How Parliament's Domestic Violence Breakfast Became Awkward AF

    "Well, I didn't know you needed to know a woman to know not to hit women."

    For a domestic violence awareness group that has been criticised for putting too much focus on its brand and not enough on the root cause of the problem, it was an interesting way to start the group's parliamentary breakfast.

    "Seventy per cent of Australians are aware of White Ribbon. That's good brand recognition, as they say," said White Ribbon ambassador and former NSW director of public prosecutions Nicholas Cowdery.

    The White Ribbon breakfast on Wednesday morning brought together each of the major political party leaders, as well as ministers and high ranking members of the military, in a commitment to "Stand Up, Speak Out".

    Prime minister Malcolm Turnbull announced a new e-safety commissioner, stressed the need for men to take the "White Ribbon pledge", and praised bipartisanship on the issue.

    Watching on was the head of department of immigration and border protection, Mike Pezzullo, who stood at the back of the event. His department has been criticised for a lack of transparency in dealing with women who've claimed rape and sexual abuse in Australia's offshore detention centre on Nauru.

    Alongside minister for women Michaelia Cash and foreign affairs minister Julie Bishop sat One Nation leader Pauline Hanson, who earlier this year in her maiden speech to the parliament blamed women seeking AVOs and custody of children in the Family Court for men getting frustrated and murdering their partners.

    It was perhaps fitting that Labor leader Bill Shorten, with Hanson watching on, used his speech to call for more protections for women alleging domestic violence against male partners.

    Shorten, who took a dig at "talkback radio land" for misrepresenting domestic violence leave, said Labor would call for amendments to the Family Law Act that would mean men could not directly cross-examine women who are alleging domestic violence against them.

    "Cross-examination in family violence by unrepresented perpetrators is a reinjury," Shorten said.

    "It is new harm on top of the old. We can put a stop to it."

    Greens co-deputy leader Larissa Waters, sent to speak on behalf of leader Richard Di Natale, said that the major parties all being represented by men at a domestic violence prevention breakfast was "not a good look", and focused on gender equality, insisting it was "driving the horrific statistics in violence against women and their children".

    Labor's domestic violence spokesperson, Terri Butler, later defended White Ribbon's work of spreading a message of "perpetrator accountability".

    "For perpetrator accountability you’ve actually got to have men standing up and saying we need to do something about it, and that’s what White Ribbon does," Butler told BuzzFeed News.

    "It plays a different role to an organisation like Our Watch, which works in primary prevention and advice to workplaces, a different lens to White Ribbon."

    Earlier, the breakfast had stopped to watch a video titled "It's a Man's Issue Too", which showed various men speaking to camera.

    "For my mother, my daughter," said one man.

    "For my grandmother," said another.

    One woman up the back of the room muttered to the woman next to her, "Well, I didn't know you needed to know a woman to know not to hit women."