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28 Sex Toy Tips That Will Make You Say "Oh Yes"

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We asked members of the BuzzFeed Community to tell us their best tips for using sex toys. Here's what they said.

1. Before buying a vibrator, test it on the tip of your nose.

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"If your eyes start to tear up, the vibrations will be too intense for your lady parts. If the vibrations feel strange but also enjoyable on the tip of your nose, you have found the right kind of vibrator that your parts will enjoy."

—Sarah Klein, Facebook

2. Make sure you know what kind of lube and cleanser you should use with your toy.

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"DO NOT use silicone lube on silicone toys. The silicone of the lube can break down the material of the toys. Always use water-based lube. Also DO NOT use soap and water on porous toys. Most stores have toy cleaner."

—Adele Ackert, Facebook

4. When you're comfortable being vocal about what you like during sex, you're ready for toys.

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"If you're not able to tell your partner to move their fingers/tongue up an inch or try gripping it this way because it feels better, you aren't ready for sex toys. When people say to communicate, they don't mean sit at a table and start some weird awkward discussion. In the bedroom you have to be able to be vocal about what you like, and ask what they like."

—Becca Suarez, Facebook

6. If you're nervous about toy shopping, pretend you're just buying a household appliance.

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"Don't be shy. More often than not the sales clerk will be knowledgable and frank about the whole thing. Honestly, it's no different than buying a blender, or any appliance for that matter. The first time my girlfriend and I went shopping, we were both a bit embarrassed. After literally a minute we were discussing various toys as if they were flatware."

—Bucky James Dio, Facebook

7. Dual-density toys (soft on the outside and rigid on the inside) are worth the $$$.

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"VixSkin and other dual-density toys are amazing. They are flexible, yet rigid, and are 100% silicone. They're expensive, but worth it."

Finally, get yourself a Hitachi Magic Wand. You'll thank me later."

—Bingle Brown, Facebook

8. You might have to try a few different things before you find what works for you.

"When you see something that kind of calls to you: buy it, try it, and if it's not for you then you can always look around again for something different. You can even keep it in case your partner enjoys using it instead. It can end up costing you some money in the long run, especially if you buy a bunch before finding the right one for you."

—Hayle Storm, Facebook

9. So try a few cheaper things before spending big.

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"Do not spend an arm and a leg on the first toy. I idiotically spent $80 on one and it only lasted half a year. I spent $9 on the next one and it has since become my favorite. Figure out what you like before you spend the big bucks."

—Allison Kitrel, Facebook

10. But if you do want to go big, consider LELO products.

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"They are hands down (no pun intended) the BEST products out there for women. They are well-made with every consideration taken for the user and they have a 10-year warranty. They are tastefully simple. These products helped me through three long deployments while my husband was in Afghanistan."

—Katy Lane-Hoyt, Facebook

11. "A compass is to a map what a vibrator can be to an orgasm."

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"Vibrators can be one of the best ways to find out what (and where) works for you and what you like! Just have enough patience to explore the land thoroughly."

—Darrah Jones, Facebook

14. If there's no good or safe place to shop in person, go online.

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"If you only have a crappy little dark scary sex shop, buy online. It'll be more pleasant and the toy will be higher quality."

—Kirkley Brown, Facebook

15. Before you buy a vibrating toy, make sure you know how loud it'll be.

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"Even if you live alone, you will not want a LOUD "ZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz" lawnmower motor sound when you are using it."

—Vanessa Fasanella, Facebook

20. Get something that thrusts and vibrates.

"The Stronic Eins changed my life. It *thrusts* and vibrates. It may be the pinnacle of human achievement to date. Definitely use lube and you may want a bullet for clitoral stimulation to get started, but it is truly a magical thing."

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21. Be super careful when trying glass dildos.

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"TRAIN YOURSELF before you start using glass dildos — especially ones with RIDGES — regardless of how much lube you use, intensity, or how much you clean it. Otherwise you will end up with some pretty severe pain."

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22. Try some ~non-realistically~ shaped toys.

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"Don’t be afraid of companies like Bad Dragon. Their toys may look weird (and are aimed at furries), but it’s nice to have some variation on the 'simple dong.' (And they are body-safe silicone.)"

SamW

24. PSA: Keep your pets away from your toys.

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"If you own animals that shed even a little, KEEP SILCONE TOYS AWAY FROM ANY SURFACES WITH THEIR HAIR. It takes my partner and I ages to clean off our toy if it accidentally falls onto my bed and into the abyss of dog hair. God forbid it has lube on it."

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25. You should pee after having a toy inside you.

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"You definitely still need to pee after using a sex toy. Somehow this connection did not happen for me and I spent a lot of months battling UTIs! The bacteria still spreads even if it is not another human stimulating you!"

kaspleen

26. Try a toy with variable speeds, movements, and vibrations.

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"Holy shit, you guys, the Vanity Vr16 Flutter by Jopen is legitimately the best sex toy purchase I've ever made. It has different speeds, different movements, and different vibration patterns (plus, the noise is fairly discreet), it's pretty fucking amazing, either by myself, or during sex with my husband. It gets my vote for best sex toy on the market. Additionally, Jopen is a company created and driven by women, and I think that's pretty cool."

Drea7is7fancy

27. Bigger isn't always better.

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"My first sex toy was a girthy Rabbit and it was actually way too cumbersome to use and not very enjoyable — so much so that I threw it away after a year of not using it. My small bullet vibe is my most-used sex toy now!"

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28. And remember: Using sex toys doesn’t mean you aren’t satisfied with your sex life.

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"Sex toys amplify them! My husband and I like the We-Vibe because he can control it while I use it, so it's a couples experience. You can also wear it during intercourse, which just makes everything next level for the both of you. Don't be shy about asking for what you want either, your partner wants to get you off as much as you want to, so help them out!"

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Responses have been edited for clarity and length.

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