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Here Are 17 Of The Biggest Myths About Being A Gay Man That You'll See In Pop Culture

For starters, not all gay men like theater!

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1. Myth: Gay men always have a group of fabulous best girl friends with whom they spend all of their time.

Truth: Just like any other person, gay men can have all types of friends. Fabulous girl friends, non-fabulous girl friends, gay men and, yes, straight men too.
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Truth: Just like any other person, gay men can have all types of friends. Fabulous girl friends, non-fabulous girl friends, gay men and, yes, straight men too.

2. Myth: gay men are either super effeminate or super macho.

Truth: Of course, both of those "types" exist, but there's a whole spectrum of personalities. Just like you'd find with, ya know, people in general.
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Truth: Of course, both of those "types" exist, but there's a whole spectrum of personalities. Just like you'd find with, ya know, people in general.

3. Myth: Effeminate men are usually "bottoms."

Truth: A person's preferred role in sex has NOTHING to do with their personality.
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Truth: A person's preferred role in sex has NOTHING to do with their personality.

4. Myth: All gay men are spectacular dancers.

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Truth: That's another generalization, people.

5. Myth: anal sex is as easy as cracking open a can of soda.

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Truth: It takes some serious time and preparation, people.

6. Myth: Gay men are always super extravagant, especially when it comes to the way they dress.

Truth: Obviously, style and manner of dress varies by the person.
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Truth: Obviously, style and manner of dress varies by the person.

7. Myth: Gay men are all also super extroverted, dramatic and talk really loudly.

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Truth: Hate to break it to you, but nope.

8. Myth: Every gay man is dying to be a drag queen.

Truth: Some gay men like to dress in drag, but some don't. Plus, many guys who dress in drag are straight!
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Truth: Some gay men like to dress in drag, but some don't. Plus, many guys who dress in drag are straight!

9. Myth: Musical theater is like the gay man's gospel.

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Truth: Nope! Again, tastes vary widely.

10. Myth: All gay men are open to having a threesome.

Truth: Nope! It's a matter of personal preference.
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Truth: Nope! It's a matter of personal preference.

11. Myth: All gay men are obsessed with pop divas.

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Truth: This is definitely a common passion (CARLY SLAY JEPSEN 4 EVER), but plenty of gay men prefer different musical genres, just like, ya know, everyone else.

12. Myth: All gay men are promiscuous.

Truth: Nope! That's a total generalization.
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Truth: Nope! That's a total generalization.

13. Myth: All gay men have a huge fetish for leather.

Truth: Sorry to disappoint, but not every gay man will have a leather harness in their closet.
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Truth: Sorry to disappoint, but not every gay man will have a leather harness in their closet.

14. Myth: Gay men want to hook up with their straight friends.

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Truth: Most gay men, just like most people, view friends and potential hookups differently.

15. Myth: All gay men have perfectly toned bodies.

Truth: **Say with with us** Just like everyone else, gay men have all kinds of body shapes and sizes!
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Truth: **Say with with us** Just like everyone else, gay men have all kinds of body shapes and sizes!

16. Myth: All gay men are fashion experts.

Truth: Not all gay guys pay attention to trends or fashion. They do as they please, just like everyone else!
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Truth: Not all gay guys pay attention to trends or fashion. They do as they please, just like everyone else!

17. Myth: All gay men are only interested in sex.

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Truth: Many gay men seek meaningful relationships, just like everyone else does.

So, tl;dr, every gay man is unique and deserves to be valued for who they are — no matter what pop culture dictates! ❤️

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This post was translated from Spanish.

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