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15 "Sex And The City" Moments That Aged Very, Very Poorly

"White guy with a baby. Wherever he's going, that's where we need to be." —Miranda apartment hunting in Brooklyn

We asked the BuzzFeed Community to tell us the most problematic moments from Sex and the City. Here are some that definitely don't hold up today:

Note: Submissions include topics of sexual assault.

1. When Carrie learned that Barkley, the Soho womanizer, videotaped his sexual experiences with models without their consent, and the show just brushed it off like it was nothing.

Carrie: "Do they know about this?" Barkely: "Maybe..."
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2. When Miranda went apartment hunting in Brooklyn and told her son they needed to follow the "white guy with a baby" in order to secure a "good home" for themselves.

Miranda walking in Brooklyn, telling Brady: "Look. White guy with a baby! Wherever he's going, that's where we need to be"
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3. When Carrie complained to the girls about her gold engagement ring from Aidan, and stated she only wore "ghetto gold" jewelry for "fun."

Miranda: "You were gold jewelry." Carrie: "Yeah, like, ghetto gold. For fun. But this is my engagement ring"
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4. When Samantha dated Chivon in Season 3 and made horribly racist comments about their relationship.

Samantha telling the girls: "I don't see color. I see conquests."

5. And when the SATC writers leaned into the problematic "angry Black woman" trope to make Samantha look "innocent" compared to Chivon's sister, Adeena.

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6. When Miranda, Carrie, Samantha, and Charlotte traveled to Abu Dhabi and did extremely culturally insensitive things, like wear niqābs so they could escape a "mob" and get to the airport before being bumped from first class.

Miranda, Carrie, Samantha, and Charlotte wearing niqābs; Miranda screaming from the car: "We've got a lot of Abu Dhabi to do -- Abu Dhabi do!"
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7. When Carrie's boyfriend told her he identified as bisexual, and she couldn't stop criticizing him behind his back.

Carrie to Miranda: "I'm not even sure bisexuality exists. I think it's just a layover on the way to Gay Town"
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8. When Samantha gained 15 pounds after moving to LA, and the girls held an intervention where they essentially fat-shamed her.

Samantha: "I guess I didn't realize how big I was until I saw it on your faces." Carrie: "How -- and I say this with love -- how could you not realize it?!"
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9. When the girls were totally unsupportive when Samantha explored her sexuality and had a relationship with a woman named Maria.

Samantha: "Well, I'm dating someone. Someone I actually like. Maria."
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10. And when Samantha broke up with Maria because they talked about their feelings too much, perpetuating an annoying stereotype about woman-loving-woman relationships.

Samantha: "I don't want talk -- I want passion. I want fireworks!" Maria: You want fireworks?! Here are fireworks!" Maria breaks Samantha's plates
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11. When Miranda had a hard time buying an apartment in Manhattan because of a sexist broker, and Charlotte suggested it was her fault because she was an independent woman.

Charlotte to Miranda: "If you own and he rents, then the power structure is all off. It's emasculating. Men don't want a woman who's too self-sufficient"
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12. When Samantha hosted the girls at her apartment and made an inappropriate comment that queer men only cared about fashion and having sex.

Samantha in her apartment telling Carrie and Miranda: "Gay men understand what's important. Clothes, compliments, and c*cks"

13. And when she ended her loving relationship with James because he had a small penis.

Samantha: "I'm ready, put it in." James: It is." Samantha crying in the bathroom: "Why? Why does he have to have a small dick? I really like him"

14. When the SATC team leaned into the annoying trope that a woman's favorite hobby in life was shopping for clothes and shoes.

Carrie looking through a window: "People who say that money can't buy happiness obviously don't know about galliano at Dior." Charlotte looking through a window: "Charlotte, like every normal woman, had a thing for shoes"
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15. And when Samantha complained about the Black trans sex workers outside of her apartment building and called them a derogatory term.

Samantha: "I am paying a fortune to live in a neighborhood that's trendy by day and tranny by night"

Submissions have been edited for length and clarity.

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