People Are Calling This The Most Empowering Moment In "Bachelor" History
"Man, you're imperfect, and isn't that amazing?"
Why, hello! I'm here to talk about one of the most amazing moments in Bachelor history — and I don't mean that in a Chris Harrison kinda way. This one will make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside.
Last night, we finally saw the show's much-hyped two-on-one date between Kendall and Krystal.
First, Arie chatted with Krystal: They cleared the air about last week's drama, and then Krystal proceeded to throw Kendall under the bus by telling Arie that Kendall wasn't "ready for marriage" and that she "doesn't even know why she's here."
After that, Arie confronted Kendall about what Krystal had said. Kendall thought it was "pretty cruel" that Krystal felt the need to say that stuff to Arie behind her back.
Up until that moment, the date seemed to be headed toward normal, catty, two-on-one territory — but then Kendall did something pretty amazing. Instead of fighting back, she tried to find a way to empathize with Krystal. I'm just going to leave her whole speech here because it's important:
I dated someone like you before, where in the face of conflict they have told me things that really hurt me. I guess I learned that saying the thing that's most hurtful doesn't necessarily mean you win. It means you hurt somebody. I can definitely empathize with you...I feel like you have so much beauty in you. Like, I 100% see that. You've been through a lot. You've been through so much. You've been through a lot of pain — like, more pain than I can even understand. It feels very controlled. I don't think you should try to control it.
I think you should just — man, I feel like the most beautiful moments I've ever had with somebody and the moments I've been able to connect with somebody are the moments I feel like I acted like a fool or acted imperfect. Man, you're imperfect. And isn't that amazing?