfortable. She said if I wasn’t making her orgasm she would have fallen asleep. It was a little difficult to figure out adjustments but after a few tries it worked out great." —SMS

    "This swing is SO comfortable and all the hardware is rock solid. It's completely revolutionized our approach in the bedroom! I had a hard time deciding if I should get the pillow or not. It's very useful and we're glad we have it. I didn't just want the swing bracket to be hanging there on the ceiling for everyone to see, so I concealed it in the body of a smoke detector. It takes quite a bit of modification to make this work but it's a pretty slick solution. Happy swinging!" —SoManyHobbies

    Get it from Amazon for $81.99.

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    22. A faux leather paddle with "inappropriate" words mirrored on it, so when you spank your lover or sub with a love tap it leaves a readable impression.

    Black and red paddles with cutout words
    Pretty Inappropriate / Etsy

    Options for words include "XOXO," "Slave," "Love," "Slut," and "Ouch."

    Promising review: "I absolutely LOVE it. I got the ‘love’ paddle and I can say it works perfectly 🥵 plus the item quality is great! Thanks again x" —Kaytee Louise

    Get it from Pretty Inappropriate on Etsy for $18.99+.

    Pretty Inappropriate is a family- and woman-owned small business based in Illinois that creates naughty keepsakes and gifts.