Thanks for articulating some thoughts I’ve had for sometime, but could never really put to words. Sometimes it really is the stupid seemingly inconsequential stuff that is the worst… because its so pervasive and ultimately reductive and constricting. Its like here is the big moment she’s worked so hard for all her life..and of course its completely tarnished by someone because of her race… The joke itself is completely irrelevant except as a reminder to her that she didn’t belong. God forbid you live your life freely away from flippant reminders of how just decades ago you would not have the same rights. How dare she feel comfortable?