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    This Is What Happens When You Give Your Ex An Exit Survey

    “It’s fascinating how many men were completely unaware that their female partner had never had an orgasm.”

    On today's episode of BuzzFeed Daily, we broke down the top pop culture headlines AND talked about the concept of going to your ex for sex advice — and why it could be the key to saving your next relationship.

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    So let's dive right into it! Recently we talked to relationship expert Shan Boodram about her role on the new show Ex-Rated, how to put your ex's feedback to use, and more. Here's some of what we learned:

    BuzzFeed Daily: We have to know — as a relationship expert, what are some of the most common issues that couples are asking for your help with these days?

    BuzzFeed Daily: So Ex-Rated bounces off of the growing trend of sending standardized "exit surveys" to all of their previous romantic partners. I'm curious, what are some of the most common things you found that exes held onto? And what did the contestants learn from going through this experience?

    AB: What I do for a living is largely talk about sex, and I talk about sex mostly to a woman audience, or people who identify as women. And it's fascinating how many men were completely unaware that their female partner had never had an orgasm. And that was news to them. Like "What?!" And that happened in repeated episodes. And I think that's really fascinating. And it's going to spark some really good conversations among existing couples. I think the show has to be called Ex-Rated. I was on Andy Cohen Show, Watch What Happens Live last week, and we played this game with two people who are also in the Bravo universe, who are on Shahs of Sunset. But they're a couple and you know, they're fully in love right now. And we played the Ex-Rated game and it was like, "Babe, what would you give me in foreplay?" "10." "Babe, what would you give me in oral?" "10." And so everybody thinks they're 10 because your current partner is going to say that. But in the aftermath, you might find out two years later that like actually was a 10 in effort and 2 in execution. 

    BuzzFeed Daily: Did any revelation on the show shock you or have you just heard it all at this point?

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