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To Label Or Not To Label Your Sexuality: That Is The Question

In a world where "love is love," do you have to choose a label?

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Coming to terms with your own sexuality is always a complicated and unique experience.

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Others choose to focus on the person they are involved with, not the lingo.

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"Of course I still fancy girls, but right now I’m dating a guy and I couldn’t be happier," said Olympic diver Tom Daley in his original coming out video.

So, is there a right answer?

Spoiler alert: Probably not, but let's explore anyway.

  1. Which label or term do you usually use for yourself?

    Gay
    Lesbian
    Bisexual
    Pansexual
    Asexual
    Queer
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    Straight/Heterosexual
    If sexuality is a spectrum, how can I choose? Unidentifiable like a UFO, baby.
    Honestly, it depends who I am talking to.
    None of these – labels are for food products.

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    Gay
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    Lesbian
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    Bisexual
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    Pansexual
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    Asexual
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    Queer
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    Gal Pal
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    Straight/Heterosexual
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    If sexuality is a spectrum, how can I choose? Unidentifiable like a UFO, baby.
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    Honestly, it depends who I am talking to.
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    None of these – labels are for food products.
  1. Do labels add to your identity or limit it?

    They are limiting and isolating. I refuse to be confined.
    They make me feel less alone! I'm part of a vast community of people with similar experiences.

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    They are limiting and isolating. I refuse to be confined.
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    They make me feel less alone! I'm part of a vast community of people with similar experiences.
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  1. When someone tells you they "don't use labels," you feel...

    Upset. It's a privilege to be able to go sans labels.
    Fine. They are probably just saying that until they find a label that suits them.
    Happy — that's so progressive of them!
    No feelings either way. If you want to use them, do it. If you don't... don't!

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When someone tells you they "don't use labels," you feel...
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    Upset. It's a privilege to be able to go sans labels.
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    Fine. They are probably just saying that until they find a label that suits them.
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    Happy — that's so progressive of them!
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    No feelings either way. If you want to use them, do it. If you don't... don't!
  1. When is it okay to NOT use labels?

    When you don't want to.
    When you aren't sure about which one fits you yet.
    When you're putting leftovers in the fridge.
    Never — why hide who you are?

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When is it okay to NOT use labels?
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    When you don't want to.
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    When you aren't sure about which one fits you yet.
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    When you're putting leftovers in the fridge.
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    Never — why hide who you are?
  1. If you DO use labels, have they changed over time?

    No, I've always just used the one.
    Of course; I was figuring things out.
    Not yet, but if they did change that would be OK!

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If you DO use labels, have they changed over time?
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    No, I've always just used the one.
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    Of course; I was figuring things out.
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    Not yet, but if they did change that would be OK!
  1. It is even worth caring about how other people label themselves?

    Yes! Representation, visibility, and community are still very important to a lot of people.
    Eh, policing people and the way they express their sexuality is a waste of time.

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    Yes! Representation, visibility, and community are still very important to a lot of people.
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    Eh, policing people and the way they express their sexuality is a waste of time.

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