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Lesbians: Stereotypes Vs Reality

No one is the "man" in a lesbian relationship. Spoiler: They're both girls.

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1. Stereotype: In every lesbian couple there is a "man" and a "woman".

Reality: Butch can be with butch, femme with femme – or any of the other gender identities in between.

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2. Stereotype: Lesbians are super moody and sad all the time.

Reality: Lesbians have the same range of emotions as people of other sexualities.

3. Stereotype: Lesbian sex doesn't count as real sex.

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Reality: LOL, whatever.

4. Stereotype: Lesbians love dildos and use them all the time, because they have penis envy.

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Reality: Dildos are not a necessity, much like penises.

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5. Stereotype: Lesbians are always trying to "recruit" straight women to their "cause".

Reality: Straight women who get with lesbians aren't straight.

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6. Stereotype: All lesbians dress like men and have short hair.

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Reality: Not all lesbians, but when they do, it can be super hot.

7. Stereotype: Lesbians move in with each other on the second date.

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Reality: Oh em gee no, they have to date for at least a month.

8. Stereotype: Lesbian bed death.

Reality: Over time the passion fades in most relationships, gay and straight alike.

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9. Stereotype: Lesbians hate men.

Reality: Lesbians and men can be BFFs.

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10. Stereotype: Lesbians can't be friends with straight women without wanting to sleep with them.

Reality: Lesbians can actually be BFFs with all types of people!

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11. Stereotype: Lesbians will be up for a threesome with a straight couple.

Reality: Probably not.

12. Stereotype: Lesbians just haven't found the right guy yet.

Reality: Nope.

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But if a lesbian does fall for a guy...

13. Stereotype: All lesbians are into sports.

Reality: Lesbians' interests are as varied as everyone else's.

14. Stereotype: All lesbians love cats, Tegan and Sara, and The L Word.

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Reality: Not all lesbians, but lots, yes, and that's because those three things are fantastic.

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