Buzz·Posted on Oct 30, 2014How Assertive Are You, Actually?Do you really say what you mean and mean what you say?by Cate SevillaBuzzFeed Staff, UK FacebookPinterestTwitterMailLink Rex USA / Getty Images / HBO/ BuzzFeed Click all that apply to you! When your food order is wrong, you don't hesitate to send it back. Check When your food order is wrong, you don't hesitate to send it back. If Starbucks writes your name wrong on a cup, you have no problem correcting them. ("Um, my name is not Kale.") Check If Starbucks writes your name wrong on a cup, you have no problem correcting them. ("Um, my name is not Kale.") You're always the person to speak up and ask for the bill. Check You're always the person to speak up and ask for the bill. Or to ask for help/directions when you're lost. Check Or to ask for help/directions when you're lost. Or ask the person talking on their mobile in the quiet carriage to BE QUIET. Check Or ask the person talking on their mobile in the quiet carriage to BE QUIET. You'll always correct a misunderstanding, even if it's mega awkward to do so. Check You'll always correct a misunderstanding, even if it's mega awkward to do so. For example, if someone repeatedly calls you the wrong name, you'll definitely tell them. ("My name is Cate, not Cat. I'm not a feline, thanks.") Check For example, if someone repeatedly calls you the wrong name, you'll definitely tell them. ("My name is Cate, not Cat. I'm not a feline, thanks.") Or if you're splitting the bill among a group of friends and someone clearly hasn't paid enough. Check Or if you're splitting the bill among a group of friends and someone clearly hasn't paid enough. If someone you really like unfollows you on Twitter, you'll ask them why. Check If someone you really like unfollows you on Twitter, you'll ask them why. If someone you're actually friends with unfriends you on Facebook, you'll ask them why. Check If someone you're actually friends with unfriends you on Facebook, you'll ask them why. If you arrive at a hotel and your room is awful, you ask to be moved. Check If you arrive at a hotel and your room is awful, you ask to be moved. Same with your seat on the plane. Check Same with your seat on the plane. And if you want a seat on the train and someone's put their bag on the seat next to them, you ask them to move it. Check And if you want a seat on the train and someone's put their bag on the seat next to them, you ask them to move it. Even if they're pretending to be asleep. Check Even if they're pretending to be asleep. (ESPECIALLY if they're pretending to sleep.) Check (ESPECIALLY if they're pretending to sleep.) If you're talking in a meeting and someone clearly isn't paying attention to you, you'll call them on it. Check If you're talking in a meeting and someone clearly isn't paying attention to you, you'll call them on it. If you're in a meeting and someone constantly talks over you, you address it. Check If you're in a meeting and someone constantly talks over you, you address it. In fact, if someone ever does/says/emails something you're confused or unhappy with, you'll just talk to them about it. Check In fact, if someone ever does/says/emails something you're confused or unhappy with, you'll just talk to them about it. You're always the one to initiate a family meeting. Check You're always the one to initiate a family meeting. And will bring up the stuff that everyone else avoids. Check And will bring up the stuff that everyone else avoids. (Even the stuff YOU don't even want to talk about.) Check (Even the stuff YOU don't even want to talk about.) Same goes for your friend group. Check Same goes for your friend group. You don't say "yes!" to something you don't want to do. Check You don't say "yes!" to something you don't want to do. And therefore never have to bail last-minute from something because you said yes knowing you'd never show up. Check And therefore never have to bail last-minute from something because you said yes knowing you'd never show up. When you say "no", you mean it. Check When you say "no", you mean it. In fact, your colleagues, family, and friends all know that when you say "yes" or "no", it's exactly what you mean. Check In fact, your colleagues, family, and friends all know that when you say "yes" or "no", it's exactly what you mean. You know how to ask for a raise at work. Check You know how to ask for a raise at work. And how to negotiate with your boss. Check And how to negotiate with your boss. You'll have potentially awkward/difficult conversations with people face-to-face. Check You'll have potentially awkward/difficult conversations with people face-to-face. Basically, no situation is too awkward for you to talk about. Check Basically, no situation is too awkward for you to talk about. And you always say what you mean and mean what you say. Check And you always say what you mean and mean what you say. Show me my results!