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19 Brilliant Songs That Actually Helped Heart Broken People

“This song made me appreciate myself again after feeling very worthless."

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We recently asked the BuzzFeed Community to tell us what songs helped them through a breakup. Here’s what they said.

1. “All I Ask” – Adele

"I'm going through a breakup at the moment and the one song that I have been listening to constantly is 'All I Ask' By Adele. It's all about the last night you spend with someone before going your separate ways. "My breakup came out of the blue, I was totally blindsided by it, so this song has helped a lot with lyrics like 'If this is my last night with you, hold me like I'm more than just your friend. / Give me a memory that I can use, take me by the hand while we do what lovers do. / It matters how this ends, cos what if I never love again?'"– Josh Booth, Facebook
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"I'm going through a breakup at the moment and the one song that I have been listening to constantly is 'All I Ask' By Adele. It's all about the last night you spend with someone before going your separate ways.

"My breakup came out of the blue, I was totally blindsided by it, so this song has helped a lot with lyrics like 'If this is my last night with you, hold me like I'm more than just your friend. / Give me a memory that I can use, take me by the hand while we do what lovers do. / It matters how this ends, cos what if I never love again?'"

– Josh Booth, Facebook

2. "Don’t Be So Hard on Yourself" – Jess Glynne

"This song was my life throughout last summer. I had gone through a terrible breakup with my boyfriend of two years and my life had hit rock-bottom. I didn’t feel worth anything and then one day Jess Glynne came on the radio. I’ve never been one for song lyrics to hit me emotionally, but this song really did get me on so many levels. It let me see that it wasn’t my fault that my relationship broke down and that I wasn’t worthless, but that I was a person who would eventually be happy again and I thank God for that song in my life because now I’m happier than ever before."– Adriana Tomei, Facebook
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"This song was my life throughout last summer. I had gone through a terrible breakup with my boyfriend of two years and my life had hit rock-bottom. I didn’t feel worth anything and then one day Jess Glynne came on the radio. I’ve never been one for song lyrics to hit me emotionally, but this song really did get me on so many levels. It let me see that it wasn’t my fault that my relationship broke down and that I wasn’t worthless, but that I was a person who would eventually be happy again and I thank God for that song in my life because now I’m happier than ever before."

– Adriana Tomei, Facebook

3. "You Oughta Know" – Alanis Morissette

"He was my first love and he dumped me whilst I was on a three-month backpacking trip, and within a week he was with someone else. I was in this beautiful place, dying inside. I'd heard this song tons of times but it was the first time I really listened to the lyrics and it was EVERYTHING I felt summed up in a catchy tune. I must have listened to it a thousand times on repeat and spent many hours dramatically lurching around beaches acting out the lyrics."– Rose Wilson, Facebook
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"He was my first love and he dumped me whilst I was on a three-month backpacking trip, and within a week he was with someone else. I was in this beautiful place, dying inside. I'd heard this song tons of times but it was the first time I really listened to the lyrics and it was EVERYTHING I felt summed up in a catchy tune. I must have listened to it a thousand times on repeat and spent many hours dramatically lurching around beaches acting out the lyrics."

– Rose Wilson, Facebook

4. "Why Don't You Love Me" – Beyoncé

"This song made me appreciate myself again after feeling very worthless. After thinking I wasn't good enough I realised that the person I was with was 'just plain dumb' and that I was far better than they were ever gonna be. As well as rebuilding my confidence it made me want to dance in heels around my house. This is good because I am not one for a sad, slow song."– Lotty Kerr, Facebook
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"This song made me appreciate myself again after feeling very worthless. After thinking I wasn't good enough I realised that the person I was with was 'just plain dumb' and that I was far better than they were ever gonna be. As well as rebuilding my confidence it made me want to dance in heels around my house. This is good because I am not one for a sad, slow song."

– Lotty Kerr, Facebook

5. "It's Raining Men" – The Weather Girls

"You can’t be sad listening to disco!"– sydneya44683e2f9
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"You can’t be sad listening to disco!"

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6. "Strong Enough" – Cher

"I was 21 when me and my ex of five years broke up. I always thought my breakup song would be really cool and alternative, like a Radiohead song or something. Nope, it was Cher – 'Strong Enough'. Honestly, it made me feel like a strong independent woman who didn’t need no one!"– a4eb03bd45
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"I was 21 when me and my ex of five years broke up. I always thought my breakup song would be really cool and alternative, like a Radiohead song or something. Nope, it was Cher – 'Strong Enough'. Honestly, it made me feel like a strong independent woman who didn’t need no one!"

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7. "One" – Mary J. Blige & U2

"True it was always a U2 song but when Mary got involved it became a religious awakening. That last line she sings, 'I can't keep holding on to what you got, cause all you got is hurt', got me through my divorce."– Elva Vasquez, Facebook
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"True it was always a U2 song but when Mary got involved it became a religious awakening. That last line she sings, 'I can't keep holding on to what you got, cause all you got is hurt', got me through my divorce."

– Elva Vasquez, Facebook

8. "Alive" – Sia

"The relationship turned toxic and dangerous, and after I left (with a young baby, no job, and no idea where I was going to live) I became understandably depressed. About a month later, I was driving when 'Alive' came on the radio. I remember thinking, 'How did the universe know that I needed this song at this very moment?' I still get chills listening to it."– Rebecca Inga, Facebook
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"The relationship turned toxic and dangerous, and after I left (with a young baby, no job, and no idea where I was going to live) I became understandably depressed. About a month later, I was driving when 'Alive' came on the radio. I remember thinking, 'How did the universe know that I needed this song at this very moment?' I still get chills listening to it."

– Rebecca Inga, Facebook

9. "Gonna Get Over You" – Sara Bareilles

"The lyrics are fairly sad, but it has such an upbeat tune to it that it sounds more hopeful and optimistic. 'I'll be alright, just not tonight.' It reminds me that today/this moment/this instant may suck so bad right now, but you will be OK."– Michael Chambers, Facebook
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"The lyrics are fairly sad, but it has such an upbeat tune to it that it sounds more hopeful and optimistic. 'I'll be alright, just not tonight.' It reminds me that today/this moment/this instant may suck so bad right now, but you will be OK."

– Michael Chambers, Facebook

10. “Gives You Hell” – All-American Rejects

"After I got over the mopey sadness stage, I loved the song 'Gives You Hell' by All-American Rejects. It was vindictive and angry, but it helped me move into the stage of believing that I didn’t need him and my future was going to be awesome even with his absence in it. I was right."– storeytime
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"After I got over the mopey sadness stage, I loved the song 'Gives You Hell' by All-American Rejects. It was vindictive and angry, but it helped me move into the stage of believing that I didn’t need him and my future was going to be awesome even with his absence in it. I was right."

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11. "Drive" – Incubus

"This song got me through a 10-year breakup last year. It made me realise that I had to take control if things were to get better and I was going to survive the trauma that the situation presented and I definitely came out the other side as a stronger person."– LimeGreenTangerine
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"This song got me through a 10-year breakup last year. It made me realise that I had to take control if things were to get better and I was going to survive the trauma that the situation presented and I definitely came out the other side as a stronger person."

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12. "Runnin (Lose it all)" – Naughty Boy & Beyoncé

"The line 'if I lose myself I lose it all' reminded me that I wasn’t defined by my boyfriend and that I needed to discover who I was as a single woman."– lyndseyn4895c680a
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"The line 'if I lose myself I lose it all' reminded me that I wasn’t defined by my boyfriend and that I needed to discover who I was as a single woman."

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13. "All I Want" – Kodaline

"I listened to it when my first girlfriend broke up with me after a very short time together. She said it ‘felt weird being together with one of my best friends’. Sadly, we never reconnected fully. Instead of best friends, we became classmates who occasionally talked."– Nategayguy
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"I listened to it when my first girlfriend broke up with me after a very short time together. She said it ‘felt weird being together with one of my best friends’. Sadly, we never reconnected fully. Instead of best friends, we became classmates who occasionally talked."

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14. “Without You” – The Cure

"Being the one who initiates the breakup can be just as difficult: when you know deep down that it is the right decision to make, but you still love and care for the other person. For me, this song helped to put things back into perspective whenever I was overcome with guilt or regret about my decision. Sometimes, two people just can’t sync well together, and as a result, they expect each other to change completely to fit their mould. In my case it was best to walk away before I lost too much of myself."– passthetabasco
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"Being the one who initiates the breakup can be just as difficult: when you know deep down that it is the right decision to make, but you still love and care for the other person. For me, this song helped to put things back into perspective whenever I was overcome with guilt or regret about my decision. Sometimes, two people just can’t sync well together, and as a result, they expect each other to change completely to fit their mould. In my case it was best to walk away before I lost too much of myself."

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15. "My Happy Ending" – Avril Lavigne

"‘My Happy Ending’ by Avril Lavigne had just the right amount of anger and sadness and got me through one tough breakup. It’s basically saying 'Yeah, well thanks for nothing, I put up with your shit and this is what I get?'"– MattyAlf
AvrilLavigneVEVO / Via youtube.com

"‘My Happy Ending’ by Avril Lavigne had just the right amount of anger and sadness and got me through one tough breakup. It’s basically saying 'Yeah, well thanks for nothing, I put up with your shit and this is what I get?'"

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16. "Better In Time" – Leona lewis

"This song has always helped me through my tough breakups. She was basically singing my life and exactly what I was feeling. That song is the truth because I found that time heals all wounds."– Kayla Renee
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"This song has always helped me through my tough breakups. She was basically singing my life and exactly what I was feeling. That song is the truth because I found that time heals all wounds."

Kayla Renee

17. “Words As Weapons” – Birdy

"This song reminded me daily why ending my relationship was the right thing to do, even though it was the most terrifying thing I ever had to do. The lyrics gave me strength by making me aware of my own strength and that despite losing my partner, my second family, my home, and most of my friends, this adversity would ultimately make me stronger, wiser, and more compassionate in the long run.– Gemma Dodd
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"This song reminded me daily why ending my relationship was the right thing to do, even though it was the most terrifying thing I ever had to do. The lyrics gave me strength by making me aware of my own strength and that despite losing my partner, my second family, my home, and most of my friends, this adversity would ultimately make me stronger, wiser, and more compassionate in the long run.

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18. “Fighter” – Christina Aguilera

"I'd have to say 'Fighter' by Christina Aguilera. I would play it on a constant loop every single time I was driving or just feeling a little sad. This song made me get over my breakups quickly; I gained the confidence to truly feel good about myself and not need to be dependent on someone else for my happiness. I will forever use this song in the future for my breakups."– Melissa Chatelain, Facebook
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"I'd have to say 'Fighter' by Christina Aguilera. I would play it on a constant loop every single time I was driving or just feeling a little sad. This song made me get over my breakups quickly; I gained the confidence to truly feel good about myself and not need to be dependent on someone else for my happiness. I will forever use this song in the future for my breakups."

– Melissa Chatelain, Facebook

19. "You Belong With Me" – Taylor Swift

"The song came out my senior year of high school and I was going through the literal exact lyrics of the song with my friend/unrequited love whom I finally got the nerve to spill my feelings to, and got them shut down in the sweetest, gentlest way possible so I couldn't even hate him for it. And years later, I can still listen to this song and be right back there. It really made me feel like someone else got it and was going through the same thing."– Emma Jochum, Facebook
TaylorSwiftVEVO / Via youtube.com

"The song came out my senior year of high school and I was going through the literal exact lyrics of the song with my friend/unrequited love whom I finally got the nerve to spill my feelings to, and got them shut down in the sweetest, gentlest way possible so I couldn't even hate him for it. And years later, I can still listen to this song and be right back there. It really made me feel like someone else got it and was going through the same thing."

– Emma Jochum, Facebook

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