Last weekend, Lady Gaga stopped by the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and gave a personal + thought-provoking talk about her emotional health and career. For real, this is some introspective stuff.
One part that especially struck was about her being unhappy with her music career and how she fixed that.
You should watch that here:
For those who don't have headphones right now, here's the transcript:
"I have had to make decisions like, why am I unhappy? OK, Stefani, Gaga, hybrid person: Why are you unhappy? Why is it that you wanted to quit music (a couple years ago)?
OK, well, I really don’t like selling these fragrances, perfumes. I don’t like wasting my time spending days just shaking people’s hands and smiling, taking selfies. It feels shallow to my existence. I have a lot more to offer than my image.
I don’t like being used to make people money. I feel sad when I am overworked and that I just become a moneymaking machine and that my passion and my creativity takes a backseat — that makes me unhappy.
So what did I do? I started to say no. I’m not doing that. I don’t want to do that. I'm not taking that picture. I’m not going to that event. I’m not standing by that because that’s not what I stand for, and slowly but surely I remembered who I am.
And then you go home and you look in the mirror and you’re like, "Yes. I can go to bed with you...every night." ’Cause that person? I know that person.
That person has balls. That person has integrity. That person has an opinion. That person just doesn’t say yes.
That person doesn’t get a text from somebody and say, “Oh my god, they wrote this and, um, they sent this emoji — should I write this back?"
"Should I say this back? Is it OK to say this? Are they going to like me if I say that? Should I say something different?”
This is the age we live in. We aren’t actually communicating with each other. We are unconsciously communicating lies.