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    29 Valentine's Day Gifts For Couples Who've Been Together So Long That They've Run Out Of Gifts To Get Each Other

    A mix of stuff we promise you haven't gifted them already.

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    1. A Tushy bidet attachment if you've been with your S.O. so long that you know all their ~dirty~ secrets — including that they don't wipe well. This'll leave them with a cleaner crack and help y'all reduce the amount of TP you use. Plus it has the added benefit of water temperature control, meaning you can control how warm or cold the spray is.


    This is the bidet I use (sadly, I have the Classic version but will definitely get the Spa version next if mine ever goes kaput) and I 100% recommend to my friends, family, and to you, dear reader. Installation was pretty simple; from start to poop it took about 15 minutes. The sensation say the least but you definitely get used to it. In fact, I recently moved apartments and it's taken me awhile to hook up the bidet (I'm a procrastinator, OK?!). Oh how I've missed my bidet during this time (and I'm sure my butt feels the same way). But seriously, I cannot stress how life-changing getting a bidet is.

    Get it from Tushy for $109 (available in five colors). And use our exclusive promo code BUZZFEED at checkout for 10% off your order.

    2. A Rosetta Stone subscription for the couple that's always saying they should learn a new language...and by language we don't mean the gibberish and baby talk you use when no one else is around.

    Various screenshots of the Rosetta Stone app on smartphones
    Rosetta Stone

    Get a three-month subscription from Rosetta Stone for $11.99/month.

    3. A 100 Things To Do scratch off bucket list so your plans no longer consist of the following exchange: "What do you want to do this weekend?" followed by "IDK, what do you want to do this weekend?"

    The board with some squares scratched off to reveal a cute image underneath

    Promising review: "The recipients of this poster loved the idea. They are an outgoing and adventurous couple. They said they would be hanging this in their office space and scratching them off as they complete them. They commented that moving to another country might not ever be scratched off but they are looking forward to doing as many as they can." —Veronica Lopez Ramirez

    Get it from Amazon for $15. (And check out more fun scratch off lists, including a 100 Movies Bucket List, a 100 Things To Do After Quarantine Bucket List, and a 100 Dates Bucket List.)

    4. A one-year couples journal to kickstart fun, meaningful conversations like the ones you had during the early days of your relationship. Or, a Q&A-a-day three-year journal for couples in a more time-tested relationship who want to create a time capsule of their lives together.

    Callisto Media, Potter Style

    Get A Year of Us from Amazon for $13.18, Bookshop for $13.79 (to support local bookstores), or Target for $13.18.

    Get Our Q&A a Day from Amazon for $14.02 or Bookshop for $15.59 (to support local bookstores).

    5. An Atlas Coffee Club subscription because you've been together long enough to know that neither of you are much fun to be around if you haven't had your morning cup. Gift yourselves freshly roasted single-origin beans or grounds every two or four weeks and ensure you're always properly caffeinated.

    Bags of coffee and mugs of coffee artfully arranged
    @atlascoffeeclub / Via

    My BuzzFeed Shopping colleague Bek O'Connell said:

    "The coffee itself was phenomenal! The amazing smell hits you as soon as you open the box. My roommates and I have varying levels of snobbery when it comes to coffee. For example, I'm cool with some Dunkin' Donuts iced coffee, but one of my roommates only buys his coffee from a fancy beanery in Williamsburg. Despite our different palates, we all loved and raved about Atlas's coffee. We used an electric grinder and tried making it with both a normal coffee maker and a French press. The Colombian coffee was very smooth and chocolatey, with an almost creamy texture even when taken black. The Peruvian coffee was more bitter and fruity, but also exceptional."

    Read the rest of her Atlas Coffee Club review here.

    Get a three-month subscription to Atlas Coffee Club for $60.

    6. A pair of cat parent mugs if you're both unabashed owners of the most perfect fur baby. Even if your mug collection is overflowing, these are the two you'll both grab each morning.

    Matching white mugs that say best cat dad ever and best cat mom ever with a cat with its middle finger up

    There's also a ~paw-sitively~ adorable dog parent version.

    Get the set from Amazon for $27.99 (or the individual mugs for $14.99).

    7. A box of 100 conversation starters so you never stop learning new things about your S.O. But don't toss out the deck once you've gone through it; revisit it in a little bit and you may be surprised how your answers change.

    Reviewer photo of some of the cards, which include questions like "What are you too hard on yourself for?" and "What five things do you enjoy doing with me?"

    Promising review: "After 30 years with my spouse, we didn’t really talk much anymore. It was the usual what work junk happened, what was on the schedule, what we needed from the store, and what was on our phones. I am so grateful I stumbled on these cards. I gave them and a puzzle to my husband for Christmas. I think he thought it was corny, until we started. I started off telling him how much I miss conversation with him and that I love him and I would like to date him again. It has been wonderful to sit and work on the puzzle, with some low music on in the background, TALK and share a glass of wine together. We are loving these cards!" —KTB

    Get it from Amazon for $18.95.

    8. Or a set of 150 questions inspired by the Love Language test to deepen your connection even after all this time together.

    The deck, which includes questions like "If you could travel back in time for one day, what year would it be and why?" and "If we as a couple had a theme song what would it be?"

    Promising review: "My boyfriend and I have been together for a really long time and this game was still so much fun! We played it after a night of drinking wine and cooking so we were pretty honest during these questions. We almost went through the whole deck in one sitting but finally put it away so we can play again." —Chelsbells32

    Get it from Amazon for $24.95.

    9. A Bartesian that'll make you a craft cocktail with the alcohol of your choice at the push of a button. Your S.O. has many skills but making a good spicy marg is not one of them. Thank goodness this lil' guy — which is like a Nespresso for cocktails — can do it for you.

    The Bartesian pouring a margarita in a low ball glass.
    Hannah Loewentheil / BuzzFeed

    My coworker Hannah loves her Bartesian. In her own words:

    "TBH, I wasn't expecting much. I didn't think that a cocktail capsule could compete with a homemade drink in terms of flavor. But every darn cocktail I tried was pretty delicious. The drinks are not overly sweet, and they genuinely taste like they're made from real, quality ingredients."

    Get it from Amazon for $349.85, Bartesian for $349.99, and Target for $349.99.

    Check out the rest of Hannah's Bartesian review for more deets and some mouthwatering cocktail photos.

    10. A set of long-distance relationship envelopes and notes because you want them to know you're thinking of them even if you can't be together for the holidays. You can choose the prompts you'd like on the card or opt for the most popular messages.

    For brown envelopes that say open when you feel like giving up, open when you need a hug, open when you miss me, and open when you feel lonely
    Peonyandlaces / Etsy

    Peonyandlaces is a Kansas-based small biz stationery store.

    Get six cards and envelopes from Peonyandlaces on Etsy for $16+ (available in 10 quantities).

    11. A handy puzzle board if you and your partner are big on puzzles but small on space. It folds up neatly so you can start a puzzle in the living room and finish it in the kitchen, and is large enough to hold a 1,500-piece puzzle

    Reviewer photo of a puzzle on the board

    Promising review: "This is the best thing for puzzles. I have one and I love it. I can put it on the kitchen counter or on the dining room table and then close it up and move it out of the way or take it to a friend's house. I got the largest one they make. Plenty of room for those larger puzzles. Lots of extra space to sort pieces. It really holds the pieces in place when it's not being used, even when it's stored on its side for a long time. Highly recommend." —Isabella B.

    Get it from Amazon for $54.99.

    12. A scratch off world map for the couple who's always exploring. Travel plans are on hold for right now, but that just means you both have plenty of time to scratch off all your past adventures...and at this point in your relationship, there are a lot of them.

    The map zoomed in on the state of California, which is scratched off

    Promising review: "I ordered this as a gift for my boyfriend who is a pilot. My thought was we could use it to scratch off places we visit together or even places he has flown to for work. He absolutely loved it! It is the perfect size, perfect for framing and hanging on the wall; he plans to get an open frame and scratch off places while it hangs on the wall. It was delivered tube style and I was hesitant about some countries being scratched off like others noted but it was delivered spotless! I highly recommend this map for anyone. I’m not sure I could’ve found a better quality map either!" —Ashley C.

    Get it from Amazon for $24.99.

    13. A fill-in-the-blank book so you can spell out all the reasons you love your significant when they leave you little presents around the apartment, aka dirty cups and dishes. OK, maybe not that...

    The book cover

    Promising review: "This book was a lot of fun to fill in with fun memories and personalized sentiments. There are many, many pages so be prepared to sit down and think of a lot of ideas to completely fill this book. I gave this to my boyfriend as a gift and he thought it was so sweet that he cried the good kind of tears. Very clever gift idea." —Denise K

    Get it from Amazon for $10.50.

    14. The Adventure Challenge: Couples Edition — a book of scratch-off dates to add some spontaneity to your long-term relationship. Each activity is a surprise until you scratch it off. You'll also get an instant camera so you can snap a pic of all the fun you have during each challenge.

    The book with a photo of a happy couple
    The Adventure Challenge

    Get it from The Adventure Challenge for $147.99.

    15. A dual zone comforter that'll keep the peace in the literal and figurative marital bed. Y'all have been together long enough yet you're still fighting over someone hogging the blankets or turning on the AC overnight even though it's 40 degrees outside? Rookie move!

    The duvet showing one half is warm and the other is cool

    Promising review: "This comforter is what we’ve always needed. My husband and I are always tangled in blankets because I need more but yet they always end up on his side. This comforter provides an all-in-one solution that keeps me warm and him cool and our bedroom looking calm and zen." —Hannah

    Get it from Amazon for $119.99+ (available in two sizes and four colors).

    16. A Drinking Animals Coloring Book or a Jason Momoa coloring book because there's no better way to take the edge off than with coloring, a cocktail recipe, and fantasies of Aquaman., Amazon

    Promising review (for the animals book): "I've taken up some silly hobbies while in quarantine. Coloring has been one of them. I love each picture. These are so cute and fun. I didn't realize that there were actual ingredients in the book so that was an added surprise. I like the book. It's a two-in-one." —Taylor Rutledge

    Get them from Amazon: Drinking Animals Coloring Book for $7.97 and Jason Momoa: A Coloring Book of Fantasies With an Epic Dreamboat for $11.18.

    17. A genius iPhone adapter case if the one constant in your years-long relationship is your S.O. constantly losing their dongle. Just think of all the headphone jack adapters you just saved them from having to buy!

    The triangular case, which has latches to hold onto the dongle and is on a keychain
    DukeofCases / Etsy

    DukeofCases is a Black-owned biz!

    Get it from DukeofCases on Etsy for $20.

    18. A mystery box of cat hats for the feline fans whose relationship has progressed so swimmingly that they've added a furry friend to the family.,,

    Promising review: "Cat hats are truly a godsend. There is nothing more adorable or silly than accessorizing your little furry friend with such captivating head pieces. Though I was hoping for the crab, the axolotl was probably the best one. I truly loved this product and had a blast with it. Unfortunately, Kitty probably didn't share my enthusiasm or joy upon wearing the hood, though she was a good sport." —Piiku

    Get them from Amazon: the aquatic box for $6.99 or the fruit box for $7.49.

    19. A heated back and neck massager so you both finally stop complaining about aches and pains. Let's face it, you love each other but you're way past the stage of wanting to give each other 30-minute massages. Good thing this lil' guy will do it without requiring that you give them a massage in return.,

    Promising review: "Are your loved ones sick of you asking for massages? When they massage is it just not great? Story of my life. Its starts out great, the relationship and the massages. Then they just do the very least possible to make it work, like dead fish hands. This massager never tells you no; it's always there for you on a rough day. It understands those knots in your shoulders, and it does it's best to make you feel better." —Erin R.

    Get it from Amazon for $49.95.

    20. An art kit for helping you both tap into your creative (and maybe freaky?) side to create a tangible piece of art whose origins will be your dirty little secret.

    A black and white abstract painting made with the kit
    Uncommon Goods

    The kit comes with plastic sheeting, a white cotton canvas, black non-toxic washable paint, disposable slippers, and a body scrubber.

    Promising review: "I got this as an anniversary gift and it was absolutely perfect! We had so much fun spreading the colors on the canvas, making our piece of art, and then cleaning it off of one another afterwards. It was messy, sexy, and so much fun! We will definitely be getting more of these kits for other rooms in our house." —KORSIFER

    Get it from Uncommon Goods for $60. (Psst! They offer expedited shipping if you're ordering this last minute.)

    21. A pound of cereal marshmallows, because as much as you love them, you've tolerated them eating the marshmallows from your box of Lucky Charms for far, far, far too long.

    Reviewer with the bag of cereal marshmallows

    Promising review: "Buying these charms was one of the best decisions of my life. The bag is twice the size of my head. The marshmallows are aesthetically pleasing and delicious. It's everything I ever wanted in a snack." —Amazon Customer

    Get it from Amazon for $10.99.

    22. An AllTrails Pro subscription if your other half is always itching to go explore the great outdoors. AllTrails is a free service that helps you find the perfect route for your hike, bike ride, family stroll, or trail run. The Pro subscription allows you to download the maps so you can stick to your route even if you don't have service — a nice plus if you're adventuring somewhere that's out of cellphone range.

    Person walking on a trail

    With the Pro plan, you'll get notifications if you stray from your route. You can also keep friends and family up to date on your location with Lifeline. And, 1% of every subscription is donated to a nonprofit that protects our planet.

    Get it from AllTrails for $30+ (available in two plans).

    23. A mates for life print for the person you've chosen as your mate...for life.

    The print, which features sketches of animals that mate for life
    Uncommon Goods

    Promising review: "This was an anniversary gift I got my husband for being together for seven years. We are both nature and animal lovers and he is my mate for life so he loved it!" —NICKIENOODLE

    Get an unframed print from Uncommon Goods for $30 (or the framed version for $100; Psst! They offer expedited shipping if you're ordering this last minute.)

    24. The Wand, a practical mini handheld filter so y'all can enjoy a bottle of wine together. This lil guy is designed to remove the histamines and sulfites in alcohol that may trigger headaches and hangovers. It's also supposed to revive oxidized wine so you don't have to toss an open bottle.

    The wand

    Promising review: "OMG!!!! This works. I love wine, but have terrible allergies to the histamines, sulfites, and preservatives in wine. I actually use one wand for two glasses of wine. I was very skeptical, but it works like a dream! Thank you PureWine. This is really a breakthrough for me." —Penny Froh

    Get it from Amazon for $12.99.

    25. An Amazon Fire TV Stick 4K to bring y'all thousands — literally thousands — of streaming channels, movies, and shows, as well as live TV, news, and sports. The one nice thing about long-term relationships is that you both appreciate just sitting quietly and watching a show together.

    The remote

    The remote is Alexa-compatible so you can use voice commands to find something new to watch, launch an app, search for a movie, or even order yourself a pizza. Your old remote could never!

    Promising review: "I love it! It’s my first Fire Stick and since I lost my remote for my LED TV, this replaces it. Best purchase in awhile! Fast response and the sound is great! Oh and Alexa responds so well on here! I enjoy being able to whisper to her at night to go to Hulu, Netflix, YouTube, Disney+, etc. so my hubby can keep sleeping!" —Melody

    Get it from Amazon for $39.99.

    26. Some Apple AirPods (or the Pro version!) because you've been together long enough to understand that you really do love each other but if you so much as hear them breathe you're going to scream. These'll help block out the noise with the sound of your favorite tunes.

    The AirPods

    Promising review: "Excellent, pretty useful, easy to use, and reliable. At first I had some doubts about it being reliable to my Mac as some Bluetooth speakers sometimes cut off, but these work great and are really comfortable to my ears. Aesthetically, they look great to me. Worth every penny." —Ivan

    Get them from Amazon, the AirPods for $128.98 and the AirPods Pro for $209.

    27. A 7-in-1 Instant Pot if you want to give them two gifts in one. This time-saving device will deliver your dinner in minutes when it used to take hours, giving you more time to spend with each other. Awww!

    The Instant Pot

    This do-it-all kitchen appliance is a pressure cooker, slow cooker, rice cooker, steamer, sauté pan, yogurt maker and warmer.

    Promising review: "I use the pressure cook and slow cook options regularly! I even got rid of my stovetop pressure cooker, because I wasn't using it anymore. This one does the job perfectly well, with no noise, and no mess. The sauté feature is a huge bonus. A lot of slow cooker recipes require that you brown the meat first. It really saves the mess and hassle of browning it on the stove, and then transferring it over to the slow cooker. I simply use the sauté feature to brown whatever I need, then turn it off, switch to slow-cook mode, cover, and walk away. It's the best feeling to get home from work in the evening and have a home-cooked meal ready to go!" —Beatriz

    Get a six-quart Instant Pot from Amazon for $79.

    28. A screaming goat who sits on a tree stump and shrieks whenever you touch it (honestly, same) for the partner who still appreciates a gag gift.

    The screaming goat and a mini booklet of screaming goats

    Promising review: "I spend about 90% of my day silently screaming at the computer because, well, welcome to customer service. Since this little goat arrived, I no longer look like I am practicing for my appearance on Jerry Springer. I just push the little goat. He screams (but not in a disruptive way). I smile. I am no longer annoyed. I survived peak season because of this goat. I owe my sanity to you, screaming goat." —Gab&Amanda

    Get it from Amazon for $7.25.

    29. A two-pack of Tile Bluetooth trackers that'll put a stop to your partner's most-asked question: "Honey, can you call my phone?" Good thing they'll never need help ~finding~ all the reasons they love you.

    The white square tracker attached to a keychain

    Promising review: "I got this bundle mainly for my boyfriend because he tends to lose not only his wallet, but also his car keys on the daily. Since getting this, he hasn’t misplaced his things since because one tap of the phone and the adorable chime will go off. The greatest thing is that if you double click the tile button logo, it’ll locate your phone for you! I would definitely recommend this as a gift for anyone who tends to misplace things." —its.a.christastrophe

    Get it from Amazon for $47.94.

    Live footage of y'all exchanging gifts on February 14:

    Broadway Video

    The reviews for this post have been edited for length and clarity.

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