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22 Struggles Of Being A Femme Lesbian

"But... you're really pretty?"

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1. When people hear that you're gay they say: "But you're really pretty".

FOX

I can be both.

2. Then they say: "You just haven't found the right man yet".

Oprah

3. Or you get the people who say "You're so pretty..."

ABC

"...for a lesbian."

ABC

Was that meant to be a compliment?

4. Or, even worse, a guy tells you he can "turn you straight".

Showtime

5. If you date another femme, people always asks which one of you is the 'guy'.

FOX

We're both girls...?

6. If you date a butch, people assume that you're actually into guys.

NBC

7. People ask you why you don't have short hair.

FOX

8. Potential love interests assume you're straight and you have to make the first move.

9. So you try to dress a little more butch but you just feel stupid.

ABC

10. Guys constantly ask you and your girlfriend if you'd like to have a threesome.

TLC

11. People assume that because you're femme, you're only into butch lesbians.

12. People tell you it's just a phase because you don't ~look~ like a lesbian.

Bravo

13. And people assume you're gay because a man broke your heart.

14. You have to come out to literally everyone and it becomes a whole big thing.

ABC

15. People have told you that it makes you less of a lesbian.

Lifetime

16. You have to deal with the stereotype that femme lesbians are passive in bed.

Lifetime

17. A lot of people assume that you and your girlfriend are sisters.

Disney

18. And guys will try to hit on you while you're literally holding hands.

NBC

19. If you talk to a guy at a party, once he finds out you're gay he acts like you've been leading him on.

NBC

20. Distant relatives ask you why you don't have a boyfriend yet.

FOX

21. When you first tell a straight girl that you're gay, they assume you're hitting on them.

TLC

22. And you can't have long nails.