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    Now That I'm An Adult, I'm Realizing That Rory And Lorelai From "Gilmore Girls" Are Actually Kinda Trash

    The apple does not fall far from the tree...

    In my youth, I admit, I was OBSESSED with Gilmore Girls. The witty repartee, the copious amounts of coffee, the unabashed mother-daughter relationship? I thought this was the GOLDEN AGE OF TELEVISION!

    Gilmore Girls has always been one of those shows that I constantly rewatched out of comfort or familiarity, but the older I got, the less and less I wanted to watch...

    ...and I'm realizing why: It's because Rory and Lorelai are, in a word, insufferable.

    Now, I didn't come to this conclusion lightly. It happened over time, but I did eventually arrive here. Allow me to provide you with all the reasons why:

    1. First, and most importantly, the PRIVILEGE is dripping off of these humans in DROVES:

    Rory flitting around their house saying how much she loves being a "private school girl"

    2. The fact that Lorelai puts up a fuss about having weekly dinners with her parents — which she often tries to get out of — in exchange for Rory's $50,000 A YEAR TUITION literally has steam coming out of my ears:

    Emily talking about being involved in Lorelai and Rory's life

    3. Also, when she did leave home — 16 and pregnant, mind you — she...didn't...tell...her...parents...where...she...was...:

    Emily tearing up at Lorelai's leaving home

    4. AND WHAT'S EVEN WORSE is that she was in the TOWN OVER!

    Emily confronting Lorelai about their past

    5. Still on the privilege train. I know that Harvard is a dream for a lot of kids growing up — especially us East Coast children — but I still do not understand why Lorelai was upset when Rory went to Yale:

    Lorelai boasting about how Rory is going to Harvard to her father

    6. Now, this isn't all about Lorelai. Rory is a culprit, too. One of the moments that sticks out to me is when Rory dropped out of Yale for a semester because Logan's dad said she didn't have what it takes to be a journalist:

    Mitchum Huntzberger telling Rory she's not good enough

    7. Also, one of the BIGGEST offenses, IMO, is this overall belief that Lorelai and especially Rory don't fit into this "elite world":

    Logan telling Rory that she's "one of them"

    Now, I can go on and on about the oodles of privilege between these two ladies, but we're gonna move on to their relationships and how they're bad at those as well.

    Rory being pretentious on a brown couch

    8. It's VERY clear that Lorelai has a crippling fear of commitment — which a lot of people suffer from — but that doesn't make it fair to drag other people into her issues:

    9. My goodness, her treatment of Christopher! Lorelai only goes for him when he's in a committed relationship:

    Lorelai talking about her relationship with Christopher to Rory; Lorelai and Christopher kissing

    10. And POOR LUKE! This man has been in love with her from the jump and she spent seven seasons and a reboot tossing this man back and forth:

    Luke asking Lorelai what he wants him to do

    11. Now, I understand that Rory didn't have the best example growing up, but some things should be obvious, not learned, like not sleeping with a married man:

    Rory getting caught sleeping with Dean

    12. And not obsessing over one person while dating a whole-ass other person...and then getting MAD AT AFOREMENTIONED PERSON when they try to move on:

    Rory kissing Jess; Dean breaking up with Rory because of her infatuation with Jess

    13. And taking responsibility for one's actions and not blaming bad behavior on the actions of others:

    Rory getting sentenced to 300 hours of community service

    14. It's not just their romantic relationships that they're bad at, but their family and friendships as well. I understand that Emily Gilmore isn't the easiest woman to get along with, but there are just some things you tell your mother. Like, IDK, getting married??

    Emily getting upset at Lorelai for not telling her she was getting married

    15. Or, at the very least, not push her to the point of discomfort and tears:

    Emily asking Lorelai to leave an establishment because she's uncomfortable

    16. Rory, even though she doesn't believe it, has the tendency to be self-involved and an awful friend:

    17. This all boils down to the fact that Rory and Lorelai have a toxic and codependent relationship that's more detrimental than helpful:

    Lorelai and Rory having a tif at Luke's diner

    All in all, Lorelai and Rory are certified trash™ and this woman RIGHT HERE should have been the star of the show:

    Paris telling Rory that she's not "cut out to deal with people"