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    • danischu

      I’ve seen Secretary, and read 50 Shades. I’ve also participated in BDSM relationships. All different kinds of them that meant different tings to different people. Everyone needs to stop trying to define BDSM. It means something different to everyone. From the casually interested referring to themselves as dom/sub because they have a sex toy or two to people who live in extreme communities/houses where everything from urination to food intake is controlled by the head Dom. People trying to figure out which one is more accurate? Is MOOT - because it’s DIFFERENT FOR EVERYONE. People wondering why the writer of 50 Shades hasn’t been charged? You need to go back and relearn the definition of plagiarism. Just because the two stories have similar themes doesn’t mean anyone was ripped off. I love the movie and the book - I think they’re both very very different. And people exist in this world just like James Spader’s character and Christian Grey. Stop shouting and screaming ‘ABUSE ABUSE.’ Ana’s character, in the end, decided it was not abuse and put up with it. She wanted it, she liked it, she asked for a red room to be put up in the house he Christian built for her. It just took them some time to work out the kinks (: together. This sort of thing happens in every relationship. So for once and for all STOP TRYING TO DEFINE BDSM. People in BDSM relationships can be creepers, lovers, fighters, in it for the right/wrong reasons (subjective) and so on and so forth. I hope I didn’t make this confusing ALL BDSM RELATIONS ARE DIFFERENT. DIFFERENT REASONS. DIFFERENT WAYS TO CONSENT. ETC.

    • danischu

      I have OCD and this doesn’t bother me. For years people have used mental disabilities casually as adjectives - it’s normal and unless it’s mean-spirited, UNoffensive. ALSO, for everyone saying that OCD has nothing to do with being organized - you’ve been misinformed. Maybe you, or someone you know has OCD that doesn’t manifest itself in this way, but it’s not uncommon. I have been diagnosed with mild obsessive compulsive disorder. What tipped me off was when having things organized my way became an increasingly ‘obsessive compulsion’ (see what I did there). In my case, I perform these behaviors to try to add order to the world around me and assuage fears. There are several other characteristics of my illness worse than this - but it is still a large component. Someone harmlessly poking fun at OCD doesn’t bother me, it’s better than walking on eggshells around me. When my friends did it - I felt normal. I also made fun of them back. Everyone needs to calm the shit down!!