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    Will Smith Got Brutally Honest About Parenting During A Father's Day Edition Of Red Table Talk

    "I saw how much I was making and forcing and pushing the things that I wanted, and I saw it was starting to hurt her."

    On Sunday, to celebrate Father's Day, Will Smith joined his wife Jada for their first ever one-on-one conversation as part of her Red Table Talk series.

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    During the hour-long conversation, Will opened up about his experience with fatherhood, admitting he felt "stark terror" when he became a father to his first son, Trey, in 1992.

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    "I think that was my first moment of the real weight of parenting," he said of the moment he brought Trey home from the hospital.

    "I remember we put him in the bassinet, and it was like stark terror. It was like, 'I'm totally responsible for this life.' I just cried so hard. It makes me teary right now," Will continued. "I thought like, 'I can't do it. I'm not the guy.' I just knew I didn't know nothing."

    He went on to discuss how his views of parenthood changed after having his second son, Jaden, and his daughter, Willow, both of whom he shares with Jada.

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    He revealed that the family had been through a tough time in 2011, after Willow released her song "Whip My Hair" and joined Justin Bieber on the European leg of his world tour.

    During a 2018 episode of Red Table Talk, Willow admitted that it took "years" for her to forgive her parents — and especially her dad — for how they handled her early fame.

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    "It was mostly daddy because he was so harsh at certain times," she said. "It was like, a couple of years trying to regain trust for not feeling like I was listened to, or no one cared what I felt during that time."

    She went on: "I felt guilty because I was like, 'Everyone is trying to make me better, trying to make my dream.' But I didn't really understand what my dream entailed."

    And, during his conversation with Jada, Will admitted that he learned from the situation and could have handled it better.

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    "I saw how much I was making and forcing and pushing the things that I wanted," Will said. "And in that moment, I saw it was starting to hurt her."

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    He explained: "My desire for her was overriding her desire for her. I had a real epiphany on that and how bad a person will hate you if you keep forcing your wishes onto their life."

    He continued to say that the whole experience with Willow "introduced him to feelings", discouraging him from putting his children's accomplishments over their feelings.

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    "The kids aren't ours," he said of what he's learned from fatherhood. "They're their own people. I just completely let go of my needs and my desires for their lives."

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    You can watch the Red Table Talk episode in full here:

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