Recently, a girlfriend wondered if she was an asshole after she refused to get on a flight that was gifted to her by her boyfriend's mom — who was being prettyyyyy rude to her the day of the flight — and I MUST know what your thoughts are.
"My boyfriend’s parents paid for them, my boyfriend’s siblings, and their SO's to all go on a flight to Cabo for spring break. Becky, his mom, hasn’t seemed to like me for some reason — she always makes snide remarks about my parents' blue collar jobs and my field, which is nursing."
"We get to the airport, and Becky got seven other people first class tickets and me a coach ticket. She told me I was used to it, and she had a free coach ticket, so I should be grateful for going. They all did their express check-ins and left me in the long line for me to think about what the heck is going on."
"I had to keep from crying the whole time in line. I got up to the counter, and there was a baggage fee I had to pay. My boyfriend at the time never once helped me go through the coach line or said anything to his mom. I looked over at his mom’s smug face as I was about to pay the checked baggage fee, and I let all of my frustrations out on the attendant and started crying."
"Basically, she said, 'Don’t go with that family sweetie; they don’t appreciate you.' I continued to cry and took my luggage and got out of line with the super sweet check-in woman. I was so upset on how I was treated and started crying to my boyfriend in the airport about how his mother was treating me."
"I broke up with him at the airport, and his mother was so embarrassed. I told her what a bitch she was. My boyfriend has been blowing up my phone saying how could I do that to his mother and just back out of a vacation very last minute and waste everyone’s time and money."
I don't know about you, but I have no words after reading that.
People in the subreddit, however, had a LOT to say about the situation. One user who goes by u/Complex-Lemon-371 assured the girlfriend that she should not feel bad for not getting on the flight.
"If you would have got on the plane, you would have been treated like this for the entire vacation. It was absolutely the right decision to stand up for yourself," they said.
"They are going to say that you should be happy for any kind of vacation and not look down on a coach ticket, but his mother was being pointedly rude to you."
Another user who goes by u/mumismatist said that the true villain of this story was the boyfriend's mom.
"Boyfriend's mom was pulling a most assholish power play on you, indirectly saying you're not good enough for the family by directly refusing to let you fly in first class with them. 'Hahahahah let's put the garbage in second class where she belongs' — I bet she thought she was so damn smart with that move lol," they said.
Someone else who goes by u/Able-dress1678 pointed out how poorly the boyfriend handled the situation.
"Was the boyfriend actually planning on sitting in first class and leaving OP alone in coach? What a useless AH," they said.
"Oh, and then his biggest concern (with his GF in tears) is his poor mom being embarrassed. I am at a loss for words (other than a lot of the 4-letter variety) to describe this waste of oxygen."
And last but not least, another person shamed the other people in the family for not standing up for the girlfriend.
"I’d like to add that any other person on the trip could have and should have stood up for OP, and they all chose not to. I’d say it’s pretty obvious they know what type of person the ex’s mother is, and none of them care/no one wants to get on her bad side, so they’ll always prioritize her childishness," u/cnt96 said.