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What's holding you back in your relationships?

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How long did your last relationship last?

What's your biggest relationship pet peeve?

How do you usually enter into a relationship with someone?

How would you describe yourself in a relationship?

It's understandable — the allure of being in love is hard to ignore. But your desire to be in ANY relationship is definitely noticeable, and comes across as desperation. People can tell that it's not necessarily THEM that you want, it's what they represent. Remember, dating isn't just about if they like you; it's also about whether they're the right person for you. Don't just leap at the first opportunity! Make sure it's the RIGHT opportunity.

You want ANY relationship, not the right one

You're still learning that an instant connection doesn't necessarily mean true love. There are a lot of people you can immediately click with, but you jump from that immediately into planning your relationship far in the future and assuming they feel the same level of commitment that you do. You want to commit before you've REALLY gotten to know a person, and that can scare people off. You need to learn to slow down a little and try to be in the moment.

You fall too hard, too fast

While you do want to fall in love and like the idea of a relationship, once you're actually in one, you get uncomfortable with the idea of having to plan your life around another person. You don't like having to consider someone else's plans or feelings before you make a decision, even though you know you should. You still want everything on your terms, which isn't fair to a relationship partner. You should never become codependent in a relationship, but they do require compromise, and you're not quite at the point where you're willing to do that yet.

You don't like giving up your independence

You often have trouble identifying your own feelings to yourself, so you have an especially difficult time expressing your feelings, needs, and desires to a partner. When you're upset, you tend to stew on your feelings and keep them bottled up until they explode at a completely different time, and your partner doesn't know how to deal with that. They're not a mind-reader, even if it's something you think they should already know. You're still working on how to healthily express yourself so that you don't grow to resent the other person (and vice versa).

You don't communicate your needs well

You love an intense, physical connection at the start of relationships, and the kind of people you date definitely fulfill that requirement. But in the long run, those kinds of connections usually (not always, but often) fizzle out, and you're probably trying to meet people in the wrong kind of settings. Try some new experiences that allow you to get to know people better before going out with them; allow a connection to grow in a different way than just wanting to jump their bones.

You're finding partners in the wrong places

You already have high standards for yourself; you like winning, whether it comes to your job, your hobbies, and also when it comes to your relationship. The problem comes when you expect the same of your partner, and don't allow any flexibility about your expectations. Everyone approaches relationships differently, and while you shouldn't compromise your values, you should allow for some variations in approach. People don't feel like they're being judged or graded in relationship — try to see them as a person, and not a project.

Your standards are too high

While you love that intense initial connection with someone, once the honeymoon period starts to end, you lose interest. To you, without the rush of excitement that comes with new relationships, everything else seems dull and full of obligations — so you either break up with them, or you meet another person you click with and jump to that relationship instead. And if all you want are short, intense relationships, that's fine! But if you want something longer-lasting, you'll need to learn that deep, serious relationships aren't about constant rushes of excitement. They're about trust, comfort, and caring for another person, which may not always cause your heart to flutter, but it will make your heart feel safe.

You get bored easily

By all accounts, you're an awesome, well-adjusted person who would be a wonderful relationship partner. But sometimes the right person just hasn't come along yet, and it's nothing you can control! Just stay open and keep looking, and you're sure to find the right person eventually.

It's a mystery

Every time you get into a relationship, you want it to work out SO BADLY that you'll do anything to make it work. That means you focus entirely on the other person's and ignoring your own. You try to become who you think your partner wants you to be, rather than being your self and figuring out whether you're right for each other. You're still learning that a relationship that ends isn't a failure; it's a learning experience that teaches you more about what you want and don't want in relationships. Being kind to your partner is always key, but giving up your wants and needs just to please someone who might not be right for you is always a bad idea.

You give up too much of yourself in relationships

You're not against relationships; it's just not what you want right NOW. You're confident, fun-loving, and not looking to be tied down. Sure, if the right person comes along, you're not going to ignore them, but in the meantime, why worry about it? You're fantastic all on your own.

You're having an awesome time being single

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