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    Dec 10, 2018

    39 Gifts For Your Significant Other That Are Secretly For You, Too

    Two gifts for the price of one, because you deserve a little something too!

    We hope you love the products we recommend! All of them were independently selected by our editors. Just so you know, BuzzFeed may collect a share of sales or other compensation from the links on this page if you decide to shop from them. Oh, and FYI — prices are accurate and items in stock as of time of publication.

    1. A question per day journal with lines for both you and your SO, leading to interesting discussion on topics like "Where would you like to travel together?", "What does your partner's laugh sound like?" and "What's the softest thing you're wearing today?"

    Amazon

    Get it from Amazon for $12.29.

    Promising review: "Super cute idea. My bf and I started filling this out. We don't get to see each other a lot face to face so every morning I open up the book and text him the question of the day and he sends me a response. Some of the questions are fun and others are very thoughtful and help us get to know more things about each other. It's a fun exercise and it's brought about a lot of interesting conversations for us!" —Heather

    2. An Amazon Echo Dot that'll be a a time- and space-saving way to settle all your arguments (and prove you're right, of course).

    Amazon

    In addition to proving YES, that actor WAS in that movie you saw last week, the Dot (powered by Alexa) will tell you the news, weather, play Jeopardy with you, play music, power any connected lights or appliances, and so much more. Google searches? I don't know her.

    Get it from Amazon for $24.99.

    Promising review: "I don't know how I even functioned before I had one of these. This one device has ended the age-old 'COULD YOU JUST CHECK WHAT TIME IT CLOSES PLEASE!' argument in my house. Want to know what traffic is like? Do you want to know when the movie starts? How about you want to wake up on time but you just found the comfy warm spot & realized your didn't set alarms for the morning so you are playing the alarm roulette game? Want to know about when that restaurant closes? Or maybe you need to turn on calming sleepy time music but your hands are trying to wrestle an infant screaming bloody murder because they enjoy being nudie and you are trying to get them into their feetie jim jams? ALEXA CAN HELP WITH THAT! It's only $50 ... just make your life easier."—Niki

    3. A contoured memory foam pillow designed to keep snorers in a ~quieter~ sleeping position — helping them (and you, duh) sleep better every night.

    Amazon

    Get it from Amazon for $52.99.

    Promising review: "I needed a pillow to help with shoulder pain & to help with snoring due to allergies. This pillow has helped with shoulder pain as now after using the pillow for only a few nights I wake up with much less pain & stiffness. My husband says my snoring has definitely decreased as I am able to sleep more comfortably on my side. I also liked that the pillow came in a very usable wrap that will protect the pillow for traveling. I would recommend this to anyone with snoring or other physical pain sleeping problems." —Gail Walters

    4. A bottle of odor-busting Poo-Pourri, because their deuces make you want to say ✌️ to your home for the rest of the day.

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    Get it from Amazon for $9.95 (available in seven bottle sizes and 21 scents).

    Promising review: "My mother bought both my husband and I a small bottle as a gag gift this past Christmas. Little did she know, this product would become a necessity in our household of five people. It has been a godsend to currently pregnant me, who finds offense in the scent of even the most pleasant of smells sometimes, never mind the smell of another human being's excrement. (Which is kind of ironic considering how much poo I'll be getting all up in just a few short months.) Poo-Pourri has made it possible for me to use the restroom within minutes (rather than hours) of a family member doing their business in there, which is vital considering how frequently pregnant women need to pee. After using up one of the small bottles gifted to us, I immediately logged into Amazon and bought the biggest bottle I could find using Subscribe & Save. Thank you Poo-Pourri, you're a gag-reflex saver!" —Rachel N. Briggs

    5. A subscription to Shaker and Spoon, a monthly box delivered right to your door to bring you all the ingredients you need to whip up three tasty cocktail recipes each month. You both need a good happy hour in 2018.

    CrateJoy

    Each recipe comes with all the ingredients you need (minus the actual main booze) to make four of each drink. Each box is themed around one kind of alcohol, so if one month doesn't sound good to you, you can just skip it.

    Subscribe at CrateJoy for $50+ per month.

    Promising review: "This is a great subscription box. It's chock full of fresh, high-quality ingredients. Makes playing home-bartender so much fun! Super easy to follow recipes that look and taste like a pro made them. I highly recommend to the person looking to get out of the rum & coke rut." —NIcki

    6. A tabletop game to make your home feel like a date night out to an arcade. Love means never having to leave the house to play air hockey.

    Urban Outfitters

    Get it from Urban Outfitters for $32.

    7. A velvety matte liquid lipstick that'll never transfer onto your skin, whether they're pecking you on the cheek or opting for an entire makeout sesh.

    amazon.com

    Get them from Amazon for $20 each (available in 38 colors).

    Promising review: "'Soft and velvety,' is what my fiancé says. He says the shade of red is the perfect color. Definitely not drying once it sets. Leaves my lips super soft and matte. Does not transfer while drinking coffee or giving your loved one a kiss on the cheek!! Love, love, love it!!!" —Mandolinsara

    8. An all natural beard balm made with vegan, organic ingredients like argan and avocado oils, plus shea butter and aloe to nourish skin and soften coarse hairs. You're tired of their beard being the scratchiest!

    Amazon

    It has over 4,000 five-star reviews from other beard-havers!

    Get it from Amazon for $10.86.

    Promising review: "RARRRH! I just want to get ALL UP IN THERE with my face and hands when my hubby puts this on!! And I do. LOL! After reading the reviews about the scent I was hesitant because I don't like most colognes and licorice scents make me nauseated but it doesn't smell like that at all to me, in the can or on my man. It's hard to pinpoint but smells so masculine, clean woodsy, and just wonderful manliness to this sensitive schnoz! Much to my chagrin, it fades progressively after a couple of hours. My hubby keeps his beard and 'stach to a trimmed medium/shorter length but I have noticed a big difference in shine and softness with his twice a day use. He also has sensitive skin prone to breakouts and has not had any trouble with this product clogging his pores...or mine. :) He's promo'ed Honest Amish to his bearded buddies as I have to my girlfriends with bearded menfolk. No one product is perfect for 100% of users but we highly recommend you try this stuff." —KCKENDRICK

    9. An Amazon Fire TV stick you can simply plug into your existing TV and stream all the shows, movies, and music you want. Enjoy it with your partner for an at-home date night, or by yourself when you simply can't wait for them to watch that next episode of Riverdale.

    Amazon

    You can use the voice button to find shows, launch apps, search for type of movie ("Alexa find suspense thrillers") OR EVEN ORDER A PIZZA from Dominos!

    Get it from Amazon for $39.99.

    Promising review: "Earlier this month, my TV entertainment included Dish 200+ channel satellite TV, 20Mbps turbo internet, Netflix, and Amazon Prime. After doing some research, I bought three Amazon Fire Sticks with the voice remote, cancelled Dish, upgraded to 30Mbps internet, added Sling 25 channels, added standard Hulu, and CBS All Access. Guess who still gets 96+% of the channels watched, added Prime Music and several hundred shows (that networks don't play) to all the TVs in the house, and saved over $700 per year compared to what I paid this past year? I did. I never thought of cutting the cord until I really looked into it all. Getting Amazon Fire Sticks are worth it and they work well....and once you get used to knowing what show plays where, it's a no-brainer. If you're like me, and you don't watch 80% of the channels you pay for, it's so worth it." —Amazon Customer

    10. A suggestive mug that, when they use it on a Saturday morning, will inadvertently trick them into inviting you to do your favorite activity.

    Etsy

    Get it from Brittany Garner Design on Etsy for $22+ (available in two sizes).

    11. A useful and pretty photography guide so they can develop their burgeoning interest... and also so they'll take pics guaranteed to up your 'gram followers.

    amazon.com

    Get it from Amazon for $12.50.

    Promising review: "This book is fantastic especially for people that are either new to photography or are looking to find different ideas for backgrounds and aspects that make pictures more appealing to the observer. This book is easy to understand and really does explain the pictures with summary that is detailed enough for the reader to follow but not so detailed that people that are new to photography will be lost with terminology." —Roscoe B.

    12. A Blue Apron subscription, because they've expressed an interest in learning to cook, but you're expressed NO interest in tasting their weird experiments.

    Blue Apron

    Choose between the two-person plan or the family plan, and you'll get 2-4 recipes each week with every step mapped out. It's delivered right to your door with fresh, locally sourced ingredients— in just the right amounts you need.

    Subscriptions start at $7.49 per serving.

    13. A Nintendo Switch that'll...well... switch between a handheld game and a multi-player console (just detach the side controllers and use the tablet or plug it into your TV!) — so you can be like "leave me alone and go play with your Switch" *or* play together when you feel like it.

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    The Joy-Con can be used separately for two-player action, inserted into the Joy-Con grip like a traditional controller, held in each hand for left and right controls, or attached to either side of the Nintendo Switch!

    Get it from Amazon for $299 (available in two colors).

    Promising review: "I absolutely love the Nintendo Switch. The ability to play my games on both the TV and on the go is something I didn't ever really think was possible. The system design cleverly blends a table with conventional gaming controls that several others have tried, and failed, to do before (Nvidia Shiled Tablet comes to mind). It is easy and very satisfying to unclick the controllers from the sides of the tablet portion for use as either individual controllers, or to dock them into the included grip for use as a more conventional controller. Although the controllers are on the smaller side, I have not experienced any discomfort with extended, hours-long play sessions so far. Nintendo does make a pro controller for those who want something different, so your mileage may vary.

    The tablet itself easily slides into the included docking station and within seconds is displaying game information on the TV. The included HDMI cable is a good length so I was able to connect to the TV with no problems. The included power/USB-C cord was likewise a good length so I didn't have to compromise on where I stationed the dock. Battery life has been about as expected for a tablet pushing out such high-quality games, and I have not had issues with running out of power, especially since you can charge via USB-C which I use for my phone as well. I have had a great time playing Switch so far (Zelda being one of the absolute best games I have played in years), and am really looking forward to many of the games on the horizon. I look forward to what Nintendo has to offer, and am thrilled with what I've got so far!" —Ted Gleason

    14. Or a classic Nintendo Entertainment System with an old-school look that's pre-loaded with 30 games, including Super Mario Bros, Donkey Kong, The Legend of Zelda, Pac-Man, Final Fantasy, and many more.

    Amazon

    All you need to do is plug it right into your TV and get playing! It only comes with one controller, but you can get extras from Amazon for $15.95 each.

    Get it from Amazon for $59.99

    Promising review: "So in love with this NES Classic. It immediately took me back to my childhood. There are so many games! I didn’t realize how many were loaded. Cord for the controller is also just as short as it used to be. Lol So you may want to order a longer one. Or lay on the floor near the TV like you did in your youth." —Amazon Customer

    15. A beautiful blank genealogy chart so you can trace your family trees together for display on your wall.

    Amazon

    Get it from Amazon for $15.95. Also available in a colorful version.

    Promising review: "Chart is nice quality. I filled it out, put it in a nice frame and hung it in the hallway. It looks great, and is a nice conversation piece. I love seeing my husband's and my lineage at a glance!" —NotTheNany

    If you're interested in learning even more about your family history, you can also give a 23andMe DNA testing kit. Just mail in a saliva sample, and you'll get results delivered in 6-8 weeks!

    16. A golden scratch off map of the world you can fill out to encourage future trips together. Any place that's still gold? Plan a vacation!

    Amazon

    This one has specific cities listed, so you can scratch off the gold more carefully if you've been to Rome but not Florence, for example.

    Get it from Amazon for $28.99.

    Promising review: "This map is exactly what I wanted. I have traveled extensively most of my adult life, both in my 21 years as a Marine and 32 cruises with my wife. I wanted a map with the names of the major cities of the world and this one meets my needs. Packaging and shipping was great and on time. I would highly recommend this map to anyone. I intend to mount it on poster board (cork) and use push pins to mark our world travels." —Kindle Customer

    17. A stovetop espresso maker that'll brew two cups at once — meaning they basically have no excuse not to make one for you at the same time.

    MoMA

    Get it from the MoMA store for $45.

    18. Or a half-gallon cold brew maker, because mornings will go much more smoothly when there's enough delicious iced coffee to go around. Just twist the lid and pour — and be on your way.

    Amazon

    It comes with a removable filter for easy brewing (it works best with a coarser, French press–style grind).

    Get it from Amazon for $34.55 (also available in a smaller one-quart size).

    Promising review: "We use this all the time in my house. A little less than when I initially bought it, as there's less call for cold brew in the winter, but it still gets some use. I generally prefer glass to plastic in my kitchen, but the body of it seems to have held up well despite extensive and extended use. I certainly recommend it if you're looking tired of making cold brew at home with the mason jar method, but still don't want to spill the cash for a fancier-than-necessary alternative." —Matthew Baird

    I have the smaller version of this and I LOVE IT! Check out my full review for all the deets.

    19. A Prime membership to give the gift of free two-day shipping, streaming movies, TV, and music, exclusive products and deals, and a selection of Kindle e-books. It's not like you're going to use it too.... or will you?

    Amazon

    Get a three-month gift membership for $33 and a 12-month membership for $99.

    20. A super slim portable battery with two USB ports so ~both~ of your devices can be charging at the same time. Oh, and by the way, it has over 11,000 FIVE-STAR REVIEWS!

    Amazon

    Get it from Amazon for $39.99.

    Promising review: "What is there to say about Anker power banks? This thing rocks! I'm able to get five full charges on my iPhone 6 and two full charges on my iPad mini 2, from just one full charge of this power bank. It packs away really nicely in the provided mesh pouch, and though it's a bit long in length, it's not obtrusive to get in the way of taking it along in your daily carry. Well worth it for the money! Highly recommended!" —Josho4

    21. A 12-inch green tea-infused memory foam mattress so *your* sleep will never be interrupted when *they* toss and turn. Maybe a mattress seems like a weird present, but honestly the gift of a good night's sleep is the best gift of all.

    Amazon

    Get a 12-inch deep queen-size mattress from Amazon for $248.68 (available in sizes twin–California king and 6"–12" depths).

    Promising review: "This mattress is absolutely amazing! I purchased this mattress a couple weeks ago. Both my husband's and my sleep quality has improved so much. Every time we got on the bed we are knocked out. With this memory foam mattress, we do not need to constantly turn on the bed to get comfortable anymore. The memory foam just adjusts to our body shape. It is also very steady and quiet. I am a very sensitive sleeper. I wakes up even with the slightest sound or movement. With this mattress, I barely notice my husband's movements on the bed anymore. I am able to sleep through the nights. Highly recommend to anybody who is looking to improve their sleep quality!" —Amazon Customer

    22. A Kindle Paperwhite with a glare-free screen that looks like an actual book page, so they won't keep you up when they can't put their book down.

    Amazon

    Being able to read in a completely dark room?? 🎶 Miracles happen, once in a while. 🎶

    Get it from Amazon for $129.99+.

    Promising review: "My new kindle is great! My last kindle didn’t have the backlight and my new one does. This is a great feature, especially for those of us that like to read in bed at night while our spouse is sleeping. The light is also adjustable so your eyes don’t tired. This is truly my favorite way to read!" —Shannon Lewis

    Learn more about the features of the new 2018 Kindle Paperwhite in our closer look!

    23. Or a hands-free book light that'll simply hang around their neck and focus all the glow on the page — not on your sleeping face. Plus, they won't have to keep adjusting it from page to page, creating less noise.

    Amazon

    Get it from Amazon for $13.99 (available in four colors).

    Promising review: "This is a must have for anyone who likes to read. Especially if you like to read at night. Let’s start with the different lighting options. You can set it to project either a spotlight or a floodlight depending on what you need. These two light features along with the flexible arms make it super versatile and can deliver results in different of situations. If you are reading on a plane, in a car on a long drive, or in your bed, you can be sure you’ll have just the right amount of light to read and not annoy your companion. The rechargeable design saves you from buying batteries. It has a built-in lithium battery that gives you long lasting results. I have yet to run the battery down after four nights of reading. I charge it once a week now and I am good all week. It is light enough that I don’t even notice it on my neck while in bed reading. You don’t have to use it on your neck either. You can coil it up and set it on a table or on your lap. It's one of those things that once you have it you wonder how you got by without." —EJ Husar

    24. A hilarious yet useful cuddling pillow so they can feel the joy of being the little spoon... without your arm falling asleep.

    Amazon

    Get it from Amazon for $34.99+ (available in eight colors).

    Promising review: "I ordered this for my girlfriend and she loves it. The pillow that came with it is high quality and is comfortable to lay on." —Amazon Customer

    25. A nifty notepad perfect for sending little love letters to each other. You can fill out the top one when you give it to them — and the rest of the pad? Guess they'll be sent to you! 😍

    Amazon

    Get it from Amazon for $11.

    Promising review: "With this pad, it is incredibly easy to be both romantic and efficient. I've been using this consistently for a few months now — filling out a sheet when I feel especially enamored with my partner and sending it to his apartment. This way, he gets a delayed but genuine affirmation of my appreciation for him, which makes him feel appreciated and woo-ed. It's a really fun and easy way to do that, because what's easier than checking off a few boxes? My roommates and I use the Knock Knock pads for a variety of things--especially this one and the one for grocery shopping lists." —Rachel F.

    26. A BuzzFeed Tasty Ultimate cookbook, a collection of 150 recipes, kitchen hacks, and the best techniques, because you've watched the videos like a bajillion times together, and you want them to cook one for you, dangit!

    Amazon

    Get it from Amazon for $13.74.

    27. Or an Instant Pot for whipping up press-the-button-and-watch-the-magic-happen dishes and meals — maybe they'll finally ~get cooking~ on all those recipes they have saved.

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    Use it to make low-effort rice, pressure cooked dishes, slow cooked dishes, and so so so so so much more.

    Promising review: "I can't believe that I love this thing. All my friends were getting them and raving about it. But I absolutely hate my slow cooker, and I figured this device would be much the same. I finally decided to get one when my friend posted that she had made amazing carnitas in it. My husband is Mexican and carnitas are his favorite food, so I thought I'd get one to try it out and hope everyone was right. The first thing I made (after the water test) was the carnitas and they KNOCKED OUR SOCKS OFF. Then I made rice and it came out better than my old rice cooker. Tonight I made ribs and the entire family went wild. I've had this Instant Pot for roughly 48 hours and I'm already using it for a fourth time right now to make oatmeal. Get one. You will not be sorry." —Regina Croskey-Corcoran

    Get a six-quart Instant Pot from Amazon for $59.95+ (also available in three-quart and eight-quart sizes).

    Still wondering if this is right for you? Check out I Tried The Instant Pot That Everyone's Obsessed With for an in-depth look.

    28. A straight-up closet doubling hanging rack to help organize their stuff... and also give YOU significantly more closet room.

    Amazon

    Get one from Amazon for $16.91.

    Promising review: "Well, I ordered this one, after listening to my husband complain about how much clothing my girls have and how cluttered the closet looks. He advised me to get rid of some of the clothes, so I ordered this product to see if we could organize it better. Wow, it is just amazing how much space this little thing can create. The closet does not look messy or bulky anymore, it definitely doubled the space in the closet. One thing I really like is that you can move the bottom bar as you need it, and the clothing in the bottom has enough space. Those little hooks to hang purses and hats —wow, great idea. I got another to organize my closet, and I am so excited to see the end result." —Amazon Customer

    29. A plush corgi they'll fall in love with so hard, they'll finally acquiesce to your wish to finally get a pupper of your own.

    Amazon

    Get it from Amazon for $14.95 (available in six colors).

    30. A sushi-making kit so you can both save money by whipping up rolls at home rather than frequenting the local Japanese restaurant.

    Amazon

    The set includes a training frame, non-stick paddle, and the SushiQuik Roll Cutter.

    Get the kit from Amazon for $18.95.

    Promising review: "Made sushi for the first time last night and it was awesome!!! This thing is so easy!! I was able to make rolls with rice on the outside with no problem — just added a little water to the roll mat and voila! I purchased eel sauce and made spicy mayo and put them in squirt bottles to give the platter that restaurant look. I also added black sesame seeds to the outside of one and a very inexpensive black caviar to another. My guests and husband were all amazed!" —Beach Moma

    31. A reversible sequin pillow you can run your hands over to reveal the hidden face beneath. Surprise your S.O. with a cute sequin pillow, and watch their face when they realize there's ~something else~ beneath.

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    Get them from Amazon for $22 each (available in Nic Cage, Jeff Goldblum, and one with fan-favorite The Office quote: "Dwight, you ignorant slut."

    32. Queer Eye: Love Yourself. Love Your Life., so you can reap all the rewards of a Fab Five makeover, complete with tips and tricks & dos and don'ts for fashion, food, decor, style, and even self-branding help.

    Amazon

    Get it from Amazon for $18.24.

    33. A pair of Han and Leia pillowcases to express your love on the daily — with the added bonus of never getting your pillows mixed up again.

    amazon.com

    Get them from Amazon for $28.

    34. A crepe-making set complete with 12-inch nonstick griddle and wooden spreader to ensure the lightest, thinnest crepes outside of Paris.

    Amazon

    Get it from Amazon for $29.95.

    Promising review: "Excellent product. I am not good at making crepes with a pan but this gadget makes it very easy. I like that it doesn’t have small crevices where batter can get stuck. This device is very easy to wipe clean. It was still on my counter after breakfast, so we just used it to make grilled cheese. I’m glad that we bought this and am looking forward to experimenting with different fillings for breakfast, brunch, lunch, dinner and dessert." —Virginia Lawyer Mom

    35. And a tray with slide-proof slots for a phone and tablet so those crepes can be delivered for breakfast in bed.

    Amazon

    Get it from Amazon for $38.96 (available in three colors).

    Promising review: "This tray is so comfortable. It's great for working, eating, or studying in bed. The adjustable incline is awesome for laptops and the mouse pad is really useful. I like the drawer, too; its great for storing pencils, pens, or earbuds. In the slots for the phone and tablet there is a little space to slip your charger in. I am very impressed with this lap desk. It's very comfortable for breakfast in bed. I've used it about three months now, and the more I use it, the more I like it. I strongly recommend it." —Lana GF

    36. A Little Box of Date Nights with 56 cards of activities to ~spice up your life~ so you don't have to resort to "Idk, what do YOU want to do?"

    Etsy

    Get it from Flytrap on E on Etsy for $21.

    37. A copy of the Llama Sutra that'll put the ~adult~ in "adult coloring." Talk about an 😉 activity book😉!

    Amazon

    Get it from Amazon for $4.53.

    Promising review: "This is hysterical. We love this silly Llama Sutra. Be forewarned though, not all drawings are of llamas — other animals are mixed in the book in various 'sexual' positions. There are no graphic depictions of animal privates, just tasteful silliness various animals in classic Kama Sutra positions." —Lauren R.

    38. A pair of mugs that'll really come in handy when one of you is deciding when to ask a favor early in the morning.

    Amazon

    Get a matching pair from Amazon for $22.89.

    Promising review: "SO fun to use these mugs! I've seen similar ones that aren't clear, but the clear part is what makes it funny because you (and whoever is blessed to sit with you in the morning while you're cranky) can see just when other people are allowed to speak." —Linda M. Parker

    39. An elegant cheese board with cracker slots, because your 2018 resolution is more wine-and-cheese dinners – without having to invite other people over.

    Amazon

    It's made from environmentally-friendly bamboo, and it even has the names of different cheeses emblazoned on it for a ~fancier~ look.

    Get it from Amazon for $15.97.

    Promising review: "I absolutely love this charcuterie and cheese board! The hubby and I love winding down with some wine, cheese and charcuterie. We have tried other boards, and usually the crackers tumble off the board as I walk from the kitchen to the couch (Yes I am clumsy). The nice thing about this board is that is comes with grooves on each side to hold things like crackers, or olives or nuts, things that usually roll off my other boards haha." —Foreverjaded

    You, as you plan out your totally-selfless-no-skin-in-the-game present:

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