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These Two Musicians Fell In Love And Now Want Australia To Legalise Same-Sex Marriage

"Marriage equality is just another thing to make young, queer people feel more normal, and more like everybody else."

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Indie band Cub Sport have been doing the touring rounds on the Australian music circuit for years, and have made quite a name for themselves.

Forming in 2010, the band has featured heavily on the Triple J rotation, made the 2016 Hottest 100 countdown, and have had their music appear in a bunch of local and international TV shows.

Oh, and two of the members of the band fell in love and are now engaged.

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Sam Netterfield (aka Bolan), and Tim Nelson met when they were 12, but it wasn't until the end of high school they became close friends.

Hot off the release of their second album, Bats, we chatted to Tim and Bolan about coming out, falling in love, and the same-sex marriage debate.

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"We became best friends, and we were best friends for a long time. I think we were both experiencing the same struggles with our sexuality and we were both in a lot of denial for some time," Tim told BuzzFeed.

"I realised in the middle of 2015 that I was in love with Bolan. And a year later after we had been on tour for a couple of months he finally said something. So we came home, came out to our family and friends, and now we’re engaged!"

Both Tim and Bolan grew up in a religious environment, which Tim says made him carry a lot of "self-loathing and shame".

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The two also dished some advice for other young people going through the same struggles.

"I guess I was having so much homophobia being directed towards me and I definitely developed my own internalised homophobia. Now we try to encourage young people to be proud of who they are. In regards to coming out, it’s important you feel safe and comfortable," Tim said.

"Do it in your own time, and do it for yourself," Bolan advised. "Don't do it for anyone else."

Their 2017 song "O Lord" is symbolic of the way Tim grew up and how his life changed after coming out.

"Recording 'O Lord' was very interesting. It took me a while to figure out what I was actually writing about. Being together, and having the full support of our family and friends, it was like everything I had ever wanted was finally starting to fall into place. Over time I've developed a habit of looking for something to be worried about, so when everything was good all of sudden, it was like, 'Am I going to lose all this? Don’t turn your back on me'," Tim explained.

And naturally, the two would like to see Australia legalise same-sex marriage.

"It’s a shame it had to pan out like this and that people who are campaigning against marriage equality have a platform and an opportunity to squash young gay people who are probably already struggling enough as it is," Tim said.

"By achieving marriage quality it’ll be a big shift in society for the younger generation. It's just another thing to make young, queer people feel more normal and more like everyone else."

"It doesn’t need to affect any heterosexual marriage. Nothing has to change that. Think of the children! But seriously!"

Bats is out now, and Cub Sport are touring nationwide in 2018.

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