31 Beginner Masturbation Tips And Toys That'll Help You Blow Your Own Damn Mind

Whether you're new to masturbation or just looking for some new tips, we've got you covered.

When people hear "self-care" they might think bubble baths, exercise, meditation, retail therapy...actual therapy, whatever. Other people might think, masturbation. It's honestly whatever floats your boat, but if you're new to touching yourself and finding out what you like, here are some tips and toys to help get you started.

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1. First things first, get to know your anatomy below the belt! The clitoris is actually a lot more complicated (anatomically) than it looks and not all vulvas / vaginas / penises look the same. So, getting to know everything you've got before you start exploring masturbation is important.

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And sometimes...the getting to know phase is really quick and literally transitions into the masturbation!

2. Start with *all* of your erogenous zones! While the penis, vagina, anus and clitoris are definitely hot spots, exploring different areas of your body with various sensations can definitely heat things up.

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This infographic from Dame details each erogenous zone, so you can map your way through the pleasure arena with or without a toy.

When we asked our readers with penises and vaginas about their favorite masturbation techniques, they seriously delivered, and their tips will be throughout this story! Here's what one person said about their erogenous zones:

"I like to tease myself, so I'll use a vibrator around my belly button and work my way down slowly, which usually does the trick to get me turned on." —Anonymous, 18/F/Gay

3. Touch yourself in the mirror.

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"Something about seeing myself come makes me crazy horny. Sometimes I ride a dildo while sitting in a chair in front of the mirror so it's like watching myself in cowgirl position. Other times, I'll lie down in front of a mirror." —Anonymous, 27/F/Bisexual

"I usually enjoy watching myself get hard and get off over my webcam and pretending like people are watching. I'm not enough of an exhibitionist to actually stream it anywhere, but it helps turn me on." —30/Nonbinary/Pansexual

4. Settle in for an indulgent night with an erotic book or podcast, if you want to get a little hot and horny before satisfying yourself.

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My favorite erotica are the Best Women's Erotica anthologies ($13.49 on Amazon), which are stories written by women, femme-identifying writers. Before BWE, I would peruse Literotica, but there are so many options and categories, it's easy to get overwhelmed. Finally, if you'd rather listen than read, there's the Dipsea app ($12.99+), which is a subscription service offering over 500 audio stories, wellness sessions, and more for listeners to explore pleasure and erotica in a new way.

5. Turn on (and get turned on) some ethical pornography. Ethical porn simply means content that's created *and* consumed without contributing to unpaid labor, unsafe work conditions, discrimination, inequality, or other harmful workplace conditions, rules or stigmas. In other words: watching consensual, legal porn where performers are respected and paid for their contribution to the world.

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Most of the time, this means you'd have to do a lot of research to find places to ethically consume porn, and that's a lot considering you might only spend 5 minutes watching it. HAVE NO FEAR — here are a few places to watch porn and feel good about the service: Bellesa Plus offers a subscription-based service with a wide range of videos, including in-house content. This is my personal fave, like...these performers are just having a good time, there's hella communication AND everyone comes in the end. Just...*chef's kiss*. 

Verified creators on PornHub also create ethical content, just make sure to look for that blue checkmark. OnlyFans, NiteFlirt, and SextPanther allow you to chat and interact with your favorite sex workers, but also pay them within your budget. Not to mention, there's a high probability your fave sex worker or performer has a CashApp, so you can definitely spread the wealth there. Check out this BuzzFeed article on how to consume ethical porn for more info.

Anyways, here's what a few BuzzFeed readers had to say about watching porn when they masturbate:

"I sit in a kneeling position in front of my laptop and just stroke my dick and I often will fantasize that I'm in the porn. Sometimes I'll thrust to mimic the movements of having sex." —21/Male/Straight-ish

"I typically watch porn of some sort from one of those well-known tube sites. I usually draw it out for quite awhile. And when I cum, I will often time it along with the money shot in whatever scene I am watching." —32/Male/Straight

6. Trade in your go-to lotion for an *actual* lubricant. Like one reader says, they exist for a reason and it's a REALLY GOOD ONE.

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These BuzzFeed readers are helping to spread the lube gospel when it comes to masturbation:

"I've always liked a good lube better than lotion or Vaseline. I mean, it exists for a reason. My favorite is Boy Butter. Little squirt of that and I go to town." —30/Male/Gay

"It's not just for partnered sex. It makes all the sensation better!" —Anonymous, 27/F/Straight

If you're not sure which lube to start with, here are a few great options:

#Lube Life ($5.99+ on Amazon) is a popular water-based lubricant with over 100K reviews and is a simple and straightforward lube to help things go smoothly.

Überlube ($19.99+ on Amazon) is a silicone lubricant, making it great for anal and water play, but make sure not to use it with silicone toys because it will degrade the material.

Astroglide ($9.48+ on Amazon) also has a silicone lubricant that's available in travel-friendly sizes for on-the-go trysts.

Sliquid's hybrid lubricant ($29.50 on Amazon) is created with a blend of water and silicone, making it versatile enough for vaginal and anal sex and compatible with your silicone sex toys.

Wicked has a water-based lubricant specifically for anal play ($9.83+ on Amazon) in case you plan on indulging in butt play.

7. For bathtub lovers, scooting your butt down towards the drain so you can position yourself directly underneath the faucet is the OG way of getting off in the tub.

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The "Bathtub Technique" is a tried and true masturbation method for vulva owners, since it's hands-free and only requires having a tub or shower-bathtub.

Check out this post for more tips on masturbating in the shower or bath.

8. Or attach a faucet extender, like the Water Slyde by Lovability, which simply ties around your faucet and flows the water further out towards you. These are a great option if your flexibility is lacking or you don't want to go through all the trouble of scooting directly under the faucet.

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Some reviewers love that the Water Slyde offers less mess and easier cleaning compared to your typical vibrator or wand. And it's hands-free! All you have to do (after cleaning your tub and faucet of course) is lay back and relax.

If you really want to treat yourself, there's also the Bringing Sexy Bath Kit ($72) and the Get Wet Pack ($63), which both come with extra goodies — like a door hanger, a hair towel wrap, and either lube or massage candles — to make your bath time even better.

Promising review: "Like many young girls, I first discovered the pleasure that water could bring at a young age in the bath. This simple yet genius product makes that experience possible for anyone, without having to contort your body in a weird angle. It's very easy to attach and position. My self-care Sunday bath routine has forever been transformed." —Kelsey S.

Get it from Lovability for $35 (available in three colors).

9. Invest in a detachable showerhead, which is definitely the move for anyone who enjoys a quick (or indulgent) session, since they usually have multiple pressures or modes to play with and you can make sure the water is aimed directly at your clit.

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The basic handheld showerhead ($15.98+ on Amazon) on the left has six modes, so it's simple and to the point. TBH, any removable showerhead with a massage mode will do, especially since some people prefer gentle stimulation and some prefer rough. The dual showerhead ($24.99+ on Amazon) on the right has both a stationary head and a handheld one with 24 function combinations.

Here's what one vulva-owner had to say about how and why the shower is the perfect place for enjoying self-love: "My favorite place to masturbate is in the shower with the shower head. I turn down the lights and start my shower hot so the bathroom is nice and steamy. I change my shower head setting so the flow is steadier and cooler. I keep that shower head on my clit. The pressure from it feels amazing and I can orgasm in less than five minutes. The best orgasms are the ones where I temporarily go blind and the shower head does just that." —27/F/Straight

10. Humping or grinding is a great way to start exploring sensation and methods for pleasure that you might enjoy *a lot* more than typical fingering and rubbing.

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"I lie on my stomach (usually on my bed, but when I discovered this technique as a kid I used a sheepskin rug). My arms are straight at my sides and my head is turned to one side. My legs are bent at the knees, so my feet are up in the air. I develop a fantasy in my head and as I start to get turned on I rock/rotate/grind my hips/clit into the bed and do it with increasing intensity until I come. The orgasm is equal parts fantasy and friction." —Anonymous, 39/F/Lesbian

"I have only ever gotten off with one tried and true method when I masturbate: I grind against something (usually a pillow) while rubbing my finger back and forth across my clit." —Anonymous, 33/F/Queer

One vulva-owner recommends making a diamond formation with your legs: "I lie on my back with my legs apart in kind of a diamond shape; knees furthest apart and feet together. Then I put a finger on either side of my clit and rub back and forth until I come. Works every time." —Anonymous, 26/Female/Heterosexual

11. Try a face-down-ass-up position for a hands-free orgasm.

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"I always take a super soft blanket and lay it down on my bed, usually folded a few times to make it thicker. Then I set up some porn on my laptop and just lay on my stomach with my dick against the blanket. Then I just move my hips back and forth or up and down so my dick would rub against the blanket until I orgasm." —20/Male/Gay

12. Increase your pleasure with a sex pillow, which is soft, squishy and sometimes contoured, making it easy enough to use. Besides comfort, sex pillows can be used to add leverage for specific positions or even finding new angles to explore.

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Dame's Pillo ($95 on Dame; pictured left) is a popular option for a sex pillow and offers a lot of versatility without being too obvious in your space.

The Liberator Heart Wedge pillow ($109.99 on Lovehoney (only in red) and $79.99+ on Amazon; available in nine colors and pictured right) is also a very chic option for grinding.

Sex pillows are great for comfort during masturbation, but also for elevating partnered sex in general (literally!) by allowing you to try out new positions.

Promising review: "Perfect size, firmness, etc. Didn't feel like it was necessarily needed, until now having it. Worth purchasing for sure!" —Samantha W.

13. Consider investing in a customizable silicone grinder — they're offered in whimsical color mixes and designed with silicone ridges made up of over 80 individual nubs that'll stimulate you.

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This unique grinder comes with two straps, so you can attach it to a pillow, bathtub ledge or even your lover's thigh or forearm. It can also be used as a sleeve when held in the hand.

Promising reviews: "I didn't know what to expect but I'm here to tell you guys... With plenty of lube it provides a TON-OF-FUN..! A nice addition to my toy box." —Warren Pouyer Jr.

"This is something totally different that I didn't know I needed in my life until I saw it. I've only tested it out for a small amount of time but I already tell it was a good buy. I am an extremely indecisive person so I said 'glow in the dark' and 'surprise me' and I received a beautiful purple pour. It matches well with other randomized colors I've received from this shop and purple happens to be one of my favorite colors. I would recommend this for people who want to try something new and / or dislike penetration. It has a good feel to it and it comes with straps for unlimited possibilities." —Quinten Forrest

Get it from Fantasticocks on Etsy for $55.

14. Of course, if your budget is tight or you don't want to commit before exploring, a firmer pillow or towel will work just as well.

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One penis-owner recommends using a body pillow: "I have a body pillow with a super soft cover, and I recently discovered that folding it over and screwing it is quite the amazing substitute. The biggest and best Os I've ever had and my hand is enjoying its vacation." —19/Male/Bisexual

This vulva-owner rolls up a towel: "I'll get my chair, put a pillow, put a rolled underwear or towel (shaped like a penis) and then cover the entire pillow with cloth. I get naked, woman-on-top position and just start to grind until I come." —Anonymous, 25/F/Straight

Get a body pillow from Amazon for $24.99 or a set of four hand towels from Amazon for $15.99 (available in 12 colors).

15. Prefer to lie down on your back or stomach? Vibrators like the Starsi or Romp Leaf are perfect for grinding and broader exploration due to their flat, slightly contoured designs.

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Here are two popular and un-intimidating grinding vibes:

The Starsi ($79 at Cute Little Fuckers; pictured left) is a great option for newbies who don't want anything too phallic or intimidating and has a removable bullet with five powerful vibration settings.

A Romp Wave vibrator ($29.99 on Amazon and $29 at ShopEnby; pictured right) is designed like a leaf, offering pin pointed stimulation through the tip and broader stimulation when held in the palm of your hand.

16. If you have a penis, try out different stroke techniques.

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BuzzFeed asked several penis-owners for jerk-off tips and techniques, and here's what they had to offer about switching up your stroke game:

"Instead of stroking the shaft, I usually press my penis down flat and just rub the head rapidly — and lightly at first — with one hand and the other hand pressed on top for added pressure." —31/Male/Bi

"The two-finger method just under the tip and rubbing the under portion of the shaft is the quickest way I get off." —24/Male/Straight

"Instead of gripping it and jerking like most guys, I lay my penis flat on my belly and rub it until I cum. Almost like rolling dough into a breadstick shape." —24/Male/Gay

"I usually use just my thumb, index, and middle finger to jerk off, but will alternate full fist as well. They're pretty different sensations and switching it up helps." —27/Male/Gay

"I sit on my left had while I watch porn. It quickly falls asleep. As I am right handed, once you've successfully made the left hand fall asleep, you get to business. The numbness makes it feel like someone else is doing the wanking! Good times." —32/Male/Straight

17. Orrr, consider giving your hands a break and investing in a sex toy!

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"Seriously, it's worth it. Girls can have vibrators and dildos and stuff — it should be just as acceptable for guys to have toys that feel like having sex. Fleshlight reigns supreme, but Tenga Eggs are cheap and available on Amazon Prime." —24/Male/Straight

Get the Tenga Eggs on Amazon for $6.24+ and a Pink Lady Mini Lotus Fleshlight on Amazon for $69.95.

18. Introduce a reusable masturbation sleeve into your routine. These offer more sensation to your typical stroke session because of the textured interior of the sleeve.

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The Tenga 3D Sculpted masturbator (pictured left) is available in five styles. And the Tenga Spinner (pictured right) comes in six styles and boasts a transparent design along with its textured interior. Make sure you carefully and generously lube up your sleeve before play!

Promising review: "It can produce some pretty amazing suction by squeezing out all the air inside and using a milking action. Depending on your usage style, it varies from silent to quiet, realistic noises, so can be very discreet if needed. I use it in the shower sometimes, which is completely private and very easy to clean up. It does need lube, so I suspect it won't work very well underwater unless you apply almost no pressure. To clean, simply turn it back inside-out and wash with warm soapy water. Simplicity." —Su Chan (on the Tenga 3D Sculpted masturbator sleeve)

Get the Tenga 3-D Sculpted masturbator from Amazon for $30.62+ (available in five styles) and the Tenga Spinner from Amazon for $22.16+ (available in six styles).

19. Or further up the ante on your stroke game with a vibrating stroker, which allows all penis-packing persons to enjoy exploring their body and pleasure preferences a little more.

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Here are two versatile strokers that add a little more to your grip:

The Manta by Fun Factory ($139.98+ on Amazon and $139.99 on Fun Factory; pitcured left) is inspired by the appearance and power of an actual manta ray. It's designed with waterproof silicone, six speeds and six vibrating patterns turn oral sex, masturbation and couples' play into a mind-blowing time for anyone with a penis.

An open vibrating sleeve ($99 on Amazon; pictured right) that's created with premium silicone for a soft and supple sensation and flexible wings that wrap around your shaft, so you can feel each speed and vibration setting at your preferred grip.

20. Try out this transparent masturbator with a tight, convex, textured interior that you can twist, stroke, and watch through its case until you're finished. It's more affordable than a Fleshlight and makes a perfect starter masturbator.

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Yes, it's waterproof, so go ahead and play with it in the shower.

Promising reviews: "Love the product, my first purchase of a masturbator, very snug and stimulating. I don't consider myself very big girth-wise, but this is very snug yet 'adaptable.' It is extremely stimulating after orgasm as the toy stays tight around your very sensitive head, shaft, etc. Appears very durable, use water-based lube. 'Sucking' sound is rather stimulating depending on how you hold/use the toy. Easy to clean, pliable." —Terry

"First toy for husband, he was really surprised at how nice it felt. We did parallel play to get him comfortable. Unbelievably soft but firm enough for resistance. Easy to clean — we have some light fabric towels to pull from one end to the other to get fully dry." —Ashwdwrd

Get it from Amazon for $24.99 (available in three colors).

21. Starting off with broader stimulation is good first step to understanding what you like. Palm-sized external sex toys offer play for all your erogenous zones: nipples, thighs, stomach...and of course, your genitalia.

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These three external vibes all fit perfectly in your palm:

The Pom by Dame ($95 on Dame and Amazon; pictured left) is designed to deliver broad or targeted stimulation with its flexible design.

Pep by Unbound ($42 on Unbound; pictured right) has five vibration intensities and three patterns to explore with both targeted and broad stimulation.

TuLips vibrator by Sweet Vibes ($39.99 on Amazon) boasting a unique, waterproof design with its two lips for caressing your clit and making sure you feel its 10 vibrations and five intensities entirely.

22. Keep things simple with a finger vibe, which essentially becomes an extension of your already explorative hands and adds vibrating modes for a little extra *oomph* if you're ready for it.

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Here are three finger vibrators that have different shapes and textures for you to choose from:

Bellesa's unique Finger Pro vibrator ($59 on Bellesa Boutique and pictured left) is designed with 105 tiny prongs for extra stimulation, a flickering tongue to simulate oral, and 10 vibration intensities for you to enjoy.

The Fin vibrator by Dame ($85 on Dame and $74.81+ on Amazon; pictured right) is available in two colors and boasts a smooth surface with a removable tether, so you can customize your control. It has three intensity levels, as well as a pointed side for targeted stimulation and a squishy side for broader organization.

A compact silicone finger vibrator ($44 on Spectrum Boutique and $45.99 on Amazon and available in three colors) with 10 vibration modes controlled by a single button. This vibe has a flat design that fits between your index and middle fingers with a nubby tip for pinpointed stimulation.

23. Deliver pinpointed vibes to your clit with a bullet vibrator. Its handheld size is perfect for some discreet exploration under the covers or in the bathtub, in case you have roommates, nosy family members or even pets.

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If you're not sure where to find a bullet vibe that fits your fancy, here are three popular options:

The Plus One Bullet ($9 on Amazon and pictured left) has a simple rechargeable design with 10 vibration settings, offering a lot of bang for your buck.

Emojibator's novelty vegetable-shaped vibrators ($34 on Emojibator, $23.41+ on Amazon, and pictured right) are battery-operated — but still waterproof — and have 10 vibration settings.

The Rose 2 ($90 on Vush) is a splurge-worthy bullet vibrator boasting 25 combined levels and intensities and a unique rose-shaped bulb with a flexible neck for external exploration.

24. Experiment with using a vibrator on your balls or perineum! A mini wand or bullet vibrator from above is perfect for targeted, high-powered vibrations all over.

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Yup. Vibrators have no gender and as one penis-owner raves, you should definitely get one: "I use my girlfriend's vibrator on and around my balls. The vibrator really amplifies things. Wish I would have known about that when I was in high school." —30/Male/Straight

The Shibari Mini Halo Plus wand (pictured above) is a very popular option for anyone not ready to commit to a full-size wand vibrator or looking for a travel-friendly option. It's fully waterproof and boasts 20 vibrating patterns with eight speeds for a rumbling good time.

Get it from Amazon for $19.95+ (available in seven colors).

25. Effortlessly stimulate different erogenous zones with a wand vibrator — most boast a convenient handle to elevate your exploration without accidentally pulling a muscle or ending up in an off-brand yoga pose. Wand vibrators are high-powered, so once you get one you might not go back... 👀

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A wand vibrator is a big investment, so make sure you're getting the most bang for your buck with these popular options:

The Magic Wand vibrator ($64.95 on Amazon; pictured left) is what one BuzzFeed reader (asexual/F) described as: ""I haven't met a woman alive who hasn't been successful with the Hitachi. Like, if you have trouble orgasming, just do it. It gets the job done quickly." So, basically it's a powerful and reliable classic whether you get the OG plug-in, the rechargeable version or the improved Plus version of the OG.

The Majesty 2 ($120 on Vush; pictured right) by Vush and has five intensity levels with 10 patterns for you to explore. Also, it's 100% waterproof!

The Ollie wand ($76 on Unbound) has eight vibrating functions with a simple switch to go back and forth between the settings. It's long handle is convenient for satisfying those hard-to-reach places without accidentally pulling a muscle.

26. Increase your good vibes with a "suction" toy, which uses air pulse technology to simulate an oral sensation. These are a great option if the finger vibes or bullets just aren't doing it for you.

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Here are three of the wildly popular air pulse toys:

Unbound's The Puff compact suction vibrator ($48 on Unbound, Urban Outfitters or Anthropologie and available in two colors, pictured left) has five intensities and simple design allow you to slowly edge your way to orgasm or go from 0-60 in three minutes. Check out my personal review of why the Puff by Unbound is my favorite sex toy for more details!

A Satisfyer Pro 2 ($44.95 on Amazon, pictured right), which might literally be the most beloved sex toy on Amazon, has 11 intensities that range from "wow" to "oh %6*9#" according to reviewers. Plus, it's waterproof, so it can join you in the shower.

Bellesa Diskreet Air ($59 on Bellesa Boutique) is a splurge-worthy option for beginners and boasts five suction intensities and a waterproof design, as well. Not to mention, it has a discreet case for you to easily recharge your toy.

27. Training with dilators for penetration is an easy way to prepare yourself physically (and mentally) to move up to inserting sex toys into your vagina or anus *or* easily graduating to a larger size.

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Here are two sets of dilators to consider, one specifically for anal and one that can be used for anal or vaginal dilation:

A set of anal dilators ($129.99 on B-Vibe and pictured left) that range from 2.7 inches long to 4 inches long and 0.8 inches wide to 1.5 inches wide. Not to mention the bulbous head and flared base make it perfect for anal and even temperature play.

A set of four silicone dilators ($29.99 on Amazon and pictured right) are perfect for working your way up vaginally or anally, and come with four dilators ranging from 4.33 inches long and 0.51 inches wide to 7.68 inches long and 1.26 inches wide. This is also available as a set of five dilators. Just remember to use lube when training with dilators!

28. Explore penetration with a colorful dildo or plug designed with that has a suction cup base to make sure it stays put. The Blush Avant dildos are, IMO, the superior dildo — they come in such a variety of sizes so you can easily work your way up from the slimmest to the girthiest.

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The Blush Avant Collection of dildos all have suction cups and tbh, I have the Purple Rain (D2) dildo and it is absolute perfection — read my full Purple Rain Dildo Review for more. The suction cup has literally picked up my table, that's how strong it is 😳 .

For beginners or anyone new to penetration I would recommend these toys from the Avant collection: D9 Ergo Mini Dildo, D14 Heart of Gold Dildo, P1 Freedom Dildo, P2 True Blue Dildo, P3 Beauty Dildo, P6 Beyond Plug, and P7 Ace Plug.

Grab one of the Avant dildos on Amazon for $39.63+ or grab one of the Pride collection dildos for $24.98+.

29. Or treat your G-spot to a few good vibes with this slim silicone vibrator designed with a gentle curve to specifically reach your G-spot and blow your mind with 25 vibration modes and frequencies.

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Promising reviews: "So this arrived in the mail today and of course I cleaned it and tried it out right away. I was BLOWN AWAY, maybe because this is my first toy or maybe because it's just that amazing. I'm 24 and I squirted for the first time. I literally couldn't believe it so I went for a second round and I squirted again. It's been an hour and I'm still shocked hahaha. Please do yourself a favor and get this. I like that it fits nicely in my hand and all the different vibration patterns it is. It's pretty quiet, too!" —evs2468

"After a lot of searching and debating I originally decided on the Svakom Coco but by sheer chance I ran across the Cici for less than half the price with almost all of the same features. I bought it almost as soon as I saw it and it got delivered before the estimated date. It works wonderfully and is very quiet, came charged right out of the box, and for a first-timer who can be a bit intimidated by girth and size, this was the perfect starter toy for me (would definitely suggest a water-based lube for internal use, it makes things a lot easier and more pleasant). I've seen reviews saying that the vibrations can be a bit buzzy rather than rumbly which I do think is true, but it's a moot point for me. Overall very satisfied with the purchase!" —Megan

Get it from Amazon for $34.66.

30. Introduce yourself to the P-spot (or A-spot) with beginner-friendly anal toys. Make sure they have a flared base for effortless and reliable removal.

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"Most commonly, I just jack off and I lube up a finger or two and stick them up in my butt. Let me tell you: It feels awesome to have both your prostate and your penis stimulated at the same time." —19/Male/Bisexual

Here are three slim, beginner-friendly plugs to help you get started:

The Nudge plug ($25 on Unbound; pictured left) made from supple silicone with a tapered tip for effortless insertion that'll hit all the right spots without being overwhelming.

The Cone plug by Maude ($30 on Maude; pictured right) boasts a slim, tapered design and flared base to make sure it stays put.

A Novice Plug by B-Vibe ($134.99 on B-Vibe) designed for beginners with a slim, tapered design and 15 vibration patterns with six intensities for you to explore.

31. Having a sex toy that's nonphallic is also a good way to start learning more about your pleasure without being put off by realistic design and lifelike feels.

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These three sex toys stray away from phallic shapes and realistic designs, so are perfect for anyone who wants a genderless sex toy:

The Maude Vibe ($49 on Maude; pictured left) boasts three speeds and a tapered tip for targeted stimulation. This vibe includes a convenient canvas carrying bag for when you eventually decide to take it on the go.

The Jix ($84 on Cute Little Fuckers; pictured right) is pretty damn adorable and unintimidating, without sacrificing function. It's compatible with a five-speed vibrating bullet (included) and has a waterproof design (pictured right).

The Bender flexible vibrator ($71 on Unbound and in two colors) isn't too phallic and keeps things simple with pastel hues and 10 vibrating functions.

You, leaving your house after discovering the pleasure the comes from touching your nether regions:

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