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Soccer Star Megan Rapinoe Just Published A Touching Letter To Her Thirteen-Year-Old Self

"Maybe you would have realized that you were gay. And funny. And outgoing. And one of the best soccer players around.”

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Olympian and U.S. Women's National Team midfielder Megan Rapinoe published a touching "Letter to My 13-Year-Old Self" on The Bleacher Report Friday, just 24 hours before her team takes the field for their second match of the Olympic Games in Rio.

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Coming off an ACL injury, Rapinoe will most likely not be appearing on the field in Rio early on. But as one of the squad's most beloved and well-known players she is valuable both on and off the field.

In the letter, the soccer star discusses feeling "awkward" and "self-conscious" growing up — often hiding behind her twin sister at school. She goes on to describe how the camaraderie of her teammates over the years and learning to speak up for herself, and others, has allowed her to become the person she is today.


"If you knew then what you know now," she wrote, "maybe you would have felt better about branching out on your own a little more. Maybe you would have realized that it was totally OK that you didn't quite know how to wear the right clothes or whether you were supposed to think the boy sitting next to you in class was cute. Maybe you would have realized that you were gay. And funny. And outgoing. And one of the best soccer players around."


On her sexuality:

I do wish, when I was younger, that I knew that I was gay. It would have made things a lot clearer for me. Really. Looking back on it, it was so obvious, but it never really dawned on me. Socially, I felt like I didn't know how to be and who to be. If I had known back then, it would have given me more self-confidence.

Be honest about how you approach failure. Don't just be critical of yourself, because that can be self-serving. Approach it honestly, assess your performance, and assess the areas where you have fallen short. Correct them and move on. Don't dwell on it. Don't hold on to it."

I've been asked a lot through the years, why I came out as gay, why I decided to do that. Most people assumed I was gay and I can live my life the way I want to. But for me, it was important, really important to the rest of the community I live in.

If you are feeling uncomfortable about speaking out about something, instead of doing it for yourself, do it for someone else. Do it for the people, or the cause, that you are standing up for. Sometimes it's just bigger than you. If you carry the strength of other people, it makes it a little less daunting.