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11 Fool-Proof Tips To Becoming The Man Of Every Filipina's Dreams

Paano maging ladies' man, as told by a lady herself.

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1. First step is basic: be nice!

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As in, genuinely nice—walang tinatagong motibo, pagnanasa, o expectation ng reciprocation. Just because you're nice to a girl doesn't mean she has to be nice to you "out of courtesy," or that she has to date you.

2. Keep in mind: girls don't owe you anything.

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Chivalry, being open about sexuality, or anything at all is never a free pass to solicit anything in exchange, whether it be sex or feelings or other material and immaterial things. You know, because girls don't owe you anything in exchange for your kindness, anyway.

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3. Listen to what she wants.

KZ Tandingan

And by that we mean listening to the things she isn't saying, as well. Hindi naman ibig sabihin nun na mag-assume ka agad, but what we mean is listen to both the cues and the words, then clarify to ask if that's what she wants.

4. END DISMISSIVE BEHAVIOR.

Kat Galang

"Is it that time of the month?" "Red tide ka na ba?" "Nag P-PMS ka ba?" and anything that otherwise implies that girls aren't entitled to feeling the way they do or that they think irrationally.

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7. AND YOUR ALCOHOL, TOO.

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"Basta may alak, may balak" MY ASS!!! If she's drinking, that's her choice! That's not an invitation. If you take advantage of someone when they're so far from sober and can't give consent, that's called rape.

8. Basically, NO MEANS NO.

Kris Aquino

NO does not mean "convince me," or "I'm playing hard to get." There is never a pass you can use to harass, rape, or abuse someone. Whether it comes to relationships, sex, or even just asking for her number: NO. MEANS. NO.

9. Take responsibility for your actions.

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If you do something that steps out of line, it's not that hard to apologize—your testosterone isn't an excuse. Once you offend or hurt someone, you're not in the position to decide whether or not you did.

10. NO MORE "BOYS WILL BE BOYS."

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It's difficult to erase the misogynistic ideals instilled in us by this wretched patriarchal society, but it's due time that we recognize that we dismantle gender roles and stereotypes (which will benefit you in the long run, too).