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    Now That I'm An Adult, I'm Realizing That Rory And Lorelai From "Gilmore Girls" Are Actually Kinda Trash

    The apple does not fall far from the tree...

    In my youth, I admit, I was OBSESSED with Gilmore Girls. The witty repartee, the copious amounts of coffee, the unabashed mother-daughter relationship? I thought this was the GOLDEN AGE OF TELEVISION!

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    I, who was raised by Nigerian immigrants who came to America to make a better life for their children, thought that this is what ALL white families were like. Pizza for breakfast, oh my!

    Gilmore Girls has always been one of those shows that I constantly rewatched out of comfort or familiarity, but the older I got, the less and less I wanted to watch...

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    ...and I'm realizing why: It's because Rory and Lorelai are, in a word, insufferable.

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    Now, I didn't come to this conclusion lightly. It happened over time, but I did eventually arrive here. Allow me to provide you with all the reasons why:

    1. First, and most importantly, the PRIVILEGE is dripping off of these humans in DROVES:

    Rory flitting around their house saying how much she loves being a "private school girl"
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    Lorelai and Rory have this "woe is me; help me, I'm poor" mentality when:

    1. They live in a huge house.

    2. They constantly eat out instead of buying groceries.

    3. Even though they went to Emily and Richard for the full Chilton tuition, the fact that they even applied there β€” all with the hopes of getting Rory into Harvard β€” is one of the biggest privileges of all.

    2. The fact that Lorelai puts up a fuss about having weekly dinners with her parents β€” which she often tries to get out of β€” in exchange for Rory's $50,000 A YEAR TUITION literally has steam coming out of my ears:

    Emily talking about being involved in Lorelai and Rory's life
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    That's $150,000 in exchange for your parents wanting to have a better relationship with you. I am legit fuming and the fucking audacity.

    3. Also, when she did leave home β€” 16 and pregnant, mind you β€” she...didn't...tell...her...parents...where...she...was...:

    Emily tearing up at Lorelai's leaving home
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    I cannot imagine the size of Emily and Richard's ulcers. HOW DO YOU NOT TELL YOUR PARENTS WHERE YOU ARE/IF YOU AND THEIR GRANDCHILD ARE ALIVE INSTEAD OF DEAD IN A DITCH LIKE THEY PROBABLY THOUGHT YOU WERE???

    4. AND WHAT'S EVEN WORSE is that she was in the TOWN OVER!

    Emily confronting Lorelai about their past
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    The episode when Emily saw the shack that Rory and Lorelai lived in when they first moved to Stars Hollow broke me. (Season 1, episode 19, in case you were curious.)

    5. Still on the privilege train. I know that Harvard is a dream for a lot of kids growing up β€” especially us East Coast children β€” but I still do not understand why Lorelai was upset when Rory went to Yale:

    Lorelai boasting about how Rory is going to Harvard to her father
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    "I'm sorry" about your perceived childhood trauma that resulted in you hating your parents β€” not enough to not take their money, though β€” but you need to put that aside when it comes to your daughter who's just trying to make you proud and pick a college to go to.

    6. Now, this isn't all about Lorelai. Rory is a culprit, too. One of the moments that sticks out to me is when Rory dropped out of Yale for a semester because Logan's dad said she didn't have what it takes to be a journalist:

    Mitchum Huntzberger telling Rory she's not good enough
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    If you're gonna let one person's opinion define your future, then maybe you shouldn't be doing that thing.

    7. Also, one of the BIGGEST offenses, IMO, is this overall belief that Lorelai and especially Rory don't fit into this "elite world":

    Logan telling Rory that she's "one of them"
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    You went to a private high school, an Ivy League college, you were a debutant...this is the epitome of privilege β€” at least own up to it. Don't even! Get! Me! Started! on the unfair treatment of Logan in this series. Yes, he's rich and arrogant and self-involved β€” but he KNOWS it and owns up to it. I'm not gonna fault this man for knowing his own faults.

    Now, I can go on and on about the oodles of privilege between these two ladies, but we're gonna move on to their relationships and how they're bad at those as well.

    Rory being pretentious on a brown couch
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    The fact. That these words. Came out of this white woman's mouth...

    8. It's VERY clear that Lorelai has a crippling fear of commitment β€” which a lot of people suffer from β€” but that doesn't make it fair to drag other people into her issues:

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    Yes, I am talking about Max Medina. To put it mildly, she puts Max through the ringer when all he did was love her and ask her to read Proust.

    9. My goodness, her treatment of Christopher! Lorelai only goes for him when he's in a committed relationship:

    Lorelai talking about her relationship with Christopher to Rory; Lorelai and Christopher kissing
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    Chris isn't completely innocent either, but I don't think it's a coincidence that Lorelai suddenly rediscovered her feelings for Chris when things got a lil' rocky between him and Sherry.

    10. And POOR LUKE! This man has been in love with her from the jump and she spent seven seasons and a reboot tossing this man back and forth:

    Luke asking Lorelai what he wants him to do
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    Rarely do I take the side of straight men, but I am #TeamLuke.

    11. Now, I understand that Rory didn't have the best example growing up, but some things should be obvious, not learned, like not sleeping with a married man:

    Rory getting caught sleeping with Dean
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    I.e. Dean.

    12. And not obsessing over one person while dating a whole-ass other person...and then getting MAD AT AFOREMENTIONED PERSON when they try to move on:

    Rory kissing Jess; Dean breaking up with Rory because of her infatuation with Jess
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    I.e. Jess.

    13. And taking responsibility for one's actions and not blaming bad behavior on the actions of others:

    Rory getting sentenced to 300 hours of community service
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    I.e. Logan.

    14. It's not just their romantic relationships that they're bad at, but their family and friendships as well. I understand that Emily Gilmore isn't the easiest woman to get along with, but there are just some things you tell your mother. Like, IDK, getting married??

    Emily getting upset at Lorelai for not telling her she was getting married
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    In what world do you think you're in the right when it comes to this situation? A world I don't want to live in, that's where!

    15. Or, at the very least, not push her to the point of discomfort and tears:

    Emily asking Lorelai to leave an establishment because she's uncomfortable
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    WHEN EMILY CRIES, I CRY!

    16. Rory, even though she doesn't believe it, has the tendency to be self-involved and an awful friend:

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    MOSTLY to Lane. It's like Rory totally forgot about Lane when she started rubbing elbows with the scandalous children of Connecticut's elite.

    17. This all boils down to the fact that Rory and Lorelai have a toxic and codependent relationship that's more detrimental than helpful:

    Lorelai and Rory having a tif at Luke's diner
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    If I ever alluded to the fact that my mom was a bitch...TBH, you know that never happened, because I am still alive to write this very article. This is why parents shouldn't be friends with their kids when they're kids; wait 'til y'all are both legally allowed to drink before you become BFFs.

    All in all, Lorelai and Rory are certified trashβ„’ and this woman RIGHT HERE should have been the star of the show:

    Paris telling Rory that she's not "cut out to deal with people"
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    Broke: Gilmore Girls. Woke: The Geller Girl.

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