Ghosting. If you haven’t already heard of it, it’s basically when someone ends a relationship with someone else by abruptly cutting off all contact without any clear explanation or warning.
Recently, TikToker @kekeyee (known as @kesira.rog on Instagram) asked other TikTok users to answer the question: "What is the worst way you’ve ever been ghosted?" To kick off the trend, she shared her own ghosting experience, and it's quite unpredictable:
"One time, I met this guy on Bumble, and he was like, 'Let’s get tacos and tequila.' ... So we met up at a restaurant, and we had some margaritas, and then one thing led to another, and we started taking tequila shots," she says in the video. "After our seventh tequila shot...he started telling me about this tattoo he really wants, and I was like, 'Let’s get it now 'cause you’re never gonna get it unless we go right now.'"
"We went to this tattoo shop, and he was like, 'Do you want anything?' And I said, 'No I’m good,' and he was like, 'I’ll pay for it — just get it.' So, I was like, 'Okay.' At this point, I’m not in the right headspace to be making decisions that will impact me for the rest of my life, so I showed the tattoo artist a picture of what I wanted, and he showed the guy and he said, 'Are you sure she should get this?' And he said, 'Yes, I’ll pay for it.' So, I got a tattoo of an alien."
"The next day, I texted him like, 'Haha wild night,' and he never responded. He literally ghosted me. He alienated me after putting this on my body. A month later, I asked him why he ghosted me, and this is what he responded with. Then a month later, I saw him on Bumble again and matched with him as a joke."
After Kesira's story, several other TikTokers shared their horrible ghosting experiences, and some stories might just leave you speechless. Here are some of the wildest ones:
1. This mysterious flight:
"I dated my ex for about a year and a half. He lived with me in my apartment for nine months, and he was supposed to switch schools to one near me for college. We had it all planned out and everything. He went on a short trip to go to Florida with his family, I went on a short trip to New York, and when we got back, we were supposed to meet at the airport. Never saw his flight come in, never saw a flight even existed, so I started to freak out. The next day, I’m like, 'What’s going on? I stayed up all night freaking out.' He’s like, 'I’m getting a bus. I went on the wrong plane.' The next day, I’m like, 'Come on, you need to be here. This is very stressful.' He’s like, 'I’ll be there tomorrow. My dad’s gonna drive me up. First thing in the morning, I’ll be there at 7 a.m.' So, I go to bed, we FaceTime, we say goodnight, love you, everything normal. When I wake up in the morning, I am blocked on every single social media platform. I kid you not. He left all of his stuff, all of his clothing, his guitar, and his laptop. It’s been over a year; I haven't heard from him. But he’s not dead — I have confirmation."
2. This sudden move:
"The time I was ghosted by a man I dated for a year. He didn’t just ghost — he did it in the most extreme way possible. So, we were coming up on a year of our relationship, and I’m calling him to make plans. We only saw each other on weekends because I was in college, he was not. I’m calling him, he’s not answering, and I’m like, 'That’s so weird,' but I’m busy with school, so I go about my life. The weekend rolls around, I still haven’t heard from him, and I’m like, 'I’m gonna go by his house and just make sure everything’s okay.' I go by his house — his car isn’t there. ... I walk into the house, his stuff isn’t in his bedroom. Roommate comes up from the basement, and I’m like, ‘Hey, where’s Josh?’ And he’s like, 'Uh, he doesn’t live here anymore.' I’m like, 'Where the hell does he live?' He’s like, 'He moved to Tennessee.' This man moved 1,000 miles away and didn’t say a word to me. He just left."
3. This big secret:
"I was dating this guy for about five years. I went on a trip with some girlfriends, I came home, he told me he’ll pick me up. I tried calling him; there’s no answer. I tried texting him — also nothing. I’m like, 'Maybe his phone’s broken. I’ll look him up on Facebook.' I look him up on Facebook, and I can’t even find him. So, I’m like, 'Okay, well, we live together. Maybe something happened. Maybe he’s at home. Whatever.' I get someone else to drive me home, get there. Most of his stuff is still there, but some of it’s gone. I’m like, ‘Maybe he’s with a buddy and just forgot to tell me.’ So, I tried calling a few of his friends. No answer. Okay, well, I’ll give it a day. I don’t know what else to do. I waited a couple days, tried reaching out to a few friends, still nothing. About a week [went by], I call his family, I’m like, 'Look. I don’t know what’s going on.' He had disappeared for about a day or two in the past, but nothing like this. Finally, one of his buddies tells me that while I was gone, he found out he got a girl pregnant. He was in love with her, and he moved in with her so they could be together."
4. This wedding weekend getaway:
"I met this guy through my best friend. ... He moved to Ohio for a job, had nowhere to live, so he ended up living with me. Like, we had already been talking and dating officially when he moved in. One weekend, he went to Kentucky for a wedding, and I didn’t hear from him all weekend. ... I didn’t hear from him for three days, and I was like, 'Are you okay?' Me and my best friend stalked his location. ... He got engaged to his ex-girlfriend while he was down there, came home while I was at work, got all of his stuff — like, everything — and just disappeared. I haven’t heard from him since."
5. This long-distance reunion:
"A couple years ago, I went on a trip to America and Canada, and I met a guy at a bar in a hostel on my second night there. This was in Toronto, and I was traveling to Montréal the next day. We do what other backpackers do — we got very drunk and hooked up. Then [I told him], 'I’m leaving tomorrow; I’m going to Montréal. So, have a nice life. This was fun.' I leave, and the next day, he texted me and said, 'I really enjoyed your company. Can I come to Montréal and hang out, and we could travel together?' He didn’t seem like a serial killer, so I said okay. We then spend the next two months traveling together and basically falling in love. He even introduced me to his family on Christmas day.
So, I eventually have to go back to Australia. We’re very heartbroken; it’s really difficult, and we decide to do long-distance. I come back to Australia, and some of his family actually come to Australia to travel, and I end up hosting them. So, things were looking quite serious, and we were trying to find a way to work it out. Long story short, it gets to the two-month mark after I leave, and I can see that he’s finding it really difficult, so he ends up breaking it off, which is totally fine — I understand. We’re in two different continents. Probably about six months after we break up, I actually decide to move to Canada for film work and writing opportunities. I reached out to him to tell him I was passing through Toronto. He said, 'This is great. We can catch up. We can hang out,' so we’re back on good terms. He even says [I can have his address] to get a bank account, phone number, what have you. We were talking every day for a month before I landed — and the second I landed, [he’s] off the grid. Haven’t heard from him since."
—@kikochan90 (Part 1 and Part 2)
6. This brewery date:
"I matched with this girl on Tinder. We were talking for about two weeks, and we finally planned on having a date. The date was at a brewery, which was an hour away from me and pretty close to her. So, I’m getting ready, and text her, like, 'Hey, I’m about to leave. I’ll be there in an hour.' When I get to the brewery, I’m in the parking lot, and I text her: 'Hey, I’m here.' The message immediately went to green, and I didn’t really think anything of it and figured it was just bad service. So, I hit her up on Snapchat and noticed that she removed me there. I went to Tinder; she removed me there. And I went to Facebook — she blocked me on there. So, I was sitting in the parking lot and realized that she ghosted me."
7. This New Year's Eve plot twist:
"This was the worst way someone ghosted me, but it was the best thing that ever happened to me. New Year’s Eve is my least favorite holiday, because something bad always happens to me on New Year’s Eve. I started dating this guy, and I was getting really excited, because I was like, 'It’s getting close to New Year’s Eve. This is the first time I’m gonna spend [it] happy for once and bring it in with someone new.' What happens? He ghosts me on New Year’s Eve, and I’m heartbroken. I’m bringing in the new year bawling, like, hysterically crying. I then wake up the next morning, I look in the mirror. I see how bad I look, I make a joke, and I make myself laugh. And then I said, 'You know what, I don’t know how I’m gonna do it, but I’m gonna make people laugh from all my bad dating experiences.' Fast-forward, that experience is what caused me to create the first Kouncil video, the Kouncil video goes viral. I then had someone from LA reach out to me and ask me to audition for a role on a TV show. I booked that role, and now I’m on a TV show, and so yeah, it ended up being a really good thing that happened to me."
8. This baecation:
"A friend of mine who I’ve always had some curiosity and chemistry with, we decided to meet in Miami and see where things go. From the moment I get there, it is awkward. She gets there before I do, I walk in, she’s encouraging me to go out. I’m like, I came here to see you; I’m not trying to go out anywhere. … We go to sleep, the next day, we wake up, go on the beach. I try to make things better and ease the conversation. Things seem to be going better. We come back to the room, we take a nap. I wake up, and she’s gone. She lies to me, but she’s downstairs having drinks at the bar with some dudes she ran into in Miami. ...One of my [friends] happens to be in Miami, so I go out with him … I come back to the hotel room and wake up the next day — she’s gone. But what I was mad about was that I spent all that money on that room."
9. This birthday party no-show:
"I was at a party in Paris, and the next day, I was going back to Italy, where I live all year long. I met this guy, and we clicked right away. He took my number, and from that point, he started texting me every day — morning, night, whatever. You name it. He was sending me [long messages], we were having these deep conversations. I was gonna go back to France in about 20 days for my birthday … I was having a huge party. So, we knew we were going to see each other. At some point, he was like, 'I don’t wanna wait that long. I’m gonna come to see you in Milan, and I’m gonna book my tickets and sleep at my friends house.' Like, no pressure. He was such a gentleman. He looked for the tickets and everything, and then he had to go on a trip with his family. The day I landed in Paris, he texted me, 'I can’t wait to see you tonight.' Then, that night on my birthday, he never showed up. I texted him, and he never answered me ever again."
10. This close friend:
"There was this guy I once liked, and we kind of had a situationship going on. But besides that, we really had a tight friendship, like, I genuinely considered him a close friend of mine. He was always the one who said, 'I’m not the guy to text first. You need to text me first and tell me what’s up, and I’ll come.' So, over the summer, I lost a dear friend of mine, and I called him because I was really heartbroken. I told him, 'I’m really not okay. … I really need you. Can you come over?' And he was like, 'Yeah, I’m gonna come as soon as possible.'
And then he completely went off the radar — I didn’t hear from him anymore. Then the next thing I saw, two weeks later, was him posting on his story that he was on an airplane going on a holiday. I ended up not hearing from my 'close friend' for months."
11. This late return:
"I was dating this guy back in college. This was probably early 2004, and we were probably dating for five or six months or so. One night, he came home from his weekend training — I fixed him a really nice dinner and had a bottle of wine for us — and he was just acting kind of strange. The next day, I never heard from him, and then the teacher of our class was like, 'Hey do you know what happened to [him]?' I said, 'I don’t know. I haven’t heard from him.' And back then, it was phone calls, maybe texting, but the big thing was AOL instant messenger. Never even heard from him there. So, I had no idea what was going on. Never got a reason for a total ghosting breakup. A year and a half later, he came back from Afghanistan, trying to get back in touch with me to rekindle a relationship that we never even properly broke up over — until I told him I’m already engaged."
12. This pricey encounter:
"One time I went on a date with a dude who had been asking me out for months on end. Finally, I just gave him a chance. I met him at his apartment, and he was kind of douchey to me. Like, he didn’t come out to get me, we ended up not doing a single thing that he said we were gonna do — said we were gonna go out to dinner or party or something. We ended up just going to the casino, and I watched him lose all his money. Towards the end of the night, we were driving my car, but he offered to drive back to his house because I didn’t know where he lived, he literally parked my car in a no-parking zone. I woke up to the ticket on the hood of my car and sent him a picture, and he said, ‘Don’t worry. I got you. What’s your Cash App?’ Needless to say, I never got the money, he never called me back, and I left my work badge at his place."
13. And finally — this ridiculous rule:
"I met this really hot guy at the beach where my parents live, and we found out we live really close to each other in New York. We hung out every single weekend for five weekends. He met all my different girl friend groups, and I went to his parents' nice apartment in the city. We hung out and had really nice dates. I texted him one Saturday, like, 'Hey, what should we do tonight?' Nothing. Didn’t hear from him for about a month, and then I finally texted him, like, 'What’s going on? Why did you stop talking to me? Just wondering.' And he goes, 'Oh, me and my friends are going to the yacht week in Croatia in a few weeks, and they said I can’t have a girlfriend for that.'"
What's the worst way you've ever been ghosted? Let us know in the comments below!
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.