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    People Are Sharing The Red And Green Flags They've Seen On People's Dating Profiles, So Take Notes

    🚩Don't fall for the red flags! 🚩

    Let's face it: Dating apps are one of the easiest ways to meet people these days. Though swiping through countless profiles can be quick and effective, it can be tricky to tell what you're getting yourself into based on someone's profile.

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    We asked members of the BuzzFeed Community to tell us some "green flags" they look out for while swiping. We also shared some common "red flags" on dating apps, and received a ton more helpful responses. So, here are some big red and green flags to be aware of while swiping through dating apps or making your own profile:

    1. "The phrase, 'I don't usually swipe right, so if we match, you're pretty lucky,' is such a red flag!"

    Gina Linetti rolling her eyes

    2. "I saw a guy holding a sandwich in his main profile picture, and he looked so happy and wholesome! Plus, his profile was filled with jokes that showed his personality. But that profile pic just caught my eye because you could see the little simplicities in life that made him happy. He was a really mellow guy with a great smile!"

    Jocelyn Schitt giving a thumbs up
    Pop TV

    3. "People who take time to actually fill out their bios, instead of putting, 'I don’t know what to put here,' or, 'If you want to know, hmu.' I hate when it’s just a link to their Snapchat or Instagram."

    Interested Andy Samberg
    NBC

    misssmm

    4. “'Here for a good time, not a long time' 🤮🤮🤮🤮."

    Cringing Cardi B
    NBC

    5. "Anything self-growth related is always a green flag."

    Flattered Tahani Al-Jamil
    NBC

    6. "I hate when people say, 'I’m overly competitive about EVERYTHING.' To me, that just screams, 'I’m insecure.'"

    Facepalming Gordon Ramsey
    Fox

    missjo

    7. "A wonderful green flag is when they actually list what they bring to the table as a good partner, instead of telling you what you have to be, or asking you not to waste their time. It shows that they aren’t selfish or self-centered and actually want a mutually beneficial interaction."

    Interested rachel bloom
    The CW

    8. "Profiles that include 'Devil's advocate' 🤢."

    Gagging Nick Miller
    Fox

    9. "A big green flag for me is whenever someone mentions an interest of theirs that can start a conversation — a weird hobby, a favorite book, or anything that can lead into an open discussion. SO many dating app conversations can start and end with, 'Hi, you’re cute,' but if you start out with a profile that says, 'I hand-weld medieval armor for fun,' then we at least have a great starting point."

    Woman grinning with her hand on her heart
    NBC

    jconway

    10. "If a profile mentions that they 'don’t want any drama,' THEY are always the drama. Red flag!"

    Cringing Kristen Bell
    NBC

    auneew

    11. "A green flag for me is seeing a photo of them doing whatever their hobby is, like playing guitar, hiking, painting, etc. It's one thing to say, 'I enjoy building dog houses for strays,' but including a photo really knocks it out of the park."

    Emotional Rachel Green

    12. "It's a red flag when they share anything that's followed by, 'since that's all that matters on here,' or, 'not sure why that matters.' That kind of embittered, self-pitying attitude doesn't get you very far."

    cringing nicole byer
    Netflix

    catkin

    13. "I like when people show funny pictures and not just artificial perfection. People should show off their lives for what they are, not just what they want them to look like."

    ABC

    14. “'Swipe right if you can actually hold a conversation,' translates to, 'Women find me creepy and give me short answers to try and get away.' That's a red flag."

    Annoyed Rosa Diaz
    NBC

    jac21

    15. "Having both solo and group pictures is a green flag. It shows what you look like, and shows what you're like in a social setting. It's also great when people share a couple hobbies on their profile so it’s easy to see if you have compatible interests for a first or second date."

    Flattered Kate McKinnon
    NBC

    bdunn1

    16. "It's such a red flag when men lie about their age so they show up in younger women's searches, then start their bios with, 'I'm actually 45, not 35. Don't know how to change it.' It's subtle manipulation, and I'm not here for it."

    Stressed woman looking at her phone
    The CW

    missjho

    17. "Putting, 'Just ask,' in your bio is my number-one peeve. I will immediately swipe left. If you can't take five minutes to write a decent bio, I'm not interested."

    Uncomfortable Rashida Jones

    18. "It's a green flag when their account is verified. Look for the verified check mark on applicable sites!"

    Alex Baldwin giving a thumbs up
    NBC

    madal03

    19. "It's a red flag when their bio says, 'I’m never on here, so message me [insert random social media account] instead. Why have the app if you’re not going to use it?"

    Surprised David Rose
    Pop TV

    kstory7

    20. "I like when someone has a picture of them being goofy or making a funny face. I’m not trying to date some stone-faced mysterious person with sad photos only. If you have a photo of you blowing a fire extinguisher like a saxophone, I’m not only swiping right, but I'm bringing a ring to propose with on our first date."

    Giggling Pete Davidson

    21. "It's a red flag if their bio says, 'I like dark humor.' I personally like dark humor. My only problem is that recently the line between 'dark humor' and being straight-up offensive has been blurred."

    Shocked Derek Hough

    22. "It's a green flag when people talk about positive attributes they are looking for, rather than saying what they don't want in a partner."

    Flattered Janice from Friends
    NBC

    23. "It's a red flag when their bio says they are open to a long-term relationship 'with the right person.' It sounds reasonable on the surface, but NO ONE wants to get into a relationship with the wrong person. This just screams, 'I am not really looking for something long-term, but I don't want to say that. I am being intentionally vague in case we meet and you might want to hook up, even though that's not what you were originally looking for.'"

    Shocked woman
    CBC

    24. "I see so many profiles of guys acting 'too cool,’ and I can’t tell their real personalities from that. Throwing in some humor or a joke, no matter how lame, makes them feel more real, and that's a green flag."

    Shocked Ilana Glazer
    Comedy Central

    ssggkk

    25. "I hate it when guys say stuff in their bio like, 'The Office is not a personality trait,' or, 'Please start with something more original than saying hi.' It's possible to phrase your preferences in a kinder way. All you're doing is proving to me that you'll take any opportunity to insult women, whether you've spoken to them or not."

    Crying Pam Beesly
    NBC

    26. "It's a green flag when people take the time to actually honestly answer some of the prompts on the site or fill out their bio. Effort goes a long way and shows they are serious about finding a good match!"

    Relieved Phoebe Buffay
    NBC

    ssggkk

    27. "A loooooong paragraph about your shitty dating luck is a red flag."

    Disgusted Donna Meagle
    NBC

    28. "It's a green flag when people include something about mental health or social justice in their bio."

    Happy Christina Aguilera

    29. Finally: "'No one ever gives me a chance,' is such a red flag. Someone did give you a chance, then probably ran for their life away from you."

    Shocked Spencer Shay
    Nickelodeon

    What are some red or green flags that you look for on dating apps? Tell us in the comments!

    Note: Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.

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