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Let's Fight Over Whether Doing These 11 Controversial Things To Your Kid Makes You A Toxic Parent

Snooping through your kid's phone, banning junk food, punishing for bad grades, and more.

  1. 1. Sneaking into your kid's room to read their diary.

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1. Sneaking into your kid's room to read their diary.
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    That's good parenting. You need to know what your kid is up to.
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    That's toxic parenting. It's a total violation of their privacy.
  1. 2. Agreeing to buy your teenager a phone...on the condition that you have access to all their texts, photos, and apps.

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2. Agreeing to buy your teenager a phone...on the condition that you have access to all their texts, photos, and apps.
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    That's good parenting. They're lucky to get a phone, and as long as they know their parent will be looking through it, there's no violation taking place.
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    That's toxic parenting. Teenagers should be able to communicate privately with their friends.
  1. 3. Telling your kid they need to hug their relatives at the holidays.

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3. Telling your kid they need to hug their relatives at the holidays.
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    That's good parenting. Kids should always give their loved ones a hug when greeting them.
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    That's toxic parenting. Kids should be in control of their own bodies, and only hug people they want to hug.
  1. 4. Not allowing your child on social media (TikTok, Instagram, Snapchat, etc.) until they're 16+.

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4. Not allowing your child on social media (TikTok, Instagram, Snapchat, etc.) until they're 16+.
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    That's good parenting. Social media can do a lot of harm to young people. It's best to make them wait.
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    That's toxic parenting. If their friends are on it, they should be allowed on it, too. Don't isolate them.
  1. 5. Signing your kid up for activities that they aren't naturally interested in (whether it's sports, art, dance, theater, etc.).

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5. Signing your kid up for activities that they aren't naturally interested in (whether it's sports, art, dance, theater, etc.).
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    That's good parenting. It's important for kids to step out of their comfort zone and try new things.
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    That's toxic parenting. Kids should never be pushed into activities they're not excited about.
  1. 6. Forcing your kid to eat everything on their plate before they can leave the table.

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6. Forcing your kid to eat everything on their plate before they can leave the table.
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    That's good parenting. Kids should learn not to waste food.
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    That's toxic parenting. Kids should listen to their bodies and decide when they've had enough.
  1. 7. Punishing your kid if they come home with a bad report card.

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7. Punishing your kid if they come home with a bad report card.
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    That's good parenting. It's a matter of holding them to the highest standard possible.
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    That's toxic parenting. As long as the kid is trying their best, that's all you can ask.
  1. 8. Poking fun at your kid from time to time.

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8. Poking fun at your kid from time to time.
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    That's good parenting. As long as it's done with love and isn't constant, kids should learn to have a sense of humor about themselves.
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    That's toxic parenting. A parent should never make fun of their kid.
  1. 9. Comparing your kids to each other, in terms of their accomplishments and failures.

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9. Comparing your kids to each other, in terms of their accomplishments and failures.
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    That's good parenting. A little competition can motivate kids to do better.
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    That's toxic parenting. It can be hurtful to the child, and create resentment among siblings.
  1. 10. Forbidding your kids from eating junk food.

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10. Forbidding your kids from eating junk food.
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    That's good parenting. It's the best way to teach them healthy eating habits.
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    That's toxic parenting. It's better to teach them that all foods are okay in moderation.

And finally...

  1. 11. Venting about your personal problems (at work, in your friendships, in your marriage, etc.) to your kid.

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11. Venting about your personal problems (at work, in your friendships, in your marriage, etc.) to your kid.
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    That's good parenting. Kids and parents should be able to have frank conversations about life.
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    That's toxic parenting. Kids shouldn't have to take on their parents' problems. Save it for a therapist.