One of the first questions I got that really caught my attention was from this guy (a Cancer sun, Scorpio moon, and Aquarius rising) who just can't seem to make it past the "talking stage"* when it comes to dating. Let's call him "Talking Stage Time Bomb" because I think it's hilarious when advice columns have those names. Now LET'S 👏 GET 👏 INTO 👏 IT!!!!!!! 👏
First and foremost, Talking Stage Time Bomb, I just want to state that the talking stage sucks for everyone and often leaves us feeling super rejected or even wondering, "What's wrong with me?" So, you're not alone!
With that being said, based on your Big 3, it definitely sounds like you're the sensitive type and can take these little rejections harder than most. Okay, now let's get into the ✨astrology✨ of it.
As a Cancer sun — as with most water signs — you're highly emotional, caring, and very demonstrative with your love. This is echoed by your Scorpio moon, which is one of the most (if not THE most!!!) emotionally intense moon placements.
When you feel things, you feel them deeply — like, DEEEEEPLY — and sometimes, you may feel too deeply too soon. This can be a red flag to some people.
When you find someone whose energy truly complements and supports your own, they won't shy away. Howevs, YOU need to hold yourself accountable to not get too invested right off the bat. When you do this, more often than not, you're just putting the other person on a pedestal and not seeing them for everything they truly are — for better or worse! In the end, this habit will only prevent you from developing a True Connection™.
So, my advice? In regards to the talking stage, remind yourself that people and conversations can translate VERY differently over text. Getting too excited about a text connection usually leads to a shit ton of projection, followed shortly by shit tons (plural) of disappointment.
Try not to drag out the talking phase for too long and go on dates (or even FaceTime dates!) SOON after you start texting, if you feel comfortable. This way, there are no expectations. If the date goes well, amazing! If it doesn't, on to the next. No harm, no foul!
And when one does go well, remind yourself that real connections take time to develop. Check in with yourself after going on a date. Are you getting excited over the idea of being with this person, or this actual person?
TL;DR: With these strong water placements, you're naturally a romantic. Going through life with built-in rose-colored glasses can be magical — just as long as you take them off from time to time and CLEAN 📣 THEIR 📣 LENSES! 📣
Hope this was helpful, Talking Stage Time Bomb (+ water signs + anyone who needs a little help in this department)!!! Thank you for writing in, and remember: Astrology is a blueprint, but your life is up to you!!! 💫✨
