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Tell Us What You Wish You Knew About Sex When You Were Younger

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Sex between consenting adults can be fun and even weird, but the truth is that everyone's experiences are different.

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And that's because every single person has different bodies, interests, and desires, and we're not all born with an encyclopedic knowledge about all things ~sex~.

So I want you to think back to when you were younger. What do you wish you knew about sex?

A threesome scene in "y tu mama tambien"
20th Century Fox

Maybe you wish someone got into the nitty-gritty with you, like how bodies make a bunch of weird noises and smells, but they happen to everyone so there's no need to be embarrassed.

New Line Cinema

"Queefs, cramps, and weird smells happen. Don't get mortified – it's not worth it. Sometimes embarrassing or silly things happen. Enjoy the ridiculousness of it. Usually the other person wants to laugh about it WITH you because they think it's cute, and they like you even more for it."


Perhaps you learned a cool blow job tip in your 30s or 40s that you regret not knowing when you were younger.

Nikki Minaj eating a banana
Young Money

For instance, BuzzFeed user caitdew recommends making noise – like moaning or humming – while going down on your partner(s). Apparently it makes your vocal cords vibrate, so it's sort of like having a vibrator built into your throat.

Maybe you went to your first orgy with SUCH high expectations, but looking back you kinda wish someone told you that orgies (or sex in general!) are never what they look like in porn, so you shouldn't stress if yours turns out differently.

A bunch of 20-somethings shirtless in a room, taking shots

"Most of the time, 75% of the group is confused."


Or maybe you're thinking of something else entirely! Either way, we want to hear it! Use the comments below (or this Google Form if you want to be anonymous) to tell us what you wish you knew about sex when you were younger.

A kissing scene in "How to Get Away with Murder"

Feel free to be as detailed as you'd like (and if you want to include your age, how you identify, etc., that's helpful too)! Your responses may help a lot of people who are looking for guidance about a topic that's hard to navigate and not openly discussed.

The best responses will be featured in an upcoming BuzzFeed Community post or video!