We recently shared a post where people shared their shocking stories about how they found out their ex-spouse was cheating, and honestly, I'm still speechless.
In the comments of the post, many people from the BuzzFeed Community also shared how they caught their spouse cheating, and it's unbelievable.
Here are just some of their stories:
1. "A cashier from the local hardware store told me she’d seen him on Tinder."
"Post-divorce, a cashier from the local hardware store told me that she felt bad for me every time my ex and I walked into the store together because she’d seen him on Tinder. She told me this at my kid’s baseball game."
2. "I was pregnant with our third child, and I found a receipt for women's underwear."
"I was pregnant with our third child, and I found a receipt for women's underwear — which I know I didn't get, and he hadn't gifted to me. He lied that he was going to buy them for me but then returned them last minute. I'm not dumb. I left a week after I gave birth and never went back. His new relationship didn't last due to him cheating."
3. "My husband had a brain tumor removed and then lost his short-term memory...I found all his secret email accounts linked to dating sites."
"My husband had a brain tumor removed and then lost his short-term memory. We keep a lot of stuff separated (finances and insurance, for example). Since he could not remember any of his financial obligations or medical appointments or insurance information, I had to use his facial recognition on his iPhone to go through his emails and such to find all the information I needed to keep up his obligations and get in touch with the correct people. However, I also found all his secret email accounts linked to dating sites and correspondence with women he had met up with from the dating sites."
4. "A phone bill arrived, and he spent £300 in a week calling the same woman."
"We went on holiday, and he spent hours at a time locked in the bathroom with his phone. I was called ‘paranoid’ and ‘psycho’ when I confronted him. A few days later, a phone bill arrived, and he spent £300 in a week calling the same woman!"
5. "His fiancé called me and told me they have been living together for the past three years, have a 6-month-old, and she was four months pregnant with the second baby."
"His fiancé called me and told me they have been living together for the past three years, have a 6-month-old, and she was four months pregnant with the second baby. Mind you, she had no idea he was married for 13 years. He was away from me and our two daughters for work. Little did I know, he had been cheating on me for years. First time he left for 'work' was when I had given birth to our second daughter, and she was a week old. He started seeing another woman and just kept it up for years and lied to me. We’re in the middle a divorce right now. He also left his fiancé with both babies and is continuing multiple relationships with other women."
6. "I came across a card from a woman who I had been suspicious of for a long time, and she referred to him as her 'husband.'"
"My husband and I have been separated, but not divorced. One day, while picking up our kid, I came across a card from a woman who I had been suspicious of for a long time, and she referred to him as her 'husband.' After searching the upstairs of the house I still co-own, [I found] a photo album of their 'wedding' as well as copious photos of them pretending to be a family with my kid. He told me from jump that she was just a friend and I was 'crazy.' Trust your instincts."
7. "I asked to swap phones so he could pick up the ice cream I ordered for my mom...He turned ghost white when I took his phone."
"I asked to swap phones so he could pick up the ice cream I ordered for my mom, since I couldn't remember the password for my app to check in. He turned ghost white when I took his phone. My gut said look, so I did. He'd been actively trying to find some [stranger], complete with sending pictures of his junk. I didn't care if he'd succeeded or not. We're in a pandemic, and I was still healing from gallbladder surgery and childbirth. We're getting a divorce."
8. "My husband’s coworker contacted me through Instagram, 18 days after my mother died, to let me know about her and my husband's 14-year affair."
"My husband’s coworker contacted me through Instagram, 18 days after my mother died, to let me know about her and my husband's 14-year affair. She said my husband intended to leave me when our daughter turned 18 (she’s 16 now). When I confronted him, he denied it, so I demanded to see his phone. He refused, and I told him if I can’t see his phone, he needed to leave. He left.
Now that I want a divorce, he wants to go to marriage counseling, even though he finally admitted that he cheated and wanted to leave me like his girlfriend said. He said she only contacted me because he ended things with her, so it’s payback. ...Now his own daughter won't speak to him. People, please remember that cheating is never going to end well. It’s selfish and cowardly, and it hurts everyone involved..."
9. "He left his email open, and I happened to see a subject line that was suspicious."
"I was sitting in the living room with my second husband, my son, and my stepdaughters. I was on the computer, and he left his email open, and I happened to see a subject line that was suspicious. I opened it and read all about the services from a sex worker — how much for outcalls, etc. It was clear that this wasn't the first time. I felt dizzy and nauseous. I confronted him privately, threw my ring at him. I was so humiliated, angry, and hurt. ...That was my last marriage."
10. "I looked at his Apple Watch one night before bed because I had this feeling something was up — turns out I was right."
"I found out because he was acting weird. I looked at his Apple Watch one night before bed (he always charged it in another part of the house) because I had this feeling something was up — turns out I was right. I was so upset and almost started panicking, and then I got mad. I took the watch and stormed into our bedroom where he was. I yelled at him and threw his watch at him. At first, he denied it...and eventually admitted it. I packed as much stuff as I could and left that night. He was cheating on me with his ex."
11. "I saw a mark on her neck, but she said it was a burn from her hair curler."
"She started staying out late each night. I saw a mark on her neck, but she said it was a burn from her hair curler (hair was straight). I took her phone and backed it up to my iTunes and downloaded a decrypter. Went through the files and found explicit conversations and photos. Absolutely destroyed me."
12. "He had another family in another town and left her for them."
"My cousin's husband left her 'out of the blue' after two kids and 15 years of marriage. She found out he had another family in another town and left her for them. It was terrible."
And finally:
13. "Found out from our 5-year-old. He had the other woman in the bed with them when he thought our child was asleep."
"Found out from our 5-year-old. He had the other woman in the bed with them when he thought our child was asleep. She told me the next day she just lay very still and 'counted the kisses.' Biggest piece of crap on earth."
What's a shocking way you discovered your spouse was cheating? Tell us your story in the comments below.
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.