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How Assertive Are You, Actually?

Do you really say what you mean and mean what you say?

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    When your food order is wrong, you don't hesitate to send it back.
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    If Starbucks writes your name wrong on a cup, you have no problem correcting them. ("Um, my name is not Kale.")
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    You're always the person to speak up and ask for the bill.
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    Or to ask for help/directions when you're lost.
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    Or ask the person talking on their mobile in the quiet carriage to BE QUIET.
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    You'll always correct a misunderstanding, even if it's mega awkward to do so.
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    For example, if someone repeatedly calls you the wrong name, you'll definitely tell them. ("My name is Cate, not Cat. I'm not a feline, thanks.")
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    Or if you're splitting the bill among a group of friends and someone clearly hasn't paid enough.
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    If someone you really like unfollows you on Twitter, you'll ask them why.
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    If someone you're actually friends with unfriends you on Facebook, you'll ask them why.
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    If you arrive at a hotel and your room is awful, you ask to be moved.
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    Same with your seat on the plane.
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    And if you want a seat on the train and someone's put their bag on the seat next to them, you ask them to move it.
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    Even if they're pretending to be asleep.
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    (ESPECIALLY if they're pretending to sleep.)
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    If you're talking in a meeting and someone clearly isn't paying attention to you, you'll call them on it.
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    If you're in a meeting and someone constantly talks over you, you address it.
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    In fact, if someone ever does/says/emails something you're confused or unhappy with, you'll just talk to them about it.
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    You're always the one to initiate a family meeting.
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    And will bring up the stuff that everyone else avoids.
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    (Even the stuff YOU don't even want to talk about.)
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    Same goes for your friend group.
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    You don't say "yes!" to something you don't want to do.
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    And therefore never have to bail last-minute from something because you said yes knowing you'd never show up.
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    When you say "no", you mean it.
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    In fact, your colleagues, family, and friends all know that when you say "yes" or "no", it's exactly what you mean.
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    You know how to ask for a raise at work.
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    And how to negotiate with your boss.
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    You'll have potentially awkward/difficult conversations with people face-to-face.
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    Basically, no situation is too awkward for you to talk about.
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    And you always say what you mean and mean what you say.
 
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