These Questions Just Might Make You Think Differently About Your Life
Now is a perfect time for a little reflection.
1. Do you get caught up in too much needless drama?
2. Do you not take enough pride in your accomplishments?
A former college baseball player might spend his days in a depressed fog, thinking, I never made it to the major leagues like I dreamed. I failed. But he might be happier if he changed his thinking to: I had great successes in search of my dream and played at the college level!
All of us at one point were helpless babies who couldn't do a thing for ourselves — and the fact that we grew into people who can, for example, play an instrument or cook a delicious meal, is amazing and worth being proud of!
3. Do you care too much about what other people think?
4. Are you staying in a bad relationship?
Obviously, it might be impossible to get out of a bad relationship right now considering the situation in the world, but if you know the relationship is truly a bad one for you — you should consider how to get out when it's safe/possible to do so. Rarely does anyone ever get out of a bad relationship without wishing they'd made the move sooner.
5. Or are you in a good relationship and need to remind yourself how good it is?
6. Are you holding grudges, especially with those you love?
Letting go of the anger is a gift to yourself. What's the point of reliving the anger over and over?
7. Do you realize how beautiful you are?
8. Do you refuse to let friendships run their course?
People grow apart. Clinging to what was, instead of acknowledging that things have changed, can be a source of ongoing agitation and sadness.
9. Or do you have friends or family members you should get in touch with again?
10. Have you not moved on fast enough from a setback?
In the (often extended) moment, it seems like moving on is impossible. But older people tend to look back at much of the long periods spent picking themselves off the ground as nothing but wasted time.
11. Is there somewhere you want to visit around the world?
12. Could you volunteer or give more to others?
If you're able to do it, helping others not only helps them, but is incredibly rewarding. Doing something — no matter how small — is better than nothing.
13. Do you stand up for yourself enough?
14. Is the real you being limited by gender roles or cultural assumptions?
Few things are as sad as an old person saying, "Well, it just wasn't done back then." If there's something that speaks to you, you should answer it.
15. Are there questions you want to ask your parents or grandparents?
16. Are you supporting other people's dreams over your own?
Supporting others is a beautiful thing, but not when it comes at the expense of your own dreams. If you have a dream, is there a way to nurture it?
17. Do you listen to your parents' advice?
18. On the flip side, do you listen to your kids' advice?
As you age, the modern-day world can become more and more mysterious. Being humble and listening to your kids — who may understand the present moment better than you – is smart.
19. Do you neglect your teeth?
20. Are you stopping enough to appreciate the moment?
In our youth we tend to be constantly on the go, but stopping to take it all in now and again is a good thing. Why not try it while we're forced to slow down right now?
21. Are there things you want to do, but are too scared to attempt?
22. Do you worry too much?
In a time when there are things to legitimately worry about, you might realize that some of the things that've kept you up at night in the past aren't worth worrying about. As Tom Petty sang, "Most things I worry about never happen anyway."
23. Is there something important to you that you started but never finished?
24. Are you too invested in social media and technology?
If you're spending way more time in the online world than the real one, it might be time to ask whether you need to change things up.
25. Or could you benefit from making social media and technology a bigger part of your life?
26. Do you want to learn another language?
If so, now might be a good time to start. Truth is it's easier than ever to learn with apps you can use on your phone like Duolingo. This is especially true for people over 40, who struggled to learn a language out of a book in high school.
27. Are you failing to make physical fitness a priority?
28. Are you spending enough time with loved ones?
Now more than ever, we know that our time with our loved ones is finite. Make it count.
29. Are you afraid to say "I love you"?
30. What really matters to you?
Someone once told me to make a long list of the things that are most important to me in life, and then to ask myself, "What if I could only keep ten of these things? How about five? Or three? Or even just one?" Contemplating what really, truly matters to you in life now and again — and then asking whether those things are getting enough of your time/focus — is worthwhile.