Rachel Bilson And Kristen Bell Are Your New Mom-Friend Goals
These women are just as awesome as you imagine them.
You know Kristen Bell. Veronica Mars, Princess Anna, BATMAN.
And you know Rachel Bilson. Summer Roberts, Zoe Hart. Adorable.
But did you know that they are really good friends?
So, Rachel, Kristen: How did you meet?
Has your friendship changed since you've had kids?
KB: Well, we talk a lot more about vomit.
RB: And poop!
KB: I mean, we talked a lot about poop and vomit before we became moms, but now we talk a lot MORE about it.
RB: [laughs] I think you need fewer words when you're mom-friends.
KB: Friend-friends talk about a lot of stuff, but with mom-friends you just kind of need to exchange a look to communicate.
RB: Now we just grunt at each other in exasperation.
KB: We take deep breaths together.
RB: Other moms get it. They're right in it with you.
Have your priorities shifted since your kids were born?
KB: I used to get the majority of, or a big chunk of, my self-esteem from my work and now I get about 99% of my self-esteem from taking care of my kids. I mean, I love working, but it's become much more of a creative outlet. It's not my whole life, which I know is a luxury, and I'm very grateful for.
RB: My priorities have definitely shifted. Sleep's a priority. It doesn't exist, but it's a priority. I actually haven't worked since I had my daughter — for me, career is definitely on the back burner. It just has to be worth it to spend time away from her. It's her world, I'm just living in it is the best I can say.
Kristen, have you gotten any of that notorious "working mom flack"?
So how can we support each other?
KB: I definitely have found myself instinctually intervening, like grabbing the purse of another mother if she's holding a kid, and sometimes it's appropriate and sometimes it's not appropriate.
RB: I think because you've been in that exact situation — when you see a parent struggling, automatically your reflex is to do something to help. Be there in whatever way. Smile at the mom with the baby who is crying on the airplane.
Rachel, what's the funniest/best/most ironic onesie your baby owns?
(Briar Rose's daddy is in fact Hayden Christensen, aka Star Wars' Anakin Skywalker.)
Kristen, your daughter brings home a sloth. Do you let her keep it?
You guys are in the unique position of having strangers comment on your parenting choices. Do you have advice for parents who are shamed on social media for breastfeeding in public, or using a baby carrier past a certain age?
RB: It makes me angry, personally. The negativity...
KB: If someone is taking the time to make a negative comment, they don't have a enough happy things in their life, so that deserves a little sympathy. So I guess I would say to those people: Come away from the dark side, because people on this side have a lot of friends and lots of sex, and it's fun, and it's more fun than just being negative to people on the internet.
RB: Well said.
Wipes warmers: necessary or frivolous?
RB: Absolutely not necessary. That thing is the biggest pain in my ass.
KB: When you see how the nurses handle newborns at the hospital, when they're like earthworms, you realize babies are so durable. But for me, it was more a logistical issue — like when we're at the airport, now you have to bring the wipe warmer?
Kristen: Are you prepared to sing duets of "Love Is an Open Door" with your daughters for the next six years?
Do you have a favorite children's book?
KB: The Great Paper Caper. It's so cute. There's a bear who is chopping down all the trees to make paper for his paper airplane competition. That or Quackenstein which is about a crotchety old duck who adopts a baby platypus.
RB: See, you're at the age where she's doing fun stories, I'm still doing Brown Bear, Brown Bear. But I actually love children's books just for myself. I'm obsessed with them. There's this one book — My Buddy Slug — it's the best story about friendship. Everyone should read that book.
How do you select the causes that you devote your time to?
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This interview has been edited for length and clarity.