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Would You Make A Good Girlfriend, According To This '50s Dating Guide?

Going steady or breaking up?

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This is the 1955 dating advice book Joyce Jackson's Guide to Dating.

It was supposedly written by an ~actual teenager~, offering advice to other teen girls on dating, relationships, and marriage.
Julie Gerstein

It was supposedly written by an ~actual teenager~, offering advice to other teen girls on dating, relationships, and marriage.

Let's test how good you'd be at dating in the '50s, according to this book!

  1. What's the biggest mistake women and girls make when it comes to sexuality?

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    Kissing on the first date.
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    Not kissing on the first date.
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    Letting the necking go too far.
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    Having sex before marriage.
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    Judy sez it's important not to develop any "heavy necking habits" and to use "sublimation, which means doing something else for the time being instead of what one wants to do." Okay, Judy.

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  2. What shouldn't you do when a boy asks you if you'd like to get something to eat at the end of the date night?

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    Immediately say yes and expect him to pay.
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    Tell him "I don't care, it's up to you."
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    Say no.
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    Say yes, and offer to go Dutch.
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    Judith says boys hate indecision, so the worst thing you can do is tell him that it's UP TO HIM.

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  3. What's the proper protocol when you go out to a restaurant with your date?

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    Let your date choose your meal and order for you.
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    Order for yourself and let your date order for himself.
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    Decide what you want, give your date your order, and then let him tell the waiter what you want.
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    See what your date is ordering and let that determine what you'll order.
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    Says Judith, "After you have sat down, your date will help you move your chair closer to the table. Be as lightweight as you can. Next you will give him your order, and he will give it to the waiter or waitress. This saves confusion."

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  4. What should a girl do for her boyfriend's birthday?

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    Bake him a cake and give him a sensible present.
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    Get him a card and mail it to him.
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    Buy him an extravagant gift to show how much you really care.
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    Do nothing, because otherwise you'll give away your feelings.
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    Judith says that you should "serve him a cake preferably one you've baked yourself, and coffee." Plus, it'll "tell him that you like him, but at the same time will make it plain that you are not trying to rush him."

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  5. What should you do if the boy you're dating takes another girl out on a date?

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    Stop seeing him immediately. He obviously doesn't respect you.
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    Realize it's not a big deal because he would never do anything undignified on a date.
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    Have a heartfelt conversation about why he would ever disrespect you like that.
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    Ask him to go steady with you.
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    Silly girl, no woman ever asks a man to go steady with her! Unless you're already going steady there's no cause for alarm. After all, as Judith explains, "if you and your boyfriend have the love of true friends between you, nothing can kill that love that already exists."

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  6. What's one terrible faux pas a woman should never do on a date?

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    Show up in pin curls.
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    Show up without makeup.
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    File your nails.
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    All of the above.
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    According to Judith, all of these things are considered INSULTING.

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  7. Is it ever okay to be picked up by and go out with a total stranger?

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    No. It's never respectable to meet and date strangers.
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    Yes, girls should take the opportunity to meet potential husbands wherever they can.
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    Yes, but you need to make it respectable by having your parents meet him first.
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    No, it is always dangerous to talk to strange men.
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    Girls can, says Judith, "arrange to have the boy spend an evening at your home at which time you can get your parents' help in judging his character." Or he could just murder your whole fam, whatever.

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  8. According to the book, with whom do girls often unwittingly fall in love with?

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    Actors
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    Clergy
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    Teachers
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    Musicians
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    "What girl has not at some time or other felt herself 'in love' with the leader of her church?" writes Judith. "This is normal but it would not be normal for her to make some embarrassing display of her emotion." All right.

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  9. What's the proper position to take on going steady?

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    You should always be gunning to go steady.
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    You should go steady with as many people as possible.
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    It's silly to go steady until you're ready to get married.
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    You should start going steady with one boy when you're in your early teens.
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    "Going steady often leads to excessive necking — that in itself is a good reason why it should be postponed until engagement and marriage are possible within the near future," writes Judith.

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  10. What should a girl do if a boy who is going steady with someone else asks her out?

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    Say yes, because you want to help him out of a pickle.
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    Say yes, but only if you really like him.
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    Say no, because you don't want to break up a steady relationship.
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    It's the moral obligation of girls, says Judith, to help boys get out of going steady. "If he is trying to get out of going steady, or perhaps break up a rumor that he is going steady, a girl should try to help him out of it if she can."

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  11. How much education should a woman have before she gets married?

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    High school
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    College
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    Graduate school
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    As much education as the man she's going to marry.
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    According to Joyce, "two people of extremely different educational backgrounds may feel they are in love for a while, but it cannot last...Two people must have common educational backgrounds if they are to get along as one."

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