No, sorry, nobody wins here. To all the people saying “We don’t know what Diane was going through!” “She might have been sorry later!”, and the like: these things may well be true. But frankly, I don’t really care. Likely everyone on that plane had personal crap. They all had their own reasons for getting home. Some may have been sick like Diane, or just been fired, or just lost a family member, or…there are countless things people could have been going through. How to we know none of them were about to spend their last holiday with their family- just because they weren’t wearing a medical mask as a physical sign they were sick? But none of them acted like she did. If she’d regretted her actions later, great. But that doesn’t take back the way she already treated flight attendants who was also missing their holiday- and working at the same time. Flight attendants who likely has plenty of horror stories about how people treat them. Flight attendants who, like their passengers, may have been sick, dying, grieving, etc. It wasn’t like Diane just snapped at someone. She made herself the center of the attention of the whole plane- and kept doing so. There’s no hint she apologized- though of course the source is biased- but even if she had, she already made several people’s miserable day even worse. ALL THAT SAID: I snickered a little at first, even with the “suck my dick” comments. They are rape culture, but they’re the kind of rape culture that’s different even from “casual” rape jokes. It’s terrible that we teach people to throw out a phrase that threatens a sexual act as easily as they’d say “go to hell”, but it’s an act of ignorance. Elan should be educated, but he was acting more out of immaturity in saying that than any sort of malice. But then he mentioned her medical mask as though it were just some piece of jewelry making her look unattractive. And despite everything I said before, I do agree with Diane’s defenders that gleefully getting your revenge on a sick woman for your own promotion is pretty pathetic. I don’t even feel too bad about her hitting him in the end. I’m not bothered by Elan’s actions simply because they were immature- people getting what they deserve is one of the great joys of life. I’m bothered by him casting aside a serious medical condition and getting blind praise for it. In the end, these were two capable adults who chose to act like children. The glass of wine? That was a petty move that few would deny was well-earner. But after that, Elan turned into exactly what he was (rightly) criticizing Diane for being- a bully.