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Which Scene From A Movie Or Show Changed Your Definition Of Romance And Relationships?

Love, Rosie just rewired my brain in all its entirety.

One thing I love the most about watching a movie or TV show is the ~romance~. Yeah, sure, the main plot and overall theme is important (I guess), but when two beloved characters finally get together after moments and moments of palpable tension and yearning??? Pure magic.

"Rosie Dunne, can I take you to the dance?"

And NGL, a lot of the concepts and ideas I learned about romance came from what I saw in TV shows and movies. Sure, there are a lot of cringey tropes and "unrealistic" standards, but when you grow up not really having a clear visual of what healthy romantic love is supposed to look like, you make do with what ya got!

"Hear this now: I will always come for you."

That said, if you've ever watched a scene from a movie or TV show that redefined the way you think about romantic expectations or relationships in general, I wanna know!

Maybe it was when you watched The Notebook, and Noah wrote to Allie every single day because he couldn't fathom not being able to communicate with her.

"You wrote me?"

Maybe your romantic expectations changed while you were watching Crazy Rich Asians, when Nick followed Rachel onto her flight and proposed (again), despite his mother's initial disapproval.

"Wherever you are in the world, that's where I belong."

Or maybe it was during Heartstopper, when Nick and Charlie screamed to the world that they were together, without any apologies or embarrassment attached.

"We're boyfriends!"

Heck, it can even be from a non-romantic movie, like The Hunger Games. When Peeta ran to Katniss's room knowing she was having nightmares and stayed the night with her? My heart.

"Peeta, will you stay with me?"

In fact, it could even be a scene where the couple was so toxic for each other, you knew that's what you didn't want — like Blair and Chuck from Gossip Girl. Like, for example, when Chuck slept with Jenny, knowing Blair didn't like her, to get revenge.

"Hey, some people don't get the offer."

No matter what, if there was a scene from a movie or TV show that just resonated with you and made you re-evaluate your expectations for romance and relationships, I wanna know! And don't be afraid to spill all the deets — I'm genuinely curious to know which scene it was, why, and how it made you feel. Let me know in the comments, or you can fill out this Google form for a chance to be featured in an upcoming BuzzFeed Community post!