On Tuesday, Reddit user u/neilnellyasked people, "What is something subtle people say that is a red flag to you?" People came through with some truly useful examples of things people will say that are usually to trick, manipulate, or deceive you.
Here's what they shared:
1."When they never ask a question when you're telling them something. My husband realized his father never does this, and now I can’t stop listening for this."
5."When a mom says, 'I try to be more like my kids’ friend than their mom.' You need to wait around 20 years to do the best friend thing. My mom made sure I was home on time, went to school, got good grades, didn't swear, went to university, and all the other great mom stuff that was annoying when I was young. Now, she is my absolute best friend by far."
7."When people say things like, 'I can say and do whatever I want. It’s a free country. Ever hear of freedom of speech?' in order to justify shitty things they say or do. Like sure, you have the right to speak your mind, but people also have the right to judge you for what you say."
11."Someone who frequently, in response to you telling them about a bad or inconvenient thing that happened to you, start with 'Well what you SHOULD have done...' or 'What I would have done...' These people tend to be very opinionated and stubborn, even in situations they don't really know anything about."
12."Anything that exposes poor morals or tricks others. For example, 'I'll just say I never got it so they send me another one.' When people show you who they really are, believe them. Love this quote."
13."When people say shit like, 'clearly,' 'obviously,' etc. If someone has to reassure you or themselves that something is real, it’s dangerous. Relationships, politics, academia. Never trust someone who thinks their opinion is an absolute."
14."When they say, 'Oh, it's ok. It doesn't matter" in attempt to calm me down, as in it's silly that I'm upset by something not too important. It doesn't matter to whom??? Because obviously it does matter to me."