We recently asked members of BuzzFeed Community to share their worst breakup stories. Here are the horrifying results.
1. Submitted by Abby Morris (Facebook)
I dated a guy for a few months. One day, he stopped returning my texts/calls. He told me he was having "family trouble" and couldn't talk. This went on for a few days until I found out the real reason he wasn't talking to me: He was waiting for his breakup postcard to arrive in my mailbox. That's right. He broke up with me via postcard. A POSTCARD.
2. Submitted by meghans43902c575
We had dated for a while and talked about getting married. After a couple months of future planning we decided to go look at rings. The next night after looking at rings, he showed up at my house, knocked on the door, gave me a hug and kiss, looked deep into my eyes, and said, "I think we should break up."
3. Submitted by Brooke Michael (Facebook)
I was dating this guy for three years, and things were getting pretty serious. He had already bought an engagement ring, and he bought me a promise ring for my 21st birthday.
Things started to get rocky when he told me he wanted to go to three to four video game competitions a year. As we were getting more serious, I was thinking about the future and what that money could go to, and he just wanted to continue to play video games professionally. An hour later, he broke up with me, saying, "Video games are my biggest dreams, and this is my biggest opportunity, and this is what I want to do and this is who I am."
I gave him back all his stuff. Now, he won't give me back my Pyrex dish, or my T-shirts because he just doesn't want to. A breakup, all because of video games. And, all I want is my Pyrex dish back.
4. Submitted by rosiem4a17ba012
So I'm about to jump in the shower and my boyfriend texts me saying that he's going to head over early, the night before we made plans to go out. A little while later he pokes his head in the bathroom to let me know that he was there and that he'd hang out in my room to wait for me. I get out of the shower all wrapped in my towel, open my door, and he's there sitting on the edge of my bed with a piece of paper in his hand. I was still in my towel.
"You're breaking up with me aren't you?" He shakes his head yes: "I wrote you a letter. Do you wanna get dressed first?"
"A LETTER?! YOU'RE BREAKING UP WITH ME IN A LETTER?! WTF?!" "Just read it." "Read it in front of you?!" So yeah, I read it. This jerk didn't even rewrite the letter. There were words scratched out. Favorite one was "...I don't love you anymore." When the original line clearly said "…I don't love you as much anymore." I read the whole two-page letter in my towel while he said absolutely nothing.
5. Submitted by Pamela Dodd (Facebook)
Things were soooo good. Like, we were really happy and in an actual committed relationship. He was tinkering around with the idea of moving out of state, but didn't mention it much. I figured it was just talk. On Christmas Eve, while at a bonfire at a mutual friend's house, she said, "So, you're moving to Providence on Jan. 27 right?" Without missing a beat he replies, "The 29. Driving up with my friend and going on tour." I'm like, HUH WHAT?!? I confronted him about it later and tried to break up with him, but he assured me that we could work through the separation. He said, "Give it a year; you never know what could happen. I don't want to break up over this." He moved.
We stayed together (lots of FaceTime dates). Once he felt settled in, I made arrangements to go up and visit him for a week in March. Things had been going really well and I was investigating moving to Providence. TWO DAYS before I am due to fly up, he calls me and is acting really weird. I pressure him to spill the beans and he says, "I just don't know if we should keep dating ... I feel so weird being in a long-distance relationship. It's too hard." You know, after months of sappy conversations about how much he missed me, etc. And after I dropped $200 to fly from Tampa to Providence in MARCH (because, Jesus, who wants to go to Providence in MARCH??)
6. Submitted by Melanie Friesen (Facebook)
I was engaged to be married to a guy. We had dated in high school, broken up, gotten back together a decade or so later, and had a wonderful relationship. Or so I thought. It was long distance, but we were just months away from our wedding, so I quit my job, gave notice on my apartment, all that good stuff. Days later, he calls me and says, "I love you, but I don't want to marry you or have you move down here." Completely devastated. But, after running away for a week, my boss gave me my job back and my landlord was cool. Things were slowly getting on track... Then I got a call. I had won one of those damn "win the dress of your dreams" contests in Bride Magazine. I asked them to give it to someone else.
I still enter stupid sweepstakes, because I figure my sweepstakes karma has got to be pretty good after that. :)
7. Submitted by Becca McCarthy (Facebook)
After about a year and a half of dating, my boyfriend ghosted me. He completely stopped talking and responding to me without any explanation. This was three months after we graduated from college and we were living six hours apart so I couldn't just drive to his house. Two months later, I went back to visit a friend. He still lived in that city with his parents so I made a surprise visit to his house. We talked, had dinner, and he explained some things. Over the next few weeks we worked things out and were officially together again. He came to visit me for a week during Christmas, then we had our "two-year" anniversary in March and everything was going great.
Until HE DID IT AGAIN! NO EXPLANATIONS, NO CALL, NO TEXT, NO RESPONSES, NOTHING. So I guess this technically isn't a "breakup story" because he never had the balls to actually break up with me.
8. Submitted by Jessica Wittich (Facebook)
I was still working on getting over a guy I had been with for four years when I rebounded pretty hard on a co-worker. A week or so after we stared dating, we were invited to a party and since we had all been drinking, we crashed at the host's place.
After that party, he started acting super distant and not really wanting to spend much time together until a month later when I was sick.
Toward the end of one night, we were chatting on MSN Messenger and he said he was going to BRB because he needed to shower. About five minutes later he showed up at my apartment and we spent the night cuddling and making out.
Then he broke up with me the next day before I went to work. Over MSN Messenger.
9. Submitted by Elijah Harvey (Facebook)
I was 18 (this was in 2002) working for $5.50 an hour at the grocery store part time and in college. I saved up for about six months to take my girl at the time to Red Lobster for Valentine's Day. I threw on a tux, drove about 40 miles to get her, and her mom said that she wasn't there...and that I should just go back to my dorms. She never hit me back that day. The next day she called me back and said she didn't want to see me again and hung up. I bought myself a video game with the money that I was going to spend on her dinner. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
10. Submitted by Dianna Alix Adiemus Hawryluk (Facebook)
Nearly two months into the relationship, we were working a high school reunion and these two guys I knew showed up to volunteer. Naturally, we, as the youngest people there, starting chatting and whatnot. The party had just started and I was the starting runner for the night, so I was chilling by the buffet tables while my ex and the others worked the buffet. At one point, I looked over at him and noticed that he was visibly irritated that I had male company. I shrugged it off, knowing that these guys were just acquaintances. Upon returning to our room, he took his laptop and went down to the lobby.
I followed him down a bit later, under the assumption that maybe we'd watch stupid videos or something. Instead, he opened Notepad and started typing. I don't remember what was written exactly, but we had a back and forth silent breakup through a freaking word processor. A WORD PROCESSOR. We were sitting next to each other.
11. Submitted by Carson Theresa Cekola (Facebook)
I dated a kid for a year and we spent our anniversary together. The day after, I went to visit my family for a week. He had ignored all of my texts for the week, and I couldn't get ahold of him so I called his house phone on my last day to see if I could see him on my way back. His dad answered (he lived at home) and told me that my boyfriend had moved to New York to live with his sister (we live in Michigan). I asked a few of his friends if they knew anything. They told me that he had been planning on moving for the last five months, with a predetermined date set.
As if that wasn't bad enough, one of them asked why I was upset. Confused, I asked why he'd think that I wouldn't be upset. He responded by saying that my boyfriend had told him that we had broken up four months ago. He didn't even think we were together, and thought we were still just close.
12. Submitted by kellye9
It was just a few days after Valentine's Day (where he gave me a card saying something like "I can't believe we've been dating this long but I love it and you."). We spent the afternoon together — he bought me lunch and we walked around Walmart. We went back to my apartment and he walked me to my door and before I went inside he said, "I don't know how to say this, but…" and proceeded to break up with me. Note to all guys out there: Don't take a girl to lunch and then break up with her an hour later.
13. Submitted by Id Edkut (Facebook)
I had to break up with my ex over text. I felt horrible about it, but I would text him "Hey" every two or three days and get nothing. The minute I texted, "I really care about you but I'm pretty sure you don't care about me, so sorry but I have to break up with you," he texts back — and I am not kidding — "K" in less than two seconds. It was the fastest interaction we had ever had.
14. Submitted by laraparker
I was with a guy for several years. We were PRETTY serious and I was obviously planning the wedding on Pinterest. One night, there was a knock on my front door and I opened it to find his mom standing on my doorstep. She immediately hugged me and started crying. I was, like, really confused by this point until I heard her say, "I just can't believe he broke up with you." Except the thing was that he HADN'T. HE HAD NOT BROKEN UP WITH ME. His mom had just done it for him. And there I was, standing in my mismatched pajamas, hugging my boyfriend's mom while she cried about our breakup that I hadn't even known about.
15. Submitted by Quinn Slayton (Facebook)
He emailed me at work to break up with me. The subject line was "FYI."
16. Submitted by Justin Blea (Facebook)
I was living with a girl for more than a year and she decided to break up with me (after two years) and less than two weeks before my birthday. Then because we worked at the same restaurant, she asked me to cover for her on Valentine's Day... she said it was important. She asked to borrow my truck. I let her. When she returned it to me, I found a receipt for a hotel room for THAT NIGHT in my center console. Happy Valentine's Day to me.
17. Submitted by lauram141
I once dated this guy in high school. One day I walked out of class to find my friend holding a calculator (you know, the graphing ones that you can type letters into) and she told me to read it. He had written me a message telling me he thinks it's better this way and that this represented our relationship. He broke up with me through a graphing calculator. A. GRAPHING. CALCULATOR.
18. Submitted by Betsy Lee (Facebook)
He broke up with me via a FACEBOOK MESSAGE. A FACEBOOK MESSAGE. When we lived on the SAME FLOOR in the dorm at college. That is the equivalent of a Post-It note in today's society. Apparently face to face was too hard for him.