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    People Shared The TV Shows That Actually Did A Good Job Of Depicting Grief, And These Are All Must-Watches

    "It's just gonna drown me."

    Recently, we asked the BuzzFeed Community to tell us the TV shows and scenes that did a really good job of depicting grief. Here are some of their responses!

    WARNING: Spoilers ahead! Also, some of the submissions contain mentions of child abuse and depression.

    1. Zoey and her family's slow grief over losing their patriarch to a degenerative condition on Zoey's Extraordinary Playlist:

    while dancing, Zoey asks her dad what she'll do when she can't hear him sing anymore, and he says she'll always hear him, whether it's a song or not, and all she has to do is listen

    2. Marshall's grief after his father died on How I Met Your Mother:

    Marshall tells Ted about driving with his dad as a kid, and how it seemed he could see in the darkness, saying "And now he's just gone, and it's pitch black. I can't see where I'm going. I can't see anything"

    3. The collective grief explored in The Leftovers:

    Nora talks about being sick with her family, saying she's not asking for that perfect day at the beach, but just that horrible Saturday, her whole family sick and miserable, but alive and together

    4. Haley's depression after her mom died in One Tree Hill:

    Nathan pulls Haley away from the flaming piano, asking her if she's okay and what happened. Haley says she's gonna go call her mom

    5. The aftermath of Joyce's death on Buffy the Vampire Slayer, but especially Anya's monologue:

    Anya talks about how she doesn't understand why Joyce can't just get back in her body and wake up, and how Joyce can't eat or drink or brush her hair anymore, and it's all mortal and stupid

    6. Caroline's grief after her mother died on The Vampire Diaries, but especially the scene where Damon tells her grief gets worse after the first few days:

    Damon tells Caroline, "Today it's the worst day of your life. Today and tomorrow, that's a cakewalk. There'll be people around day in and day out like they're afraid to leave you alone. The worst day? That's next week, when there's nothing but quiet"

    7. Sid going to school and then a club because he didn't know what else to do after his dad died on Skins:

    Sid says he came to school because he didn't know what else to do, and Tony asks what happened, but Sid says he can't say it

    8. Jane's immediate reaction to discovering Michael is dead in Jane the Virgin:

    Jane learns Michael is dead on the phone, then screams and falls down, Rafael holding her

    9. Everything about Sorry for Your Loss:

    Leigh says, "I hate how in the beginning, everyone wants to send you flowers. And then they stop calling and writing and doing nice things for you because they're over it, and they expect you to be over it"

    10. President Bartlet's crisis of faith in the church after Mrs. Landingham was killed by a drunk driver on The West Wing:

    Jed calls God a son of a bitch, saying Mrs. Landingham had just bought her first new car and he hit her with a drunk driver, then yells in Latin "Am I to believe these things from a righteous God, a just God, a wise God?"

    11. BoJack's eulogy for his mother on BoJack Horseman:

    Bojack talks about how when someone toxic in your family dies, you realize you'll never have the relationship you wanted, and as long as they were alive, some stupid part of you still hoped for that, and you didn't realize it until they died

    12. The aftermath of Finn's death on Glee:

    Burt says he wished he hugged him the last time he saw him and Kurt takes Finn's jacket saying it made him look like Superman and Carol talks about the pain of losing a child and wondering how she's going to do it

    13. The entirety of Six Feet Under, but especially Brenda's complicated feelings after Nate died:

    Brenda imagines Nate in the car next to her, berating her for her "wronged wife" routine and for being mad she has to raise Maya, and calling her family psychotic, saying they all destroy everything they love — Brenda cries for him to leave her alone

    14. Piper's anger over Prue's death on Charmed:

    banging on Prue's grave, Piper says, "How could you go and die and leave me here alone? Please come back? I need you. Please come back. How could she think that I could live without her?"

    15. Meredith having to explain Derek's death to their children on Grey's Anatomy:

    Meredith tells Zola she can't fix Derek, because no one can, because he's dead

    16. Devi's dreams and memories of her father, who died suddenly, in Never Have I Ever:

    In a dream, Devi tells her dad that he died, and he says "Oh, that? I'm better now," then Devi wakes up and looks sad

    17. The complicated exploration of grief over a bad parent on The Umbrella Academy:

    18. Cristina's description of what happens after death in Grey's Anatomy:

    Cristina tells a young girl that if her mom dies, she'll feel like she could've done more, but that's not true; she did everything she could. Cristina says it'll hurt every time she thinks of her mom, but will hurt less and less over time

    19. Basically everything about Wanda's grief over both Vision and her brother in WandaVision:

    Next to Vision, Wanda says, "It's just like, this wave washing over me again and again. It knocks me down, and when I try to stand up, it just comes for me again. And I can''s just gonna drown me"

    20. Haley trying to explain Quentin's death to her class on One Tree Hill:

    in class, Haley says she should've said that she doesn't know the point of life, not that there isn't one. She says that when something awful happens, like losing someone forever, she still wonders, then all the kids write on Q's desk

    21. Elena's breakdown after Jeremy's death in The Vampire Diaries:

    Elena shouts that there's nothing in her house there for her anymore, saying it's filled with memories of the people she's lost, listing her parents, Jenna, Alaric, Jeremy, and John — she breaks down, saying it hurts and "please make it stop"

    22. The aftermath of Nell's death in The Haunting of Hill House...but also just the show as a whole:

    Shirley, on the phone, says "Well, you're wrong. Someone...they got it wrong. I mean, she was just...who told you this? He can't do that again. He can't just not tell us what happened...I told you she was in trouble. I told you to find her. I told you!"

    23. And finally, the aftermath of Paul's death on 8 Simple Rules after John Ritter, who played him on the show, died in real life:

    Cate hugs her daughters, saying there's no right way to deal with this — Bridget says she was trying hard to be happy because if she was happy everything would be normal, and Kerry says she felt guilty that something good was happening in her life

    Note: Submissions have been edited for length/clarity.