Posted on Jun 16, 2023

"My Boyfriend Always Asks The Waiter What To Order": People Online Are Discussing Beige Flags Instead Of Red Flags In Dating, And It's So Good

The phrase "beige flag" will populate videos with millions of views on TikTok, but some people are just hearing the term for the first time. Let's talk about it!

by Krista Torres

BuzzFeed Staff

An silhouette of a person holding a beige flag

The term "beige flag" first surfaced over a year ago when TikToker @itscaito coined it as a way of helping single people identify signs that someone might be really boring:

@itscaito
beige is the new red and in other news dating apps are a wasteland 🚩 #hinge #redflags #datingredflags #hingedating
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@cat.elizabeth has a perfect example of her boyfriend's beige flag: He sets timers instead of alarms.

@cat.elizabeth
#boyfriend #beigeflag
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A lot of beige flags are universally understood — like user @naps_and_nursing, who will never get why her husband doesn't asks for details in conversations:

@naps_and_nursing
Why are they all like this?!? #beigeflags #flags #couple #couplescomedy #couples #marriage #humour
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And you'll start to notice that beige flags tend to be totally based on the individual's perspective. Like @colecarterr, who says his girlfriend's beige flag is always needing something sweet after dinner:

@colecarterr
whats my beige flag @rachel beigeflag funny boyfriend
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Many beige flags seem to be quirks people have with only their partner, like user @ginaqueerious's girlfriend, who communicates with her using noises and actions instead of words:

@ginaqueerious
Honestly its cute and im here for it #wlw #lgbtq #beigeflag
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And @brontecrawley's boyfriend, who does a whole underwear performance when it's time to retire one:

@brontecrawley
Can’t wait to marry this man. #boyfriendbeigeflag #beigeflag #relationships #datingaman
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And honestly? A lot of the beige flags could be classified as green flags. Like, user @liftswithleah, whose boyfriend wants to pay for things for her all the time:

@liftswithleah
he has so many beige flags idk where to start
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Another example is @bitchybearz's boyfriend, who randomly throws her surprise theme parties — his most recent was a Peppa Pig theme:

@bitchybearz
i have no words #foryourpage #peppapig #couple #boyfriend #beigeflag #beigeflags #relationship #foryou #fyp
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And @niyahurt's partner's beige flag could also be a green flag to some:

@niyahurt
“What’s your deepeat regret?” … yet were surrounded by 50 people 😂 #fyp #beigeflag #couples #love
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The truest of beige flags, though, are simple things a person does that are certainly not the norm but are also neither bad nor good:

@hadar_zaid
he’s both embarassing and adorable #beigeflags #boyfriend #relationship
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The topic of beige flags has become so widespread that people on other social media platforms — like Twitter — are continuing to buzz about them.

Finally a Beige Flag video I can appreciate pic.twitter.com/ttHMpzheug
— ‏َ (@xxiyxxx) June 9, 2023

Twitter: @xxiyxxx

And people are even giving themselves their own beige flags!!

My beige flag is that i bite my ice cream pic.twitter.com/oE4jrZUMZj
— Naif✨ (@megabeatz98) June 9, 2023

Twitter: @megabeatz98

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"My Boyfriend Always Asks The Waiter What To Order": People Online Are Discussing Beige Flags Instead Of Red Flags In Dating, And It's So Good

Lately, the internet has been saturated with "beige flag" content.

So, if you are sitting there like, "Uhhhhh, what's a beige flag???" Let's dive in.

The term "beige flag" first surfaced over a year ago when TikToker @itscaito coined it as a way of helping single people identify signs that someone might be really boring:

@cat.elizabeth has a perfect example of her boyfriend's beige flag: He sets timers instead of alarms.

Like, there's technically nothing wrong with setting six-hour timers instead of alarms...BUT it is just a bit weird.

A lot of beige flags are universally understood — like user @naps_and_nursing, who will never get why her husband doesn't asks for details in conversations:

Like, it's not a red flag, but it's also not a green flag. It certainly leans beige.

And you'll start to notice that beige flags tend to be totally based on the individual's perspective. Like @colecarterr, who says his girlfriend's beige flag is always needing something sweet after dinner:

Some people might think this is normal and not a beige flag at all:

Many beige flags seem to be quirks people have with only their partner, like user @ginaqueerious's girlfriend, who communicates with her using noises and actions instead of words:

And @brontecrawley's boyfriend, who does a whole underwear performance when it's time to retire one:

Even if some seem a bit much or over the top, people relate:

And honestly? A lot of the beige flags could be classified as green flags. Like, user @liftswithleah, whose boyfriend wants to pay for things for her all the time:

Meaning that many beige flags actually mark signs of a healthy relationship.

Another example is @bitchybearz's boyfriend, who randomly throws her surprise theme parties — his most recent was a Peppa Pig theme:

And @niyahurt's partner's beige flag could also be a green flag to some:

The truest of beige flags, though, are simple things a person does that are certainly not the norm but are also neither bad nor good:

The topic of beige flags has become so widespread that people on other social media platforms — like Twitter — are continuing to buzz about them.

And people are even giving themselves their own beige flags!!

"My Boyfriend Always Asks The Waiter What To Order": People Online Are Discussing Beige Flags Instead Of Red Flags In Dating, And It's So Good

Lately, the internet has been saturated with "beige flag" content.

So, if you are sitting there like, "Uhhhhh, what's a beige flag???" Let's dive in.

The term "beige flag" first surfaced over a year ago when TikToker @itscaito coined it as a way of helping single people identify signs that someone might be really boring:

@cat.elizabeth has a perfect example of her boyfriend's beige flag: He sets timers instead of alarms.

Like, there's technically nothing wrong with setting six-hour timers instead of alarms...BUT it is just a bit weird.

A lot of beige flags are universally understood — like user @naps_and_nursing, who will never get why her husband doesn't asks for details in conversations:

Like, it's not a red flag, but it's also not a green flag. It certainly leans beige.

And you'll start to notice that beige flags tend to be totally based on the individual's perspective. Like @colecarterr, who says his girlfriend's beige flag is always needing something sweet after dinner:

Some people might think this is normal and not a beige flag at all:

Many beige flags seem to be quirks people have with only their partner, like user @ginaqueerious's girlfriend, who communicates with her using noises and actions instead of words:

And @brontecrawley's boyfriend, who does a whole underwear performance when it's time to retire one:

Even if some seem a bit much or over the top, people relate:

And honestly? A lot of the beige flags could be classified as green flags. Like, user @liftswithleah, whose boyfriend wants to pay for things for her all the time:

Meaning that many beige flags actually mark signs of a healthy relationship.

Another example is @bitchybearz's boyfriend, who randomly throws her surprise theme parties — his most recent was a Peppa Pig theme:

And @niyahurt's partner's beige flag could also be a green flag to some:

The truest of beige flags, though, are simple things a person does that are certainly not the norm but are also neither bad nor good:

The topic of beige flags has become so widespread that people on other social media platforms — like Twitter — are continuing to buzz about them.

And people are even giving themselves their own beige flags!!

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