A firm handshakeSingle cheek air-kiss on Poppy’s right cheekDouble cheek kiss with Thomas kissing Poppy’s right cheek firstThomas bowing over Poppy’s hand and kissing it.
Double cheek kiss.
The double kiss, which is usually the man kissing the woman’s right cheek first, is the norm among younger people. Hand-kissing, or rather a man bowing over the hand of a married woman, never a young girl, and not quite touching it with his lips, has never really caught on in Britain. It looks affected unless you come from a culture where men are brought up to hand-kiss.
3 hours6 hours12 hours24 hours
Always wait 24 hours before accepting or removing someone as a friend. The delay will help you gather your thoughts.
Yours,Yours sincerely,Yours faithfully,Thanks,
The sign-off depends on the salutation. As a broad rule, if you addressed the letter to 'Dear Mr Debrett' the sign off is 'Yours sincerely'. If addressed to 'Dear Sir/Madam', then 'Yours faithfully' is correct.
Your MajestyYour HighnessMa'amYour Grace
When conversing with The Queen, substitute "Your Majesty" for "you".
Leave where it is until you eat the first course.Tuck it into your collar.Place it upon your lap immediately.
Place it upon your lap.
Napkins should be placed on the lap as soon as you are seated. When you get down from the table, leave the napkin, unfolded on the table, to the left of the place setting.
Generally, loo is the preferred term, 'Ladies' or 'Gents' in public venues is also widely used. 'Lavatory' is unambiguous, while 'Toilet' is the internationally recognised word, but may still raise an eyebrow in more class-conscious circles.
The older personThe wealthier personYou should always split the billWhoever extended the invitation should pay the bill
Whoever extended the invitation should pay the bill
There is one abiding rule - the person who requests the pleasure, pays for the pleasure. So, as a simple point of etiquette, you should pick up the tab for a lunch, dinner or drinks - whether dating or business lunching - if you have invited the other person.
Scoop the peas onto the top your fork with your knife.Stab the peas with your fork.Squash the peas onto the back of your fork with your knife.
Squash the peas onto the back of your fork
Avoid turning over your fork and using it as a scoop; instead, squash the peas on to the back of the fork. Utilise any aids on your plate, such as mashed potato. Scoop with an upturned fork in more casual or solitary situations.
Swallowed, spitting is unseemly.Spat into the right hand and placed in the napkin.Spat into the left hand and discretely placed on the side of the plate
Pips and stones (cherry, olive etc.) should be discreetly spat into a cupped left hand and deposited on the side of the plate or discarded.
In the tin, covered by clingfilm, in the fridge,In tupperware, with the lid on, in the fridge.In tupperware, covered by a breathable material, in the fridge.In a champagne flute, in the fridge.
In a champagne flute.
Once opened, caviar should be stored in a champagne flute in the fridge, never in the tin. Good caviar should not taste salty. Test it by placing a small amount on the fleshy part of your hand between your thumb and index finger; it should not smell.
Take a small sip, if you like it, wave it to the table, if not, send it back.Smell the wine, swirl it around the glass to tell if it's ok or not.Taste it, remark upon its flavours and if you like it, say "that's fine" to the waiter.
You need only to sniff and swirl it.
If you ordered the wine in a restaurant, you will usually be asked to taste it. Remember, it's not to see if you like it, but just to check it's not corked. You will be served a small amount in your glass. Swirl the wine in the glass and give it a sniff. Amateurs or the under-confident should also take a small sip. Remember, a screw top wine cannot be corked.
Morning DressBlack TieWhite TieEveningwear
Morning dress (or 'formal day dress') is the traditional dress for weddings and formal daytime events in the presence of The Queen, such as Royal Ascot and Trooping the Colour. The jacket is always referred to as the morning coat.
Spaghetti StrapsA mini skirtA trouser suitHalter necks
Ladies should choose a smart dress or suit (steer clear of miniskirts, halter necks and spaghetti straps). It's fine for ladies to wear trouser suits (or a matching top and trousers). Remember a day at the races can be quite tiring with a lot of standing around - toe-pinching stilettos might not be the best choice.
After an impressive aria.When the conductor takes to the podium.At the end of an act.During a prolonged silence in the music.
Be sure to applaud only when the conductor takes to the podium (at the very beginning and after the interval), after the overture (the musical introduction before curtain-up), at the end of an act, after an impressive aria and at the final bows. Avoid whooping, whistling or braying - feet stamping is a definite no-no.